How do you marry your personal identity/Somali identity

[BlackVelvet]

Doesnt bother as much as it used to.I am me regardless of what identity that might follow.I go around with that idea,forgot it and get reminded by reality once a month at dahabshiil.

You might end up with a macawis wearing farax who will remind you ever day

[Alshabaibe]

So true BV, its a constant in our lives. The neo-pantheistic folks never fail though, theirs is a pronounced form of undiagnosed 'somali issues'

Btw, wlc back Alshabaibe....We are in the finals

Thanks!

Tho?? No way!!!! Thought you'd neglected it too. I have to dig up the password.
It was all you.

What happened to your nick? I barely recognize the place, much less the names.

[Bella18]

I drove in my baati once it felt liberating though no one could see me

I don't mind relationship themed hijacking it gives any and all threads a bit of spice

So on that note have you ever been hit on while wearing a baati

Not long ago, some fella yelled out 'walaaleey dhaqan xumada magaalada ka daa' . That didn't stop me from wearing it.

As for the relationship twist, oday 15 sano ka wayn maad guursan lahayd adigu if he ticked all the boxes and looked young for his age?

[Tuushi]

Everyday Bv? iga daa.

But i do love my baati during warm seasons.Nothing feels better than rocking baati on a warm night while running to buy some Popsicle.

Hy Alshabaibe.Habari ya maisha?

[TheMightyNomad]

I don't live my life looking for other peoples' validation. If you feel conflicted or embarrassed about being a Somali, there's alway "East African".

Looool! Thats what somali girls write down as their ethnicity and nationality on social media!

[LiquidHYDROGEN]

I don't live my life looking for other peoples' validation. If you feel conflicted or embarrassed about being a Somali, there's alway "East African".

So how about just you. How do you view Somalia and its status. When something negative happens how does that affect you and how do you process it?

The way I see it is, if an cadaan can avoid feeling bad and embarrassed about all the crazy shit cadaans do, why should I be subjected to collective guilt?

If bad things happen or a Somali does something stupid, I'm embarrassed because I hold myself and my people to high moral standards. I'm not Interested in being a model minority.

[Firefly]

Alhamdulillah for being Somali. I don't really care much about how others perceive me or my people. However, that doesn't mean that I choose to turn a blind eye to the problems in our community, there are things that need to be improved, rectified or shunned..but still alhamdulillah cala kulli xaal. There's no group without faults.

[TheMightyNomad]

I don't live my life looking for other peoples' validation. If you feel conflicted or embarrassed about being a Somali, there's alway "East African".

So how about just you. How do you view Somalia and its status. When something negative happens how does that affect you and how do you process it?

The way I see it is, if an cadaan can avoid feeling bad and embarrassed about all the crazy shit cadaans do, why should I be subjected to collective guilt?

If bad things happen or a Somali does something stupid, I'm embarrassed because I hold myself and my people to high moral standards. I'm not Interested in being a model minority.

Ima try and translate what she is trying to Say bro.

"She asking if you can sympathize with her discomfort and distain for being somali"

[Alshabaibe]

Everyday Bv? iga daa.

But i do love my baati during warm seasons.Nothing feels better than rocking baati on a warm night while running to buy some Popsicle.

Hy Alshabaibe.Habari ya maisha?

Safi kabisa alhamdulilah. Vp wewe? Baridi ishawapita?

[BlackVelvet]

Alhamdulillah for being Somali. I don't really care much about how others perceive me or my people. However, that doesn't mean that I choose to turn a blind eye to the problems in our community, there are things that need to be improved, rectified or shunned..but still alhamdulillah cala kulli xaal. There's no group without faults.

OMG what is happening today

Firefly another SNetter has come back wow did you all get a memo or something

Welcome back

[BlackVelvet]

I drove in my baati once it felt liberating though no one could see me

I don't mind relationship themed hijacking it gives any and all threads a bit of spice

So on that note have you ever been hit on while wearing a baati

Not long ago, some fella yelled out 'walaaleey dhaqan xumada magaalada ka daa' . That didn't stop me from wearing it.

As for the relationship twist, oday 15 sano ka wayn maad guursan lahayd adigu if he ticked all the boxes and looked young for his age?

15 sano, age aint nothing but a number. But on top the other boxes I'd expect him to be 15 times more successful than the guys my age. What's the point of a sugga daddy without the sugga

[Firefly]

Alhamdulillah for being Somali. I don't really care much about how others perceive me or my people. However, that doesn't mean that I choose to turn a blind eye to the problems in our community, there are things that need to be improved, rectified or shunned..but still alhamdulillah cala kulli xaal. There's no group without faults.

OMG what is happening today

Firefly another SNetter has come back wow did you all get a memo or something

Welcome back

Thank you BV. It's great to see some familiar faces. How you been sis?

[BlackVelvet]

I don't live my life looking for other peoples' validation. If you feel conflicted or embarrassed about being a Somali, there's alway "East African".

So how about just you. How do you view Somalia and its status. When something negative happens how does that affect you and how do you process it?

The way I see it is, if an cadaan can avoid feeling bad and embarrassed about all the crazy shit cadaans do, why should I be subjected to collective guilt?

If bad things happen or a Somali does something stupid, I'm embarrassed because I hold myself and my people to high moral standards. I'm not Interested in being a model minority.

So your way of processing it is putting it into context; all ethnicities are screwed up in their own ways

Ima try and translate what she is trying to Say bro.

"She asking if you can sympathize with her discomfort and distain for being somali"

I don't believe we've met

If you are curious to know why I started the thread you could just ask. I want to understand how different people who are on the same (Somali) boat find/don't find peace with their identity and its unique challenges. Some will go on to lead healthy lives, some are writing hateful things about their people online, some like you jump down people's throats possibly to make themselves feel like they are doing something to help their people...

Is there one path that leads to healthy way of processing the situation all Somalis and all immigrants from war torn countries find themselves in?

Call it academic curiosity as for my view on Somalinimo, maybe you'll understand more if you pay closer attention before you jump to conclusions

[BlackVelvet]

Alhamdulillah for being Somali. I don't really care much about how others perceive me or my people. However, that doesn't mean that I choose to turn a blind eye to the problems in our community, there are things that need to be improved, rectified or shunned..but still alhamdulillah cala kulli xaal. There's no group without faults.

OMG what is happening today

Firefly another SNetter has come back wow did you all get a memo or something

Welcome back

Thank you BV. It's great to see some familiar faces. How you been sis?

Good alxamdulillah, it's good to see people make an appearance, feels like old times

How have you been? Quite a few people left and those who haven't changed their names (you can do that now) so it's hard to know who is who

[Basra-]

That you are Somali is a fact


That Somalia for whatever reason (which is beyond the scope of this thread) is not doing that great is a fact


That further to being Somali we are divided along qabiil lines and sub qabiil and sub sub qabiil etc is also a fact


Then there's you, the individual with your likes and dislikes and how you like to eat your food, what you like to talk about with your friends, how you act around someone you like and what you want out of life


How do you marry the outside world's perception of "Somali" and your own identity as one of those people. Do you think of the outside noise as positive or negative?


Do you filter out any negativity so that what you hear/see about them remains in-line with your idea of what it means to be Somali

Do you accept the good and the bad and just disassociate yourself with the whole Somali thing and see yourself as an outside observer looking in

Do you take all the negatives and place it squarely on another qabiil so that the difficult and the ugly has nothing to do with you - it's those other Somalis

Do you just stay away from Somalis all together and live your life such that being Somali is a fact like your hair colour which doesn't have any real significance in your day to day life


You're probably not conscious of what you do but if you were to observe yourself, which category do you think you fall into. Or have I left out something else that you do instead?

You lost me at "Individualism" Somalis do not know the concept of individualism. They identify as a group, either Clan or Islam. Individualism is a western privilege concept. Someone who is westernized and is civilized is an individual!