Advice needed (guys only)

[Lamagoodle]

None of them although the second option looks better; intelligent, articulate and specially "ambitious (dollars)" is a great start. But that is not what makes a great wife. In fact, all the characteristics you mentioned are somehow superficial and can wither once you are married. Appearances/assumptions can deceive. What makes a great wife does not suffice before you tie the knot. Every thing before that is unreliable and generally does not play a role.

You should go for education. The more educated she is the better; the more educated, the propensity to make money and have analytical approach to life.

Look for the "other" in your neck of the wood; the shorty, darky, no make up kind, and you may find gem. Anecdotally, the unwanted, survival of the unfit kind is always genuine and make a great companion (NB; in this age, you need not a wife in the proper sense, but a companion, a partner of not only kids, food and housekeeping but a partner in thought).

[FarhanYare]

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[FarhanYare]

None of them although the second option looks better; intelligent, articulate and specially "ambitious (dollars)" is a great start. But that is not what makes a great wife. In fact, all the characteristics you mentioned are somehow superficial and can wither once you are married. Appearances/assumptions can deceive. What makes a great wife does not suffice before you tie the knot. Every thing before that is unreliable and generally does not play a role.

You should go for education. The more educated she is the better; the more educated, the propensity to make money and have analytical approach to life.

Look for the "other" in your neck of the wood; the shorty, darky, no make up kind, and you may find gem. Anecdotally, the unwanted, survival of the unfit kind is always genuine and make a great companion (NB; in this age, you need not a wife in the proper sense, but a companion, a partner of not only kids, food and housekeeping but a partner in thought).

Great advice Lamagoodle

[CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC]

None of them although the second option looks better; intelligent, articulate and specially "ambitious (dollars)" is a great start. But that is not what makes a great wife. In fact, all the characteristics you mentioned are somehow superficial and can wither once you are married. Appearances/assumptions can deceive. What makes a great wife does not suffice before you tie the knot. Every thing before that is unreliable and generally does not play a role.

You should go for education. The more educated she is the better; the more educated, the propensity to make money and have analytical approach to life.

Look for the "other" in your neck of the wood; the shorty, darky, no make up kind, and you may find gem. Anecdotally, the unwanted, survival of the unfit kind is always genuine and make a great companion (NB; in this age, you need not a wife in the proper sense, but a companion, a partner of not only kids, food and housekeeping but a partner in thought).

khabiir lama is dropping some wisdom tonight i am sure you wouldnt even think to marry the "unwanted" when your were in ur 20s with age comes wisdom

[Lamagoodle]

Farxaan and Cigaal Shidaad , experience is a learning process. Education is a good baseline because when you die/divorce, she should be able to take care of the kids and will not need a loser to provide for them. According to studies done by Lamagoodle, you need brains to belong to the survival of the "unfit" i.e. dark, short, silent, etc have the strength not be seduced by the superficiality of the globalised world. They are gold mines that need to me mined.

At my age, one might argue that I look for mid rock-iyo yazzka ila tumato, waqtigana ila riixdo, bill-kana isla wadaagno; Van Gogh, Davinci, Monet igula daawato matxafka, Shakespeare igula daawato tiyaatarka. But, from empirical observations, these were generally not the "unfit" kind (the rag u roon). The unfit stay in marriage, nourish it and empower it. The superficial class become divorcees and turn into cajuusos/qumayos a few year's into their marriages and in the process become concubines/ xusul baruurs nimcatul fashuuq oo Lamagoodle amaano. The lipsticked, cadeey, quruxleeys are what I call " entrapments"; their aim is to take you into prison in which they become the master and you are the slave. During the second round (xusul baruur round), they become good companions (groupie to e.g. Lamagoodle) That is if they are lucky.


P.s. Waryaa I am 23!!! af lagaadada iga daa

[InaSamaale]

Lam, I'm genuinely surprised you would categorise dark skinned sisters as unwanted & unattractive. What's with the colonized mindset?

[Lamagoodle]

Lam, I'm genuinely surprised you would categorise dark skinned sisters as unwanted & unattractive. What's with the colonized mindset?

Adeer, you have misunderstood what I wrote. "unwanted" and "unattractive" in the context of the current fascination with colour/looks. These are assumed to be ugly and thus unwanted/unattractive in the current discourse on beauty.

I find them as gems. It is like going past a goldmine to mine marble because it shines.

I should have put a " ".

[InaSamaale]

Lam, I'm genuinely surprised you would categorise dark skinned sisters as unwanted & unattractive. What's with the colonized mindset?

Adeer, you have misunderstood what I wrote. "unwanted" and "unattractive" in the context of the current fascination with colour/looks. These are assumed to be ugly and thus unwanted/unattractive in the current discourse on beauty.

I find them as gems. It is like going past a goldmine to mine marble because it shines.

I should have put a " ".

My bad, I see what you were saying.

[MujahidAishah]

Number 1,why you ask?
The phrase "genuinely nice person" did it for me
I can't stand people that you have to tread carefully around.As for whether or not she balloons after a couple of births.That could also happen to number 2 as well as any other type of woman

I'm with Thug great personality is something that doesn't fade

[thehappyone]

If you had to choose between two women, which would you choose and why? If your mind says 2 and your heart says 1.

1. Pros: lively and vivacious. A bit curvy but still sexy. Genuine nice person with good sense of humour. Wears heart on sleave. Cons: not the sharpest knife in the drawer, could be more ambitious, will probably become obese after kids.

2. Pros: intelligent, articulate, ambitious (has $$$) and a classic thin Somali beauty i.e. Iman. Cons: dry sense of humour, a bit on the thin side, is cunning and definitely not an open book.

I now understand why polygyny exists. It avoids situations like this

Definetely 1. Why the hell would I want a girl thats smart AND has money. She's basically taking my masculinity away.

I rather come home with nothing but a loaf of bread and see my girl smile, then having my girl take to a fancy restaurant and pay the bill. Those guys that want number 2 are either well off or more likely they are users, and all they want is a temporary marriage.

[AyeeyoH]

Ta diinta iyo akhlaaqda leh guurso.Taasa aduun iyo aakhiraba ku anfici.Awlaad khayr qabtana ku korin.

[JSL3000]

When I choose my wife the most important asset is her virtue like its mentioned in the holy quran a pious wife is the correct wife you need in this dunia she will guide you to right path to hereafter.

Secondly what i take into consideration is my unborn children and will she be the right person to be the mother of my children.

And finally i ask myself is she fit to be my wife and vice versa I'm I capable to handle her needs.

That's my advice however you handle the situation your on your own I gave you my knowledge on the situation.

[JSL3000]

Ta diinta iyo akhlaaqda leh guurso.Taasa aduun iyo aakhiraba ku anfici.Awlaad khayr qabtana ku korin.

Exactly like eedo said.

[Vivacious]

Some guys would choose no.2 just coz she got money.
Lama I am disappointed

[Vivacious]

Ta diinta iyo akhlaaqda leh guurso.Taasa aduun iyo aakhiraba ku anfici.Awlaad khayr qabtana ku korin.