Should you tell your wive everything?

[LadyKastumo]

bunch of wackos

[kambuli]

Eternuta,quote " kambuli, I would provide my future wife what Islam requires me to provide her, and maybe a little bit more. However, I wouldn't let my future wife know everything.

Are you saying Islam teaches us to hide things from your wife? Walaal Ilaahay ka baq waaku sidee

[eternauta]

Eternuta,quote " kambuli, I would provide my future wife what Islam requires me to provide her, and maybe a little bit more. However, I wouldn't let my future wife know everything.

Are you saying Islam teaches us to hide things from your wife? Walaal Ilaahay ka baq waaku sidee

kambuli, there's at least on thing that you hide from even your your parents and siblings. Common sense dictates that you will hide at least one thing. I'll give you an example of what I'm likely to hide from my future wife; an account I open for my parents or other close relatives. A portion of my income/savings will go to that account.

[Firefly]

Eternuta,quote " kambuli, I would provide my future wife what Islam requires me to provide her, and maybe a little bit more. However, I wouldn't let my future wife know everything.

Are you saying Islam teaches us to hide things from your wife? Walaal Ilaahay ka baq waaku sidee

kambuli, there's at least on thing that you hide from even your your parents and siblings. Common sense dictates that you will hide at least one thing. I'll give you an example of what I'm likely to hide from my future wife; an account I open for my parents or other close relatives. A portion of my income/savings will go to that account.

I don't understand why you would hide that from your wife? Don't you think she'll want/support you in opening an account for your parents/relatives? Any loving wife would let you do what you want with your money - provided that you take care of your duty as husband. The whole point of marriage is that you share things, your most intimate feelings, your desires, and goals. The most vital ingredient of any marriage is trust - if there's no trust, there is no honesty. I don't think I could live with a person who couldn't answer any question I may ask on the spot. What have you got to hide from your spouse? Your lifetime partner - we aren't talking about girlfriends here. We're talking about the mother of your children, how on earth could you hide things from her?

[INCONSPICUOUS]

if you pick your wife carefully you want have to hide things

[mwaura]

FCUK NOOOOOOOO!!!! TELL HER EVERYTHING??? Your mistresses,all your bank accounts and passwords-not in the real world. Let her know your cowives,and thats about it apart from the joint account.
Its not necessarily about trust. 4 years ago a guy,thinking much like you had a wife drain their joint account of 200,000 $ in Nairobi. A true story cos I know him personally,not one of those 3rd hand urban myths. She gave the money to some 'christian' group to get in with god.

[Hyperactive]

i am not abligated to tell my assets and money.
i'll give her enough and little more
since im planing to marry more than one wife.
for securety reasons not telling her my money
but will tell her i'll be marrying another wife or another 2 wives
even before she agrees to marry me.

[kambuli]

Waar bal horta iska aamusa, wax ku hadli maysaane !

How do you know you will make more money than your wife in the first place Waxaan maqli jirey;" Quud aadan hayn, qoryo u guro"..

Eternuta,

What kind of women wouldn't be happy with money given to your parents? Why do you want marry that kind of a women in the first place..Acuudu Bilaah...Sidee ayaad ugu hawoon kartaa naag aan rabin waalidkaa?

Hyper,

Adiga gabadhii waanigii kaala noqdey markaad tidhi, "Dhowr baan guursanayaa"

Firefly,

Thanks

[ms.nalia]

I will probably not tell everything about my finances...but I dont mind teling him my salary and if we have a join account, thats also a possibilty....it would make paying the bills alot easier if we have a joint acocunt....
but I will still have my own savings and retiremnt plan seperate from his and I would encourage him to do the same......

I mean...afterall if there is a marriage breakdown...unless he/she has money in the cayman islands or a swiss account....everything will unravel itself...and she/he will take half or whatever judge rules....

[Hyperactive]

Hyper,

Adiga gabadhii waanigii kaala noqdey markaad tidhi, "Dhowr baan guursanayaa"

wallah my eedo Z she said same to.
she said i wont get you a wife if you want to be like your father and uncles.lol

[eternauta]

i am not abligated to tell my assets and money.
i'll give her enough and little more
since im planing to marry more than one wife.
for securety reasons not telling her my money
but will tell her i'll be marrying another wife or another 2 wives
even before she agrees to marry me.

We're on the same page, sheikh hyper. I wouldn't marry a woman who isn't open to the idea of me marrying other than her.

Eternuta,

What kind of women wouldn't be happy with money given to your parents? Why do you want marry that kind of a women in the first place..Acuudu Bilaah...Sidee ayaad ugu hawoon kartaa naag aan rabin waalidkaa?

kambuli, it's for security (as sheikh hyper stated) and common sense reasons. Of course, there are some wives who wouldn't be happy with money given to your parents. Bear in mind, there's the possibility of divorce. Besides, I'm not obligated to tell my future wife everything about my assets and money. After I fulfill the needs of my wife, I'm free to do with my assets and money however I see them fit without telling her.

[Foxy22]

Bal magalo joogxumada kasocoto meeshaan is simply daunting... tii goobad faro laguma haayo tii labaad, sadaxaad iyo afaraad aa plans loo dhiganaa. Bal how do you know you will wake up tomorrow? Please do include Inshallah in your magalo joogxumo

[Hyperactive]

Bal magalo joogxumada kasocoto meeshaan is simply daunting... tii goobad faro laguma haayo tii labaad, sadaxaad iyo afaraad aa plans loo dhiganaa. Bal how do you know you will wake up tomorrow? Please do include Inshallah in your magalo joogxumo

wallahi wad iga qoslisisey.
i said it inshallah but i didnt type it.
hajiya FOXy anaanta naga daa.lol

[Foxy22]

Bal magalo joogxumada kasocoto meeshaan is simply daunting... tii goobad faro laguma haayo tii labaad, sadaxaad iyo afaraad aa plans loo dhiganaa. Bal how do you know you will wake up tomorrow? Please do include Inshallah in your magalo joogxumo

wallahi wad iga qoslisisey.
i said it inshallah but i didnt type it.
hajiya FOXy anaanta naga daa.lol

lol@hyper

[Beenaale_No1]

Eternuta,quote " kambuli, I would provide my future wife what Islam requires me to provide her, and maybe a little bit more. However, I wouldn't let my future wife know everything.

Are you saying Islam teaches us to hide things from your wife? Walaal Ilaahay ka baq waaku sidee

kambuli, there's at least on thing that you hide from even your your parents and siblings. Common sense dictates that you will hide at least one thing. I'll give you an example of what I'm likely to hide from my future wife; an account I open for my parents or other close relatives. A portion of my income/savings will go to that account.

I don't understand why you would hide that from your wife? Don't you think she'll want/support you in opening an account for your parents/relatives? Any loving wife would let you do what you want with your money - provided that you take care of your duty as husband. The whole point of marriage is that you share things, your most intimate feelings, your desires, and goals. The most vital ingredient of any marriage is trust - if there's no trust, there is no honesty. I don't think I could live with a person who couldn't answer any question I may ask on the spot. What have you got to hide from your spouse? Your lifetime partner - we aren't talking about girlfriends here. We're talking about the mother of your children, how on earth could you hide things from her?

That was a very good point.