Would you marry someone that your family.

[Marques]

My Dad keeps telling me he's more likely to get Married twice more before i find someone. Nigga always telling me i'm no good

[EvolSyawla]

Machiavelli +100 points.

I would. It's not doomed and once hooyo and aabo see that he is worthy of their daughter, and he makes that effort to keep the family happy, it should be fine.

With unstable, irrational and selfish parents of course there will be boundless drama. There will be an issue no matter how much a man loves her and takes care of all her needs....But thank god my parents aren't like that.

[TheblueNwhite]

Done it, divorced her and I don't regret it.

My parents will have to accept whoever I bring home! it is a reality!

[0sman]

If my family is going to sleep with my woman and impregnate her then they can choose her otherwise it's none of their motherfucking business.

[thehappyone]

[GeoSeven]

If she doesn't pass moms screening test...that's just a shame

[afisoone]

There is young lady who loved and wanted to marry high school friend who used to be a taxi driver. I know that guy and the lady. The guy was very responsible and wanted to have family. The family rejected. She choose her family decision. Her family gave her another guy with good job but divorced each other in 9 months. She married another man and he also divorced her in 4 months. Each time she got divorced she was pregnant. Now she is raising those two kids with different fathers.

Her high school friend he is still bachelor. I asked him the other day why you still bachelor. he told me I put a lot of time on former high school friend but I never thought that nothing stops us between me and her to get marry. But once I find out her decision to follow her parents,my heart was broken. I never trusted any woman after that woman. I have many girlfriends but I break up before it gets into my heart like her.

I asked about her because I know they still friends... They both my friends too...

He told me this.. He said

She told me that her first husband divorced me when I talk about you and how I used to love you. The second husband divorced me because I couldn't stop talking about you. .

So I told him why you not marry her now. he said this

My hatric toward her and her family is so deep that I can't even describe to you.

So I asked him why you still communicate with her. I saw you the other day you both talking to each other in Downtown Mineapolis. That is where she works and he takes her by his taxi.

He said to me this..

I am pretending that I was find with her earlier decision of rejecting our marriage. If I cut her off, she will know my heart was broken.

I told him I see.... Which I didn't like that behaviour. I don't communicate with my old girlfriends. I don't hide my hatric any lady who lied to me.
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[MoAwr]

There is young lady who loved and wanted to marry high school friend who used to be a taxi driver. I know that guy and the lady. The guy was very responsible and wanted to have family. The family rejected. She choose her family decision. Her family gave her another guy with good job but divorced each other in 9 months. She married another man and he also divorced her in 4 months. Each time she got divorced she was pregnant. Now she is raising those two kids with different fathers.

Her high school friend he is still bachelor. I asked him the other day why you still bachelor. he told me I put a lot of time on former high school friend but I never thought that nothing stops us between me and her to get marry. But once I find out her decision to follow her parents,my heart was broken. I never trusted any woman after that woman. I have many girlfriends but I break up before it gets into my heart like her.

I asked about her because I know they still friends... They both my friends too...

He told me this.. He said

She told me that her first husband divorced me when I talk about you and how I used to love you. The second husband divorced me because I couldn't stop talking about you. .

So I told him why you not marry her now. he said this

My hatric toward her and her family is so deep that I can't even describe to you.

So I asked him why you still communicate with her. I saw you the other day you both talking to each other in Downtown Mineapolis. That is where she works and he takes her by his taxi.

He said to me this..

I am pretending that I was find with her earlier decision of rejecting our marriage. If I cut her off, she will know my heart was broken.

I told him I see.... Which I didn't like that behaviour. I don't communicate with my old girlfriends. I don't hide my hatric any lady who lied to me.
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is this shiiiii, sxb are you writing a script for sooraan n jawaan

[EvolSyawla]

lol @ lied. She followed her parents decision. She was trying to be a good girl.

[Amira143]

There is young lady who loved and wanted to marry high school friend who used to be a taxi driver. I know that guy and the lady. The guy was very responsible and wanted to have family. The family rejected. She choose her family decision. Her family gave her another guy with good job but divorced each other in 9 months. She married another man and he also divorced her in 4 months. Each time she got divorced she was pregnant. Now she is raising those two kids with different fathers.

Her high school friend he is still bachelor. I asked him the other day why you still bachelor. he told me I put a lot of time on former high school friend but I never thought that nothing stops us between me and her to get marry. But once I find out her decision to follow her parents,my heart was broken. I never trusted any woman after that woman. I have many girlfriends but I break up before it gets into my heart like her.

I asked about her because I know they still friends... They both my friends too...

He told me this.. He said

She told me that her first husband divorced me when I talk about you and how I used to love you. The second husband divorced me because I couldn't stop talking about you. .

So I told him why you not marry her now. he said this

My hatric toward her and her family is so deep that I can't even describe to you.

So I asked him why you still communicate with her. I saw you the other day you both talking to each other in Downtown Mineapolis. That is where she works and he takes her by his taxi.

He said to me this..

I am pretending that I was find with her earlier decision of rejecting our marriage. If I cut her off, she will know my heart was broken.

I told him I see.... Which I didn't like that behaviour. I don't communicate with my old girlfriends. I don't hide my hatric any lady who lied to me.
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That's so heartbreaking walahi! But if he truly loved her nothing would be able to stop him from attaining her.



For me, I love and respect my parents more than anything and I know they love me and trust me to make coherent decisions regarding such. I know they would never deny me my choice.


Islamically though they have to have a perfectly reasonable reason as to why they would refuse someone in the first place.

[MoAwr]

Islamically though they have to have a perfectly reasonable reason as to why they would refuse someone in the first place.

And what would that be ?

[Reacher]

If she doesn't pass moms screening test...that's just a shame

What are you saying? you would marry your choice regardless and mom can get over her unjustified disappointment? I count you as fiercely independent based on your forum contributions. You don't seem to have the sheep mentality prevalent on here and in our culture. Will you clarify your stance?


Machiavelli brilliantly touched on the fundamental flaws in our society. What a beautiful observation! This crippling culture of Elder dependency for important decisions goes beyond marriages in its negative impact. It plagues our society in all fronts. This is why we aren't getting anywhere at all. The sheep mentality reigns supreme and people are happy to sign on to it as if it is God mandated.

LoveAlways

You are consistent in your consequential ideals. May Allah grant you all that you wish and more sweetheart.



Sulfur, Machiavelli, Osman and to any man out there who can make his own important decisions

Women do better with men who are decisive and independent. If a guy needs his parent's permission to marry the woman of his choice, he shouldn't get married at all. The woman deserves better.

[BlackVelvet]

There is young lady who loved and wanted to marry high school friend who used to be a taxi driver. I know that guy and the lady. The guy was very responsible and wanted to have family. The family rejected. She choose her family decision. Her family gave her another guy with good job but divorced each other in 9 months. She married another man and he also divorced her in 4 months. Each time she got divorced she was pregnant. Now she is raising those two kids with different fathers.

Her high school friend he is still bachelor. I asked him the other day why you still bachelor. he told me I put a lot of time on former high school friend but I never thought that nothing stops us between me and her to get marry. But once I find out her decision to follow her parents,my heart was broken. I never trusted any woman after that woman. I have many girlfriends but I break up before it gets into my heart like her.

I asked about her because I know they still friends... They both my friends too...

He told me this.. He said

She told me that her first husband divorced me when I talk about you and how I used to love you. The second husband divorced me because I couldn't stop talking about you. .

So I told him why you not marry her now. he said this

My hatric toward her and her family is so deep that I can't even describe to you.

So I asked him why you still communicate with her. I saw you the other day you both talking to each other in Downtown Mineapolis. That is where she works and he takes her by his taxi.

He said to me this..

I am pretending that I was find with her earlier decision of rejecting our marriage. If I cut her off, she will know my heart was broken.

I told him I see.... Which I didn't like that behaviour. I don't communicate with my old girlfriends. I don't hide my hatric any lady who lied to me.
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Xasidsana ninka, what kind of love is that?

[GeoSeven]

Reacher, she can get over her unjustified disappointment. Joke aside, knowing my mother, it's difficult to imagine anybody I bring that she would disapprove of.

There are only two reasons I could think of for why a persons family might object to a marriage. Either the family is somewhat collectively irrational or the suggested partner is wicked beyond measure and the person is uncritically fond of them to notice.

[Sophisticate]

Is there some kind of consensus here? Is there something wrong with someone who respects their parents wishes and denies someone marriage? --- Chances are you'll be doing the screening process first, your parents may also have some insider knowledge about the family's background or dynamics. They can play a critical role in this decision. I don't think we are mindless cogs following our parents orders because we lack the psychological fortitude to make our own decisions. Keep in mind, that we come from a collectivist cultural not one predicated on individualism (western world). Hence you are intrinsically linked to your family, call it co-dependent or spoon feeding if you want. You are not the only one to put up with this person, they don't merely marry you but they marry your family as well.

I've heard of a some cases where the person goes ahead and marries the individual that their parents refuse, only to be disappointed with the outcome of the marriage. I'm talking about reasonable parents not dysfunctional ones or those plagued with tribal baggage that clouds their decision making .

For goodness sake there are plenty of fish in the sea. To you hopeless romantics if its love you want, then you can love again if you allow yourself.