CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC wrote:MujahidAishah wrote:Your dad is your dad intu hooyada qaaba maalintu fuuro caruurta shaqadooda maxa yada dhashay..
Waxan la yaab kuwa yidhi I'm rebelling because my dad left.. niiga if you rebel you think your dad will give a fuck. Shaqo yeelo and fix up..your dad is your dad regardless if he is married to your mom or not. and kids have every right to mad at the dad if he chooses to not to be in their life.
I think there two problems, frist, some guys say " gab iyo xaarkeed ba waa laysku tuuraa" when they are no longer married to the mother; take their anger for their ex out on their kids nd abandon them. waar xoolayahow! your kids didnt hurt you, they didnt tell your ex to ask for divorce. they are innocent by standers who will suffer the most in the long term. the rights your kids have on you doesnt end when marriage ends. Thats what many so called "fathers" need to understand
second, There are the qumayooyin! who uses kids to get back at their ex, dont let the father visit/talk to his kids or make it almost impossible. also take the poor guy to court and make his life miserable in order to get a revenge. then he gives up and leaves all of them together. which is not right, but understandable. Now,when the kids grow up, these shaydaamado, make their kids hate their father by saying all kind of bad things about him, how he left them blah blah. What both of these selfish self-centered need to understand that isnt about them anymore, now is the time to minimize the damage/impact their divorce will have on the kids by putting feelings aside and co-parent together.
1/ that is the way old generation somali men operate. If your dad walked out of your life what being mad going to do for? What's rebelling going to help you are put thier poor mum thru this mess hoping thier father will look at them and be like aabo.. sorry if someobe told a child is an agoon I won't feel sorry for that child but if the child s a raajo my heart goes out to them you can live without a dad but you can't live with out a mum
2/ kids need to have a relationship with thier father regardless even if he is an idiot. Alx my kids relationship with thier dad is strong they love each other.. a father is a daughter's first love and a son's hero. I wouldnt even dream of cutting him out of his kids life.. any man that comes knows my BD is a part of life and always will be.
Thank god the bae and the BD actually grew up in the same area and know each other.. The BD was like gwan you picked a good one high 5
