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Miss10 wrote:My mother is forever forcing me into a never ending xagbad, so I have something to fall back on Alhamdulilah. Why don't you sit your parents down and discuss with them your goals and aspirations for the future.


Best of luck.

Dont trust xagbad how many stories we heard ladies stealing the money,gold ,etc

Hilaac21 wrote:

Miss10 wrote:My mother is forever forcing me into a never ending xagbad, so I have something to fall back on Alhamdulilah. Why don't you sit your parents down and discuss with them your goals and aspirations for the future.


Best of luck.

Qué es xagbad?

*hagbad.

Married ppl do not escape the pressure it actually gets worst. I refuse to give ppl that can work money laziness shall not be rewarded

Tell your parents put me in a hagbad otherwise fuck off waxba haa ii waydiin

Secret women that steal hagbads are shamed its hard for them to join one in the future

EvolSyawla wrote:Have your 50 children inshallah, but you better work hard to feed and clothe and educate each one of them. That's the point alot of these Somalis (in Somali lands) are missing nowadays...

I am sure we will work had to overcome any challenges. I've never understood why westerners are so stingy with children and yet they have so much money. I know Rent is expensive, but isn't food cheaper?

How much food can a child eat? For example, if one can dedicate $1000 per month, he can feed 40 children with basic meals.

EvolSyawla wrote:Have your 50 children inshallah, but you better work hard to feed and clothe and educate each one of them. That's the point alot of these Somalis (in Somali lands) are missing nowadays...

My sentiments exactly, if you are going to have children please establish a way that involves tending to their needs that doesn't involve me and my money.

Somali mentality your money is my money to

SecretAgent: Lets not forget the murder of a woman in Hargeisa for coming to a womans house to pick up an annuity. She was chopped up and buried in the crazy lady's backyard.

Beyond: Rent and food are not the only expenses. Most Somali parents aren't able to afford much else since they are welfare families. It is also harder to have a lot of children, because school and home clothes, supplies and fees (school trips, that whole registration stuff), food, etc. Easily providing for 10 kids in Canada means you have a VERY well paying job. Or they're wearing ugly hand-me-downs and clothes they got from the thrift-shop or whatever poorer families do to keep afloat, may Allah make it easier on them.

Somali lands are fine if you want a family that large and minimal stress, so long as you can provide for them. Tired of seeing deadbeat dads.

AishahWaqooyi wrote:Married ppl do not escape the pressure it actually gets worst. I refuse to give ppl that can work money laziness shall not be rewarded

Tell your parents put me in a hagbad otherwise fuck off waxba haa ii waydiin

Secret women that steal hagbads are shamed its hard for them to join one in the future

Inantu waa miskiinad..waxa kuma dhacdo inay tidhaah waalidked..mana fiicna runtii.Waa ina markasta waalidka la xaq dhowro si kasta oy kaaga gar daran yehii.Khaladu ugu weyn ay samaysay waa, mushaharkeedi bay reerka oo sheegtay.Haday 20.000 qaadato inay 10.000 baan qaata ku tidhaah bay aheyd. Waxan oo mashaakil ah lamay kulantenba hada.

missB: hooyada runta oo sheeg..lacagtan subax kasta ayaad oo kacda..nin iyo naag waligood subax kicin lacag laguma khasaariyo.Dadka wadankiina lazynimada ayyan ku nacay.Niman xoogogi qaba oo raba inay caruurtooda lo biilayo.

MissBonita wrote:

EvolSyawla wrote:Have your 50 children inshallah, but you better work hard to feed and clothe and educate each one of them. That's the point alot of these Somalis (in Somali lands) are missing nowadays...

My sentiments exactly, if you are going to have children please establish a way that involves tending to their needs that doesn't involve me and my money.

I think you are being weak here. Just tell them you don't have enough money. In the middle of the month (If you are paid monthly,) try to call people and beg the for money. Keep begging people around you knowing that they will not give you. Tell them you are in a huge debt (which is true. You owe yourself some money.) Since many people love gossiping, they'll tell people that Bonita is so broke nowadays. That will help and they will back off.

EvolSyawla wrote:SecretAgent: Lets not forget the murder of a woman in Hargeisa for coming to a womans house to pick up an annuity. She was chopped up and buried in the crazy lady's backyard.

Beyond: Rent and food are not the only expenses. Most Somali parents aren't able to afford much else since they are welfare families. It is also harder to have a lot of children, because school and home clothes, supplies and fees (school trips, that whole registration stuff), food, etc. Easily providing for 10 kids in Canada means you have a VERY well paying job. Or they're wearing ugly hand-me-downs and clothes they got from the thrift-shop or whatever poorer families do to keep afloat, may Allah make it easier on them.

Somali lands are fine if you want a family that large and minimal stress, so long as you can provide for them. Tired of seeing deadbeat dads.

I think life is cheap in Africa. No wonder US ambassadors here have refused to go back. In fact, the former British ambassador didn't want to go back home until the govt forced him to

Yet another reason to avoid marying into the cursed somali culture, imagine your inlaws asking you for money constantly.....sorry but no.

BeyondQabil wrote:

MissBonita wrote:

EvolSyawla wrote:Have your 50 children inshallah, but you better work hard to feed and clothe and educate each one of them. That's the point alot of these Somalis (in Somali lands) are missing nowadays...

My sentiments exactly, if you are going to have children please establish a way that involves tending to their needs that doesn't involve me and my money.

I think you are being weak here. Just tell them you don't have enough money. In the middle of the month (If you are paid monthly,) try to call people and beg the for money. Keep begging people around you knowing that they will not give you. Tell them you are in a huge debt (which is true. You owe yourself some money.) Since many people love gossiping, they'll tell people that Bonita is so broke nowadays. That will help and they will back off.

LMAO! Thanks for making me laugh but that is definitely not an option.

lol i have learned my lesson that biil thingy will make the folks back home dependent on you forever. I only send cash to my first uncles , grandpa and ayeeyo's. fock the rest it's not ike i'm UN or something. If i see a phone number starting with 2526 i don't even answer it. walahi they are a pain in the ass

I support with your hooyo's Halhays of: Adduunkaa wax laysku taraa; ee Akhiro wax laysuma tarro". If you can support 1 or 2 or a "whole village" for that matter do so. If you can't then you can. After all those whom you are extending your hand are non other than your immediate families and their families, which are still your immediate relatives. You can still have a ton of $$ while you're supporting your extended family back home without stingy. Being generous here and there won't deplete your bank if you put your brain in agreed mode and make it operate that way. You may be penniless and lose all that you have tomorrow and who knows and one that you had helped yesterday may be your savior at a time when you're in dire need of help.

Thanks to the advice here I cut off 2 families (13 kids each) back home this week that were leeching off us for 20 years