[quote="zulaika"]ballar,
the lending industry is full of trappings and it was designed to squeez maximum capital out of anything they lend so in turn one should maticulously read through any mortage contract they are about to sign and all of its finely printed clause.
i have not purchased a home yet(still in the saving stages) and when i do which is prolly after i get married i will not opt for the banks because of the interest which is not premitted in our faith so i will trail through other avenues(islamically)..and thankfuly there are such lenders where i live, only downfall to it is that they ask a huuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuge down payment up front and that is what i've been saving up for since the day i started earning a decent salary. i'll combine what i have currently with that of my future husband and bang..i think i can pretty much meet damn asking price half way.
Zulaika,
Why do you think the banks are in business? Why do you think lending companies are in business? Why do you think anyone period goes into to business? It's simple....to make huge priofits. You can't get away from it... unless you're stacked like these hollywood broads that have absolutely zero regard for money.
Granted your right about mortgage contracts but that's the reason why you hire a good lawyer first and foremost. You pay them the bucks to look at everything and I mean EVERYTHING as far as contracts are conscerned. I would not sign anything at the spur of the moment ...that's just me.
In my situation I put 25% downpayment on my house. Of course some banks offer you the no money down option based on your credit score and what you can afford but I didn't opt for that and I will advise anyone who is considering home ownership to never take that route. There's many good reasons which I will not get in to right now. Suffice to say in your case, I think you're doing the smart thing by saving up for decent sized downpayment for a home. IMO it's pointless to put 5% down because that esentially is just useless and leads to higher motgage payments but I can't condemn some for doing it because I don't know their financial situation.
One thing tho...don't wait to get married before buying a home unless you know exactly when you will be. I did it all myself and granted it was a huge responsibilty but I had an idea of what it would be like. I was fortunate in that my parents fully paid my school tuition all through college and I had no student loans to pay back after I was through schooling. I saved my money and that enabled me to get into home ownership. I look at it as the best decision I've made so far in my life.

Not saying its the easiest thing because god knows my heating bills soared this winter but I'm okay because I have made som adjustments. The biggest thing is never just be working to pay your mortgage. It happened to a friend of mine. He's trapped. He can't take a holiday or buy a car because he's working to pay his mortgage with little left over. His house costs $70,000 more than mine but I told him to sell it and get something more affordable.
Bottomline, in your case you should look sooner rather than later. Don't wait for a husband. Always have a back up plan when you buy a house or a condo. Realistically most of us think that we cannot lose our jobs but nothing is etched in stone. Make sure you have a reserve fund to cover emergency expenses for a yr or two should you happen to lose your job. That's the biggest reason for people losing their life's dream.
