Marriage: Somali man + Pakistani woman

[X.Playa]

Girl, first of all, stay in your lane. You have no room, whatsoever to talk down on anyone.
Secondly, you made it clear that his parents did not accept it. Perhaps you can try to convince them over.
Interracial relationships are just like any other, but you seem very superficial, shallow, narrow-minded and ignorant.
Good luck though. I'm wishing you all the best.

Stop been jealous naayaa.

[Sowda12]

Girl, first of all, stay in your lane. You have no room, whatsoever to talk down on anyone.
Secondly, you made it clear that his parents did not accept it. Perhaps you can try to convince them over.
Interracial relationships are just like any other, but you seem very superficial, shallow, narrow-minded and ignorant.
Good luck though. I'm wishing you all the best.

Stop been jealous naayaa.

Jealous of what?

[Gaashaanle1000]

Troll is obvious troll!

Is the dude using his parents as an excuse to kick away the weird hairy girl with a massive nose that keeps following him around professing how his dark skin obliges him to marry her, as she is after all stepping down a notch for the likes of him. Despite his handsome features surely the light skin trumps everything right right?

On a serious note, is this guy serious about you? Maybe he is giving you a hint

[X.Playa]

Is he a Jareer?

Just asking since you seem to emphasise the colour issue more

I don't know what Jareer means
but he told me he is from isaaq tribe? not sure how to spell it.

Not the easiest word to spell! Keep on trolling.

You ain't that observant, never mind isaaq that's easy to spell it's all over Google. The way she spelled , " ii waran, waa fiicanahayy" with C is amazing for a foreigner.

[X.Playa]

Girl, first of all, stay in your lane. You have no room, whatsoever to talk down on anyone.
Secondly, you made it clear that his parents did not accept it. Perhaps you can try to convince them over.
Interracial relationships are just like any other, but you seem very superficial, shallow, narrow-minded and ignorant.
Good luck though. I'm wishing you all the best.

Stop been jealous naayaa.

Jealous of what?

I don't see anything wrong with what she wrote most of non Somali Muslims don't give a damn about Somali Muslims brother, race , ethnicity and color is grandeur then religion. Only Somalis would do the belly dancing for anything Muslim.

Runtay idiin sheegtay in qof madow oo Muslim awow ka awow ahaa inu ka qaalisanyey oo laga jecliyey mid Cad oo hada jeelka ku Muslimay lool ku quusta , laakiin dee don't get butt hurt.

[Sowda12]

I kinda know where you are coming from, but Somalis usually stay with their own and we certainly don't "belly dance" for anything that's muslim. We are very proud people in general. Proud of our ancient history, culture, country, customs etc. Maybe you misunderstood my point or I did not make myself clear enough. She was looking for help regarding her relationship issue, and even though I'm no fan whatsoever of Pakistanis, Indians, Arabs and Middle Easterns in general, I tried to put it aside just for now, and help her out by giving advice that may or may not help her in life in general. Being humble and taking chances in life will get you far.That's all. Personally, I think the brother will be better off marrying a Somali sister, and I support his parents decision, but again it's not up for me to decide this. Don't accuse me of things I'm not. Thanks.

[Basra-]

Salam,

I am new to this, wanted some advice about a stressful situation . Hope someone can help me, Inshallah.
Some background information - I am Pakistani, I never ever imagined to want to marry a Somali/African man. Lol, I mean, everyone has a vision of a type of person they want to marry. An african man was not on the list.

..Until I met a Somali man. He is absolutely amazing in every way. His deen to his manners, just beautiful to me. I am totally in love with him, and his charming character, mashallah.

As most of you will be aware of the racism in asian cultures. I have light skin, people often assume I am Arab or mixed...Asian people find lighter skinned people more attracting (not all, but majority do). This really disgusts me, as we are all created from Adam, we are muslim. I know that when I approach my family, they will be shocked that I chose an African man. My family are not veryy backward minded but still it will be a shock for them. And they will think that since the cultures are totally different, the marriage will not last long. Anyway, I have not spoken to them about this yet, as I am waiting for him to convince his family.

He spoke to his family and they are totally against it. They don't want to know me at all.
I feel very upset and hurt that just because I am not somali they are not accepting me. I am willing to learn Somali, infact i've already started...ii waran? waan ficanahayy (plus the somali accent lol!) I am willing to learn how to cook somali food, I want my children to learn Somali, I want to visit Somalia, I want to mix in with his family. Like, in any way, I am ready to do anything. If we have children, I know that our children will be known an Somali, islamically even...and I will be proud of that. He has mentioned this all to them already but they don't care. They don't even want to meet me.

Also, I told few of my friends, and they say things to me like, Why marry a Somali? You don't "suit" a Somali, you will look odd. Do you know your kids will be half black? Out of all ethnicities you chose to marry Somali, when you can marry arab/revert etc etc? and they make fun out of it. This upsets me, but I love him a lot. His skin colour makes no difference, I think he is soooo beautiful and has handsome features...well, I'm sure if they'd see him they'd feel jealous lol

We really want to get married,
so my question is, do you think his family will ever agree?
How stubborn are cultural Somali families? (and I thought asian families were crazy and stubborn!)
Will they ever go as far as disowning him if he was to marry me?
Will they see me or our children as outsiders?
Is there hope?

Please help a sister out,
I love Somali people, mashallah. They are really welcoming and kind.
...and Thankyou for reading and replying in advance. Shoukran.

YOU R NOT A PAKISTANI!!! YOU ARE YUMMY MUMMY AKA GAMADID !!!!!!!!!

[habibah000]

Is he a Jareer?

Just asking since you seem to emphasise the colour issue more

I don't know what Jareer means
but he told me he is from isaaq tribe? not sure how to spell it.

Not the easiest word to spell! Keep on trolling.

Huhh. .wallah lol I'm being truthful. I feel like I'm being attacked subhanAllah. I known him for a year...I literally have been learning somali on YouTube...alphabet and basic words.

[X.Playa]

Habibah,

It's the clan isaaq that triggered the dormant hate, be careful not all Somalis are just Somalis.

[habibah000]

Salam,

I am new to this, wanted some advice about a stressful situation . Hope someone can help me, Inshallah.
Some background information - I am Pakistani, I never ever imagined to want to marry a Somali/African man. Lol, I mean, everyone has a vision of a type of person they want to marry. An african man was not on the list.

..Until I met a Somali man. He is absolutely amazing in every way. His deen to his manners, just beautiful to me. I am totally in love with him, and his charming character, mashallah.

As most of you will be aware of the racism in asian cultures. I have light skin, people often assume I am Arab or mixed...Asian people find lighter skinned people more attracting (not all, but majority do). This really disgusts me, as we are all created from Adam, we are muslim. I know that when I approach my family, they will be shocked that I chose an African man. My family are not veryy backward minded but still it will be a shock for them. And they will think that since the cultures are totally different, the marriage will not last long. Anyway, I have not spoken to them about this yet, as I am waiting for him to convince his family.

He spoke to his family and they are totally against it. They don't want to know me at all.
I feel very upset and hurt that just because I am not somali they are not accepting me. I am willing to learn Somali, infact i've already started...ii waran? waan ficanahayy (plus the somali accent lol!) I am willing to learn how to cook somali food, I want my children to learn Somali, I want to visit Somalia, I want to mix in with his family. Like, in any way, I am ready to do anything. If we have children, I know that our children will be known an Somali, islamically even...and I will be proud of that. He has mentioned this all to them already but they don't care. They don't even want to meet me.

Also, I told few of my friends, and they say things to me like, Why marry a Somali? You don't "suit" a Somali, you will look odd. Do you know your kids will be half black? Out of all ethnicities you chose to marry Somali, when you can marry arab/revert etc etc? and they make fun out of it. This upsets me, but I love him a lot. His skin colour makes no difference, I think he is soooo beautiful and has handsome features...well, I'm sure if they'd see him they'd feel jealous lol

We really want to get married,
so my question is, do you think his family will ever agree?
How stubborn are cultural Somali families? (and I thought asian families were crazy and stubborn!)
Will they ever go as far as disowning him if he was to marry me?
Will they see me or our children as outsiders?
Is there hope?

Please help a sister out,
I love Somali people, mashallah. They are really welcoming and kind.
...and Thankyou for reading and replying in advance. Shoukran.

YOU R NOT A PAKISTANI!!! YOU ARE YUMMY MUMMY AKA GAMADID !!!!!!!!!

Huhh...now you are accusing me of not being pakistani
Okay since I am fluent in Somali (because I mentioned basic words). ..I can't be fluent in urdu as well right ...ohh wait for it......jee mein 100% pakistani Hu pagal majnoon insaan....haha.

[Basra-]

habibah

I think u r delusional. Go take your medication! U r a useless Somalinet regular.

[habibah000]

You made me giggle.
I have said wallah 2 times already. I do not take qasam in the name of Allah and lie. I rest my case....okay fine..I'm a Somali freshy who arrived to London few days ago..I enjoy chewing that drug stuff...okay you win. Did that make you happy? I hope it did my love.

[Xildiiid]

1. if you're trolling then you're just pathetic.
2. if not, I would not suggest that you marry a Somali man, unless you want to be subjected to vitriolage by your own community.

I heard of gruesome case a couple of years back involving a Bangladeshi. Very nasty..

[gegiroor]

Is he a Jareer?

Just asking since you seem to emphasise the colour issue more

I don't know what Jareer means
but he told me he is from isaaq tribe? not sure how to spell it.

I am believer that you're a Somali lady who wants to marry a Pakistani. Why? Look at the way you typed the supposed husband's tribe. seems to me what we have here is a Somali girl who is marrying a Pakistani. Good luck. In marriage, believe in Allah is very important and being a devout Muslim. Insha'Allah, it will be khayr (good) for you and your husband. Happy and healthy Muslim family with insha'Allah beautiful and healthy children.

Don't worry about others. As long as you're both Muslims, you should be good.

[gegiroor]

habibah

I think u r delusional. Go take your medication! U r a useless Somalinet regular.

The true Basra is back