Fear of Commitment

[Htologist]

Dumarka wakhti ba ku socda, taas waa la hubaa, raggana ogaada hadaad mar dhaafto 35 caruur AUTISTIC, indho qaloocan baad dhalaysaan oo dhareerka ka socda!! Hala guursado si deg deg ah..

[Madd_Scientist_]

Fear of commitment?.. You're not the only one Cawar!

[xidigow]

raggana ogaada hadaad mar dhaafto 35 caruur AUTISTIC, indho qaloocan baad dhalaysaan oo dhareerka ka socda!! Hala guursado si deg deg ah..

Man what is wrong with caruur indho qaloocan? Cawar seems very fine. Besides, weren't you the one who was advocating for disable kids just the other day? And it seems you are one of the somalis you were talking about. Waynan ku guurso ama yaraan ku guurso hadii allah kuugu talagalay ilmo qaloocan, wax aad ka qaban kartid ma leh.

[Hyperactive]

what's wrong with older guys new days?
wa yaab.
ader even me im not scared.
if i got some one in grade 10 wan aroosi laha.
but the parents are trouble makers newa days.

[Cali_Gaab]

Cawar, that's one stupid question which questions your own manhood.
Not forcing yourself to commit to each girl that comes along should be part of the constitution.
I've never been with somebody for longer than 4 months, i'm pleased when i first hook up with them but after a few weeks down the line i start to avoid long duration and frequent phone calls, hanging out etc.

It's just part of human nature, do not question your state of mind or sexuality

[Faisah]

cawar you're hitting the 40 soon and you're still afraid of commitments. oday asaasaqay oo wiil yar ismooday baad tahay. you may as well stay bachelor for rest of your life as your expiry date is due soon

[DANGIRL]

Let's be honest, this isn't about afraid of commitment,maybe you should look at yourself and the expectation you have of yourself and see if you really are happy with yourself.Perhaps its not really about fear of commitment when its really about fear of failing in whatever relationship you are in.You might wanna go see a shrink about this.

looool@faisah

[Ashlee]

PS. I had a lion share of the blame..but some if not most of women dont seem to get me or at least make me feel at ease..
When I most need it.

Maybe your expectations are too high?

Or maybe whenever you get close to someone you find a reason to sabotage the relationship because you don't want to be in a committed relationship ( not because you're afraid of being in one).

[ms.nalia]

Let's be honest, this isn't about afraid of commitment,maybe you should look at yourself and the expectation you have of yourself and see if you really are happy with yourself.Perhaps its not really about fear of commitment when its really about fear of failing in whatever relationship you are in.You might wanna go see a shrink about this.

I think she has a good point. Perhaps your afraid that it might fail...or even worse, your afraid that it might succeed. Relationships are not about I get 100% while i gave say 98%....its a two way street.
Or maybe your afraid to give up control...when your in a relationshiop its only as good as the couple make it and since your entering into a joint venture, you no longer have full control, your a partner at that point where you take the responsability as well as any gratifaction that comes out of that relationship jointly...and being vested is a big step to letting go of full control.
DANGRIL is right, the problem is most likely within, not the other women that you have dated. You need to be committed to yourself first and foremost and then venture into a relationship with another woman....its not fair to her nor you to be half there....
my two cents!

[gurey25]

what's wrong with older guys new days?
wa yaab.
ader even me im not scared.
if i got some one in grade 10 wan aroosi laha.
but the parents are trouble makers newa days.

mashallah you are so sweet and innocent.
your parents should set you up straight away after you finish High school.
you should be married by 18.

[FAH1223]

what's wrong with older guys new days?
wa yaab.
ader even me im not scared.
if i got some one in grade 10 wan aroosi laha.
but the parents are trouble makers newa days.

so guurso,

[gurey25]

frankly i am scared stiff
commitment and the Mword is freaking me out these days.

my parents expect me to close the deal in a couple of months,
and i feel like i am a lamb bieng led to my slaughter.

[ms.nalia]

frankly i am scared stiff
commitment and the Mword is freaking me out these days.

my parents expect me to close the deal in a couple of months,
and i feel like i am a lamb bieng led to my slaughter.

You should step back then and take a breather from it all....marriage is something you dont go into lightly.
You have to find a way to tell your parents..."wuw, i need some time to think about this"
cause you only wanna do this once.....

[gurey25]

i wish it was that easy

[Navy9]

Why worry too much, adeer do not get married! Marriage is not for everyone