I am so adopted to my Single Life and Can't handle Marriage

[Susu000]

Dp

[EvolSyawla]

Yea, good point. But that's the thing with folks when they are unfit for _____. They usually cannot see past their stereotypes and thus cannot change their stance on something.

Oh well.

[Susu000]

Yea, good point. But that's the thing with folks when they are unfit for _____. They usually cannot see past their stereotypes and thus cannot change their stance on something.

Oh well.

This.

[Sumubaridi]

Guys, I think you should applaud this man. Instead of forcing himself into marriage to satisfy his community, he's acknowledged that he is just not meant to be married.

Like those who are unfit to be parents and actually decide it is better to be childless than inflict hurt on his kids, op has acknowledged that he would only be unhappy and make his wife unhappy.

But lol @ bringing over fat friends. Marriage trauma 101.

Usheeg abaayo. I tried twice and I failed in both. Do I need to try a 3rd one to know am not that mature to be married? This is someone's daughter's Life not some kind of a Video game which you switch and try another one if one fails or some kind of car business where you go buy another one after you smash one. Marriage is hard work and a lot of responsibility. I would rather work in 3 jobs than being married. 3 Things are fundamental in marriage success which I suck in all.

1) Financial Stability- I have never had $5000 of my own in my life. My Income has always lingered between $3500 and $1200. You need more than $15000 to start a meaningful marriage.
2) Listening Keenly and empathetically- I suck in listening to crab. I will tell the girl on her face I am not enjoying your story so talk something meaning ful or naga aamus. This is called inviting for war which will lead to divorce.
3) I hate staying at home or visiting houses where women and children are. I was away from home and on my own since I was 21. I am not used to women talk or diaper smells or sitting in some rubbish house and listening to punch of women. This is very important in marriage. They will either visit your or you visit them. You refuse, you are being unsocial and divorce will follow.

so why do I want to get married if am not good at any of them. The only marriage I can be in is the one I can go when people are sleep, stay there for couple of hours twice a week then come back to my house. Sounds like Xalaal Dating.

[Sauron]

a very peculiar man indeed

[Siciid85]

Enjoy your bachelor lifestyle.

Yea bro. Runtii bachelor life is more enjoyable than marriage life. See, Marriage is a responsibility but bachelor life is free. Marriage life is only enjoyable for couple of minutes in bed then You have to deal with all the marriage crap in the morning.

You have to be very mature if you have to succeed in marriage. Its like work. You apply for the job, and you are suppose to work. I will give you a practical example. When you are single,

you wake up in the morning, maybe have some cereal with milk, take a shower and leave. You come back about 10PM and sleep.

When you are married, you wake up in the morning, you will have to help the wife in cleaning, you will have to sit whole day in the sofa, you will have to look for stories to tell the wife, she will bring all kinds of fat women in the house which you are suppose to talk to, she will tell you to take her to her sister's house which you have to go sit in the middle of all this wild kids, you have to take the wife and her sister maybe to a far away city to visit one of their friends, then drop the sister at her house and drive you and your wife home at about 10 PM when you are so tired, stressed out. You can't sleep because the wife want to watch lifetime so you have to stay in the sofa till about 12PM. if you are lucky enough, you might get 5 minutes of pleasure at 1AM. See all the things you did whole day, you get 5 minutes and that is it.

[Susu000]

a very peculiar man indeed

Peculiar is an understatement; I'm not sure wether a prescriptive word for this man even exists.

But "Don't be so sumubaridic!" or
" You're being so sumubaridic right now.." Sounds fantastic

Add that to the Oxford dictionary of English perhaps ?

[Sumubaridi]

a very peculiar man indeed

Peculiar is an understatement; I'm not sure wether a prescriptive word for this man even exists.

But "Don't be so sumubaridic!" or
" You're being so sumubaridic right now.." Sounds fantastic

Add that to the Oxford dictionary of English perhaps ?

Marriage is actually Good and Baraka for those who have the talent and the skills to be successful in it. Its like any other professional work. Its a full time job with so many obligations and responsibility. See you should be ready and have all the skills to succeed in any profession. It will need your time, your emotions, your resources and your energy. You should know how to skillfully coordinate all that into something productive. A lot of brothers think marriage is all about talking to a girl, get some nikaax and take her to bed. Its more than that. See I fail twice and I have to convince myself beyond reasonable doubt that, I can be successful in the second one before I go into it. I know Qadr and Calaf is there but allah wants me to use the brain that he has given me to make decisions that are meaningful and productive.

[GalliumerianSlayer]

Halal Sex

[Sumubaridi]

Guys, I think you should applaud this man. Instead of forcing himself into marriage to satisfy his community, he's acknowledged that he is just not meant to be married.

Like those who are unfit to be parents and actually decide it is better to be childless than inflict hurt on his kids, op has acknowledged that he would only be unhappy and make his wife unhappy.

But lol @ bringing over fat friends. Marriage trauma 101.

I agree with you, but Sumu is wrong in saying that all married men has horrible tragic lives with fat friends and etc.

He must also acknowledge that they are happily married couple out there. I find it sad that he places himself in a specific marriage category when marriages comes in various types and shapes.

I am 38 years old and I am yet to see a family that I can say are happily married. Maybe because Marriage is not responsibility just like any other job and its not meant to be fun. From my experience, Marriage works so well for people who do not want/have anything else to do. Just people who are Idle and want to be busy. So the more the responsibility gets, the more happier they get because it keeps them busy.

Also,

Gender difference play a role here. When I go to the park, I see Somali mothers chit chatting with their babies running around and each of them trying to compete with the other on how cute her babies are etc. So I think Marriage works so well for Mothers. When I pass the women and go to the where men are, all I see is some depressed and totally defeated lions who are just laying on the floor maybe regretting why they put themselves in that horrible marriage.

[TheblueNwhite]

I am 38 years old and I am yet to see a family that I can say are happily married. Maybe because Marriage is not responsibility just like any other job and its not meant to be fun. From my experience, Marriage works so well for people who do not want/have anything else to do. Just people who are Idle and want to be busy. So the more the responsibility gets, the more happier they get because it keeps them busy.

Also,

Gender difference play a role here. When I go to the park, I see Somali mothers chit chatting with their babies running around and each of them trying to compete with the other on how cute her babies are etc. So I think Marriage works so well for Mothers. When I pass the women and go to the where men are, all I see is some depressed and totally defeated lions who are just laying on the floor maybe regretting why they put themselves in that horrible marriage.

See this
https://www.somalinet.com/forums/viewto ... 8&t=378516

[Sumubaridi]

I am 38 years old and I am yet to see a family that I can say are happily married. Maybe because Marriage is not responsibility just like any other job and its not meant to be fun. From my experience, Marriage works so well for people who do not want/have anything else to do. Just people who are Idle and want to be busy. So the more the responsibility gets, the more happier they get because it keeps them busy.

Also,

Gender difference play a role here. When I go to the park, I see Somali mothers chit chatting with their babies running around and each of them trying to compete with the other on how cute her babies are etc. So I think Marriage works so well for Mothers. When I pass the women and go to the where men are, all I see is some depressed and totally defeated lions who are just laying on the floor maybe regretting why they put themselves in that horrible marriage.

See this
https://www.somalinet.com/forums/viewto ... 8&t=378516

I do not think this Mom has more choices other than being romantic and loving. She has teenage kids and she has gained so much weight. She thinks this wadaad will go to Africa to Hitch gabar yar. Something done out of fear and insecurity cannot be used as a sample to the whole lot.

[TheblueNwhite]

Lol@weight