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BlackVelvet wrote:Thanks Menace


Side note

Do married couples ever really and truly open up to each other even if it's about themselves. Considering anything you say can and may be used against you

...a wise man should never expose himself ...she should not know you fear, your thought process, your hobbies, your great failures and your family ..tomorrow if divorce comes then you can walk away like a super star

FieldMarshalMenace wrote:

BlackVelvet wrote:Thanks Menace


Side note

Do married couples ever really and truly open up to each other even if it's about themselves. Considering anything you say can and may be used against you

...a wise man should never expose himself ...she should not know you fear, your thought process, your hobbies, your great failures and your family ..tomorrow if divorce comes then you can walk away like a super star

But then can you have a happy and fulfilling relationship if you don't open up and keep bracing yourself for the fallout?


Where is the middle ground? Solutionka maxaa waaye to this problem?

BlackVelvet wrote:

FieldMarshalMenace wrote:

BlackVelvet wrote:Thanks Menace


Side note

Do married couples ever really and truly open up to each other even if it's about themselves. Considering anything you say can and may be used against you

...a wise man should never expose himself ...she should not know you fear, your thought process, your hobbies, your great failures and your family ..tomorrow if divorce comes then you can walk away like a super star

But then can you have a happy and fulfilling relationship if you don't open up and keep bracing yourself for the fallout?


Where is the middle ground? Solutionka maxaa waaye to this problem?

This is not Hollywood ..if a man wants to gain total respect and authority he must not act like a fool ...she should not predict you...lady BV! It abt being the head of the household and you must be decisive ...of course, never trample on her rights..provide and treat her ...buy her glittering stuff ..take her on a vacation ..

I believe in complete honest, especially when it concerns me, however when it's separate from me "my sister and aunt got into a huge fight over so and so", that's not my place to tell.

You're right, after divorce, people lose their sht and you don't know what will come back to haunt the family because of your '100% honesty policy'.

lol

P.S, love the relationship topics today.

Us vs them sxb battle lines are drawn

Blow a kiss
Fire a gun

FieldMarshalMenace wrote:This is not Hollywood ..if a man wants to gain total respect and authority he must not act like a fool ...she should not predict you...lady BV! It abt being the head of the household and you must be decisive ...of course, never trample on her rights..provide and treat her ...buy her glittering stuff ..take her on a vacation ..

Blind her with all the extras so she doesn't notice the missing pieces

It is better for a man to have his wife within the family, so incase his wife isn't a good woman, the family will let him know, for example if she is getting too arrogant with him, she will lose patience with the family before him, or if she is starting to speak behind his back to others, it will reach the family etc, it is good to include the wife in the family. However the family will also have to protect their sons interest at all times and not forget blood is thicker than water, sometimes an in-law can be super nice and some family members forget their place.

Adali wrote:It is better for a man to have his wife within the family, so incase his wife isn't a good woman, the family will let him know, for example if she is getting too arrogant with him, she will lose patience with the family before him, or if she is starting to speak behind his back to others, it will reach the family etc, it is good to include the wife in the family. However the family will also have to protect their sons interest at all times and not forget blood is thicker than water, sometimes an in-law can be super nice and some family members forget their place.

Do other countries allow foreign spy to go amok inside the country ? Even when they are aware or suspect the person they tighten up

Would you consider your mother as a spy into your "Family" house? I don't think so. I think the key is marrying a woman who has a bit of brains. If you marry a fool, you'll cry in the toilet; especially if you live in the west.

How many times can a man divorce without going nuts?

Keep it professional.

FieldMarshalMenace wrote:kept at arm's length on internal family affairs ? Specially the females who are married to the brothers.

The family's reasoning being that the divorce rate is so high that a female is more prone to using the family's skeletons than the brother-in law incase of a divorce ? So what's "in" the family most not trickle down to the foreign invaders
What is your take on this ?


What is it like for your family's relationship with the in-laws..,are they treated as a possible infiltrators ?

b!!j won't go down without a fight.

FieldMarshalMenace wrote:

Adali wrote:It is better for a man to have his wife within the family, so incase his wife isn't a good woman, the family will let him know, for example if she is getting too arrogant with him, she will lose patience with the family before him, or if she is starting to speak behind his back to others, it will reach the family etc, it is good to include the wife in the family. However the family will also have to protect their sons interest at all times and not forget blood is thicker than water, sometimes an in-law can be super nice and some family members forget their place.

Do other countries allow foreign spy to go amok inside the country ? Even when they are aware or suspect the person they tighten up

If you do not trust your family with your wife, then how about the bulsho ? ileen wax ma garanaysi. Spy or not, the family is the most powerful tool a man has to tame and keep his wife in line without doing the work himself.

BlackVelvet wrote:Thanks Menace


Side note

Do married couples ever really and truly open up to each other even if it's about themselves. Considering anything you say can and may be used against you

There are certain things we share with each other, however, when it comes to family secrets and issues that are not concerning him, no way I will discuss with him and I expect the same from his side. But we absolutely open up about ourselves at any cost. If he shares our secrets with other people, it surely means I got married to someone I don't know anything about. That says a lot about him than me.