Why Can't a Successful Black Woman Find a Man?

[Addoow]

Can you blame anyone really....Cause there really is nothing like a white girl especially one that has a booty. Its so true I catch myself lusting after them more often then not only self control stops me at times but white women have another advantage over other females. They lack the so called attitude of non white females who are successful....matter of fact I do have quiet a few Somali friends who their white girlfriends literally pay for everything from their smokes to petrol in their car and yet their relationship doesnt feel so awkward because the white girlfriends know their role. I actually agree with Gedo girl a time will come when somali men and women wont marry eachother in the west and that honestly isnt so bad.

Men have become so precious nowadays,precious than a diamond.lool enjoy life to the fullest while you can.

seriously though sxb,This is what i was trying to say.But the Question still remains,why most successful black men marry and want to settle down with white women? what kind of attitudes or physical traits do they have which attracts blacks ?
The AAs are history sxb,No amount of Organized Polygamy can save them.
Also why successful blackwomen remain single? why cant they date out instead of complaining and ranting? does it mean whitey doesnt find them attractive?

These women are strong,indepedent and successful they dont need a man at all,who needs a random male to boss you around anyway ?lol

As for the somalis,It isnt a major problem but if this trend continues, I will not be surprised at all waayo,We have lost one important aspect of our calture-arranged marriages-It still occurs but rarely.

sxb,Our girls arent exotic and mysterious as they used to be anymore,remember what other races call them.

No offense but a somali girl cant be exotic or mysterious to us cause they are all the same....as for arranged marriages is no better then a forced marriage and Id rather remain a bachelor then be forced to marry a girl I dont want. But you know Addow if anything we are integrating into our societies which obviously includes inter marriages and Im really not against it ruunti a girls a girl what difference does it make if shes not somali she"ll still give me kids a family and comfortable house to come back to. Dont be too worried about what other races call somali girls cause if your not going to marry them its definitely not your headache lol.

Gedo Girl please dont try to flip it on me you just wanted a good rant thats all no reason to front....how is your day anyway?

Abdi

Worry isnt in my dictionary Sxb,I brought up the subject just as a joke.
If anything i will worry more about passing in my exams.I strongly advocate people to look for what ever makes them happy. My cousin is married to this Yemeni Lady and Has two cute Kids. who knows the grass may be greener on the other side.

These Black men naagaha cadaanka wax bey ku arkeen and i cant blam them walle,Their taste in women is definitely fine.

[Beenaale_No1]

no stress, no bills , no materialism.

That is my ultimate goal as well. The thought of me doing 40-50 odd hours a week for the next forty years until I and become a weak and mobility-restricted senior citizen depresses me no end. I think too many people accept the status-quo and just accept that they are destined to get a job in a boring soul-destroying industry doing 40-50 hours a week for the rest of their lives, and whilst we purchase a shitload of useless material goods and services that we don't really need.. It's a system that was designed for us by the powers be. It's a fake unattainable dream that has been sold to us, and most have bought and swallowed it hook, line and sinker.

It's the whole concept of working obscene hours whilst our quality of life decreases rapidly that bothers me hugely. For many, there are the obligations of just accepting the status-quo and buying into the economic system of debt bondage, materialism and over-working. The whole banality of British working life depresses me - the social decay and isolation, the debt bondage, the over working like zombies till you drop dead etc.

I worked for an organisation once where I got 2 promotions. I took the decision to demote myself, not wishing to spend 10 hours a day at work just for the sake of a new bathroom or to purchase some gadget that will be obsolete sooner than immediately or worse still, be promoted once more because of a inability to say "no"

I, personally, have a spectacular history of underachievement and disappointment. For someone my age, I've achieved sweet fuck all. At the end of the day, if I want to quit my job so I can have a life, then I also have to give up the money - and I'm prepared to do that.

[GacanSareeye]

Beenaale, the weekend is more than enough to be reinvograted and re-energized for another 40-50 years a week. You just cant get out of the system without having some well defined alternative. Hyperactive's scenerio isnt bad if everthing stays in place and quranic teachers are in demand by then, but others have to deal with the plate they are served not the one they wished for. lets say you leave your well paying job for your own business under the illusion that you will have more free time. Immediately you find out that you have to work not more hours but you are responsible for bitty tiddy things also. so alternative is no better unless its worse. tough world out there. taxes and death are certified.

[Hyperactive]

no stress, no bills , no materialism.

That is my ultimate goal as well. The thought of me doing 40-50 odd hours a week for the next forty years until I and become a weak and mobility-restricted senior citizen depresses me no end. I think too many people accept the status-quo and just accept that they are destined to get a job in a boring soul-destroying industry doing 40-50 hours a week for the rest of their lives, and whilst we purchase a shitload of useless material goods and services that we don't really need.. It's a system that was designed for us by the powers be. It's a fake unattainable dream that has been sold to us, and most have bought and swallowed it hook, line and sinker.

It's the whole concept of working obscene hours whilst our quality of life decreases rapidly that bothers me hugely. For many, there are the obligations of just accepting the status-quo and buying into the economic system of debt bondage, materialism and over-working. The whole banality of British working life depresses me - the social decay and isolation, the debt bondage, the over working like zombies till you drop dead etc.

I worked for an organisation once where I got 2 promotions. I took the decision to demote myself, not wishing to spend 10 hours a day at work just for the sake of a new bathroom or to purchase some gadget that will be obsolete sooner than immediately or worse still, be promoted once more because of a inability to say "no"

I, personally, have a spectacular history of underachievement and disappointment. For someone my age, I've achieved sweet fuck all. At the end of the day, if I want to quit my job so I can have a life, then I also have to give up the money - and I'm prepared to do that.

well said bro.
i see every day kids in my high school, who got iPhone 2G then in few months came 3G and they got it then they turned 18 and the new car came, now they got the ipod!!!!!! ive seen how materialism corrupt people and brain washed to buy every thing to make another man rich!!! very shallow people!!

i refuse to be part of that crew! hopefully i'll get a wife that understands my concept of life and share same goals.

[siren]

I should thank you tough for encouraging us to go back to school. I have learned lately in this forum that my bachelor tech degree is not good enough and I should go back to school and get more including polishing my English since many people here think that in order to argue, you should have superb English. I will also tell every body that I know there is a Somali lady who is encouraging all Somali men to go to schools and get educated or they will loose their wifes, loool. BTW, you sound like someone that I have run into before. Are you that formidable lady that I have chatted many times before in other forums? It looks like it. Any how, I want to thank you for warning us that you either go back to school or stand the chance of loosing your good and 'well educated' Somali women to foreigners including gaalos. It is a wakeup call. But guess what eedo, who is going to do the fadhi-ku-dirir for us?


Thanks.

[*Nobleman*]

no stress, no bills , no materialism.

That is my ultimate goal as well. The thought of me doing 40-50 odd hours a week for the next forty years until I and become a weak and mobility-restricted senior citizen depresses me no end. I think too many people accept the status-quo and just accept that they are destined to get a job in a boring soul-destroying industry doing 40-50 hours a week for the rest of their lives, and whilst we purchase a shitload of useless material goods and services that we don't really need.. It's a system that was designed for us by the powers be. It's a fake unattainable dream that has been sold to us, and most have bought and swallowed it hook, line and sinker.

It's the whole concept of working obscene hours whilst our quality of life decreases rapidly that bothers me hugely. For many, there are the obligations of just accepting the status-quo and buying into the economic system of debt bondage, materialism and over-working. The whole banality of British working life depresses me - the social decay and isolation, the debt bondage, the over working like zombies till you drop dead etc.

I worked for an organisation once where I got 2 promotions. I took the decision to demote myself, not wishing to spend 10 hours a day at work just for the sake of a new bathroom or to purchase some gadget that will be obsolete sooner than immediately or worse still, be promoted once more because of a inability to say "no"

I, personally, have a spectacular history of underachievement and disappointment. For someone my age, I've achieved sweet fuck all. At the end of the day, if I want to quit my job so I can have a life, then I also have to give up the money - and I'm prepared to do that.

walahi couldnt agree more. I dont understand why people think status is based on working 40-50 hrs a week. Life is for living and worshipping you Lord, why waste so much time sitting in an office.

Work, eat, buy, consume then die, people need to realise there is more to life.

[Leila25]

If you have to work 40-50 hours in your 20's and 30's so that you can chill in your 50's, what is wrong with that? Its an investment at the end of the day.

[gedo_gurl]

40-50 hours work is cool, whats wring with that? everyone wastes time at work any way, you only actually work 35-45 hours a week or for some even less than that...not bad Ill say.

[*Nobleman*]

If you have to work 40-50 hours in your 20's and 30's so that you can chill in your 50's, what is wrong with that? Its an investment at the end of the day.

That what everyone says, but truth be told you'll always work into your 60's. All the people i work with had the same mind set, but many of them work well into their 60's to service their lifestyles. I'd rather not buy gadgets and other bullshit material stuff and instead enjoy life.

40-50 hours work is cool, whats wring with that? everyone wastes time at work any way, you only actually work 35-45 hours a week or for some even less than that...not bad Ill say.

I understand you wont be actually working 40-50 hours a week, but being in that same building for that long is not healthy in my opinion. You work long hours- to buy material stuff, not only does the owner of your company get rich from your labour, but also companies that make you spend your cash on uselss stuff.

I work 35hrs a week, a 9-5 minus the lunch break and that is the maximum i'm willing to work, now imagine working 40 or even 50 hours a week. 9-5 you work, 11-7 you sleep, plus a couple of hours commuting, you seriously only have 2 or max 3 hours to yourself or with family, not including the weekends.

[Leila25]

Being employed is actually healthy for you even in your 60's, nothing wrong working long hours to fund your lifestyle. I am not into gadgets but i would be willing to work hard to fund 2 holidays a year and be a homeowner. Its all about what you like and willing to sacrifice for. Lakin i would not do 9-5 for a job i dont like, i would seek an alternative.

[*Nobleman*]

Being employed is actually healthy for you even in your 60's, nothing wrong working long hours to fund your lifestyle. I am not into gadgets but i would be willing to work hard to fund 2 holidays a year and be a homeowner. Its all about what you like and willing to sacrifice for. Lakin i would not do 9-5 for a job i dont like, i would seek an alternative.

different strokes for different folks. I'd rather work less, have no material things but just enough to survive. That would be more fufilling for me.

[Copy.&.Paste]

Speaking of working 40 hours a week......


For some reason many of you think a successfull woman equates to slaving 40 hours a week , neglecting children and husband, and competing with the husband.

No. Ladies have options


Examples

1.She can let the husband care for kids once a week and she work in that time. Dad can bond with the kids

2.She can work from home maybe a couple hours each day

3.She can drop the kids at her families house or the inlaws or relatives once a week.

4. She can hire hired help to cook and clean. The hours that she would invest in household duties can be replaced with work.

Etc


There are many alternatives..She could do one of these examples or even all.

A successful woman does not mean the destruction of a family house hold. Doesn't mean you will have to drop your kids at daycare . Doesn't mean working extreme hours. Doesn't mean she has to compete with the husband. If you think a successful women means that these things will happen then .....

It comes down managing your life reasonably

[HELWAA]

^^no mother should work 40 hours when she have children...That is just insane.When both of you come home at five...tired easy annoyed and hungry.Not to mention your kids oo maanta oo dhan naag gaalo afka so hoos ceedcedinayey oo daal istaagi kari la.What kinda of life is that..

[Niya]

Niya,

Is it how much you take home or how much you get it on paper? Keep in mind 100K on paper comes down to 5K after all of the taxes and other deductions are deducted from a paycheck of someone who is married and has 2 kids. If you are a single, tough luck, you are even taking home less. Believe me you will find people without proper job skills who make much more than that. A guy in Nairobi East Leigh district with two small clothing shops could be making roughly 20K - 30K a month whereas a fella with good degree and what you would describe a good decent job in the USA could be taking home with 4K or 5K, so my sister (I am assuming you are a lady according to your name but if you are not, no pun intended, you have my apology) don't let the money that is written on the paper fool you. It is what you take home that should be good enough for your expenses and if you loose your job and could not find a job for let us say at least a year or if you have an urgent financial difficulties and lawsuits. If the money you are taking home can do that, say Alxamdulillaah.

For me, success means being healthy with my lixda lixaad (Alxamdulillaah) and having a decent job that I can pay my bills. Keep in mind Allah is the best provider.

Udun,
As Gedogurl said, success is relative. If paying bills and being healthy is a measure, this topic would not have reached 14 pages or so.
As we all know, money makes the world go round; as for the taxes, there are ways to get deductions or if that fails, vote to have Republicans in power. I agree with your other points. I have family members who never went to University and who make triple what I make a month. Having business savvy, acumen and a drive goes a long ways.

My main contention with this topic is the definition of success. Paying your bills is not a measure in my opinion. The threshold/bar needs to be higher.

Less I am misunderstood, let me state that Niya is a member of the working poor as of today. Working hard on attaining that 6 figure mark.

[GeoDesic]

if success is money, i'll never be successful.
man, my dream is to have my quran school in small town in malysia and have my own school of thought and see my students go all the walk of life. anikana aqal yar and sijayad isaka seeho. Allah meshas iska aabudo.

no stress, no bills , no materialism.

The simple good life Not to mention how you can marry one of the beauties you teach the Quran markay jiq kugu noqoto. We think alike bro, only problem is, I need to work on the strength of my faith.