Married At First Sight

[Lillaahiya]

So I actually decided to watch the trailer, and my conclusion is thus: rehashing something old in a new package. It's only a novelty in west to have arranged marriages but people have been doing this for thousands of years. Anyways, what I noticed is that they are all good looking, in shape people. When it was mentioned one of them was in "The Bachelor" my first reaction was actor, the show is staged.

I love it when people look to other cultures and take a tradition out of its cultural and economic context and think it will work elsewhere. India has a low divorce rate. Maybe they're onto something with this arranged marriage thing. No, India has a low divorce rate because the the cultural stigma and economic consequences of getting divorced for most people in that country. Take away those things, and people in India would be getting divorced just as much as any other country. Possibly more. Although in reality, they'd probably just be refusing arranged marriages in the first place, because there's no need to get married

So yall think this arranged marriage bidniz is "new" to the West? We forgetting that cadaan people have been 'doing this for thousands of years' too? Romantic love is a contemporary concept for almost everyone on this planet, it's simply 'older' to others who started practicing it first.

When I found out she was on the Bachelor, I too but I will still watch the finale

[SultanOrder]

[Lillaahiya]

[SultanOrder]

[Sophisticate]

The problem these days is people have the illusion of choice and "infinite possibilities" with regard to a prospective mate in the west. Many people are scared of commitment with one-foot on the gas and another on the break. Funny thing is people go through motions all the time and have pangs of doubt. However, some are more akin to jumping ship than working through it. Anyway, Lil I sat through an episode or two and began a process of authentic self-examination. - Not for me.

[Malachite]

I mean most people get on pretty well with their partner good before they marry, and most talk in detail about the future and realize they have similar ambitions in life and outlooks, in addition to compatible personalities. And plenty still get divorced, because people change, feelings change and situations change. I'd hardly say that filling in a short survey and having some "experts" pick a partner for you( in this case the op) is going to lead to better results than spending years actually going out with someone first.

The reality is that in any relationship where both partners are independently able to create wealth, and there's no stigma about being a divorced person, there's no reason (other than maybe kids) to stay together with someone you're not happy with.

For a poor Indian woman who got married at 18 and has no education, this simply isn't the case. She has to put up with the shitty marriage or risk spending the rest of her life scraping a living, most likely with no prospect of ever finding love again. It's hardly surprising that the divorce rate is lower. That's why it always make me laugh when people in developing countries blame "Western influence" for the rising divorce rate. It's nothing to do with Western influence, it's the influence of money, education and particularly the freedom that it brings to women. And that's why it's seen as such a terrible thing by conservative men.

[eliteSomali]

Sounds a lot like arranged married except the matching part. Question, how do the niggas who do the matching know all about you? Surely there are some things you like in the opposite gender that you cannot share with others because it is private. teeda kale can't imagine the questions that go to the person's mind as they try to picture what their soon to be husband/wife looks and acts like.

[Sophisticate]

I mean most people get on pretty well with their partner good before they marry, and most talk in detail about the future and realize they have similar ambitions in life and outlooks, in addition to compatible personalities. And plenty still get divorced, because people change, feelings change and situations change. I'd hardly say that filling in a short survey and having some "experts" pick a partner for you( in this case the op) is going to lead to better results than spending years actually going out with someone first.

The reality is that in any relationship where both partners are independently able to create wealth, and there's no stigma about being a divorced person, there's no reason (other than maybe kids) to stay together with someone you're not happy with.

For a poor Indian woman who got married at 18 and has no education, this simply isn't the case. She has to put up with the shitty marriage or risk spending the rest of her life scraping a living, most likely with no prospect of ever finding love again. It's hardly surprising that the divorce rate is lower. That's why it always make me laugh when people in developing countries blame "Western influence" for the rising divorce rate. It's nothing to do with Western influence, it's the influence of money, education and particularly the freedom that it brings to women. And that's why it's seen as such a terrible thing by conservative men.

Some people can fake it through the interview, get the job and well after the probationary period still remain exemplary employees, until they get comfortable enough to reveal their authentic (lazy) selves. Perhaps you never really knew them to being with. It could have been their social self until you are hit with reality.

Hey how about the marital outcomes for well-to-do Indians that have arranged marriages. Let's take it a step further, what if their families provide enough leeway? My bad, divorce is a social stigma. Cultural context provides a foundation for solid marriages. Drat.

[original dervish]

I can't stand these type of shows.

[Lillaahiya]

So two couples remained together after the experiment and one couple split. Can't wait for season two