Childless people: your opinion?

[Hyperactive]

Geo, no thank you, exchancing body fluid, Not for me. I adore my personal space. Not for me man!

[Corruption1]

if you are 30+ and have no kids, waa lagugu khasaarey

[GeoSeven]

Geo, no thank you, exchancing ...... Not for me. I adore my personal space. Not for me man!

I will never make sense of it but I respect your choice.

[YummyMummy]

Geo, no thank you, exchancing body fluid, Not for me. I adore my personal space. Not for me man!

That's disgusting, why are you putting it like that?

At least you explained your reasons why though. Jasminder, what do you mean they're not for everyone? I would like you to expand on that.

All the best GeoSeven, PO and Amira. Amira, even though a woman can't tell if she's fertile, the Prophet SAW said (when a man asked) that we should refer back to how many kids her mum & her aunties (female relatives) have had. Not a guarantee of course as it's always down to Allah, but it's a good starting point.


Julkimi how many do you want to have? Or if you're against it, why?

[Hyperactive]

Lol yummy, I know that is what put me off when ever I think of marriage. It sounds nasty but subhanaAllah God created for us. Just not for me. Lol

I would happily adopt kids financially tho.

[1nemansquad]

those of us who have children, love them and appreciate the fact that they are a blessing should learn to respect the choices of those who don't share our same views and values. much like anything else in life..

hyper, i promise you when you have a child inn shaa allah; you will be eating your words..

[visious]

Having children is not an obligation . It's more about choice

infact it should be discouraged in third world countries because it is a direct cause of poverty in many African countries including Somalia.

people (in developed countries) dont like having kids because they dont like the work you'll have to put in when a mini you come out.

but since I want to have kids , here's what I think is best for me and my kids (if I get any)

• -having kids in your mid-late 30s.
  -having no more than 2-3 kids
  -making sure they are at-most 12 months apart

[BlackVelvet]

YM, children are a massive commitment, you can't take them back to the shop, you can't get a divorce. They're there, forever, wanting something from you. Your time, your energy, your this, your that. Some people have kids without thinking about this too much and for them it's just another part of life but for some people being conscious of all the related obligations can be overwhelming.

[Hyperactive]

I agree with jasmine, plus kids won't stay cute, they grow and become people , have opinion that may clash with yours. Loose control, I hate loosing control!

[MujahidAishah]

Control freak

[SultanOrder]

Hyper you are the people who need to take things one day at a time. Like you always say tawakallah, this is a great opportunity to test your patience and trust.

[YummyMummy]

those of us who have children, love them and appreciate the fact that they are a blessing should learn to respect the choices of those who don't share our same views and values. much like anything else in life..

It's not disrespecting their viewpoint to disagree with it or enquire about their reasoning, don't you think?

Having children is not an obligation . It's more about choice

infact it should be discouraged in third world countries because it is a direct cause of poverty in many African countries including Somalia.

people (in developed countries) dont like having kids because they dont like the work you'll have to put in when a mini you come out.

but since I want to have kids , here's what I think is best for me and my kids (if I get any)

• -having kids in your mid-late 30s.
  -having no more than 2-3 kids
  -making sure they are at-most 12 months apart

I believe that risq for children shouldn't be a factor in whether to have them or not, or (unfortunately wal ciyaadu billaah) whether to abort or give them away.
But your plans are alright, Make that 2yrs apart though.

YM, children are a massive commitment, you can't take them back to the shop, you can't get a divorce. They're there, forever, wanting something from you. Your time, your energy, your this, your that. Some people have kids without thinking about this too much and for them it's just another part of life but for some people being conscious of all the related obligations can be overwhelming.

Divorce and kids aren't connected and shouldn't be. Divorce is ending a contract, to put it bluntly. Children are your blood, for life. Can't end that.
Yes it's a huge responsibility, but you're over-complicating it. Only Allah knows what one can or cannot handle, and as you grow together your strength, experience and bond grows together. There's much reward and countless blessings enveloped in the hardships of being a parent. People had it a lot harder in the past and they managed just fine.

PO: great advice to Hyper. Besides Hyper, didn't you just narrate to me that aayah in Surah Baqarah "you may love something when it is bad for you, and you may hate something when it is good for you"

[STARKAST]

Your put on this earth to procreate. Anything less and you are a failed human being, this is specially true for woman.

[BlackVelvet]

That's what I mean, you can't end the contract of being a parent. When someone who isn't ready or who isn't fit to become a parent has a child then things can end very badly for that kid. So yeah, not for everyone.

[YummyMummy]

Your put on this earth to procreate. Anything less and you are a failed human being, this is specially true for woman.

So if Allah decreed 50,000 before he created anything apart from the pen, that you should be barren, you failed?