Question for the girls

[surrender]

Would you ever consider moving in with you husbands family, first year or two after marriage? or would you demand to get your own place? Possibly have your first kid whilst living with your in laws?

This is common amongst pakistani families, laakin alien to modern day somalis. What do you reckon?

i wouldnt go ahead with the marriage without a house of my own first.living with the in-laws!! are you havin a laugh!!!??

[wastegal]

I want P.R.I.V.A.C.Y in my own bedroom

[Htologist]

I want P.R.I.V.A.C.Y in my own bedroom

Westgal, I wouldn't want my mother-in-law il xun igu fiireneysa next morning, because the night before bay ka seexan wayday ...................

[Enlightened~Sista]

They are adults and are probably doing it themselves..as long as there are no kids sharing the parents bedroom..then theres no problem.

[HELWAA]

Never!...A married couple need to get know eachother in private ...i mean how can you even go naked in ur own home when inlows are there...bisinka

[Htologist]

Never!...A married couple need to get know eachother in private ...i mean how can you even go naked in ur own home when inlows are there...bisinka

*Shocked* So you are saying, you the type of woman that runs around the house NAKED?
Will you cook naked if I was there with you? of course as your husband lol..

[HELWAA]

Hot

I dont see anything wrong with being naked in ur home when you are alone with ur husband....i mean he already see u every night with no cloth.

[Htologist]

Thanks Helwaa, you gave me the answer I was looking for, Nooloow!

[wastegal]

I want P.R.I.V.A.C.Y in my own bedroom

Westgal, I wouldn't want my mother-in-law il xun igu fiireneysa next morning, because the night before bay ka seexan wayday ...................

yea thats true thats why i want my own privacy in my own room, in my own house

[FAH1223]

Interesting comments...

Many of you have a tainted cartoon view of mother in laws, there not always evil.

As for those who claim that you shouldnt get married young etc. In my case I already have a degree, working my first graduate job, nearly 22, earning decent money (alhamdulilah), but it was one option i was considering. Besides i'd rather do that then claim cayd that i am not entitled to.

Also some of you have the mentality that getting married young is dumb. WTH did the prophet saw advise men to get married in order to guard their chasity? from the ages of 18-24 it is very hard for men to resist zina, is marriage then not the best option?

Sxb we all know the Prophet SAW advised us to get married young. But it isn't always about financials, although it plays a role.

I talked to a brother who just graduated at my Uni and he thought our MSA should have a full blown discussion about marriage. But the problem is, the girls are much more mature than the guys (even in the early 20s) and most of the time us dudes think about is "Lets ****" and not much else, no other sense of responsibility comes to mind.

So we are advised to marry young, but wallahi I think there is a such a thing as "too young" even at 21, fresh out of Uni...

There is quite a large number of girls already divorced around our age groups already...it is a tabboo subject most definitely

but it also depends on the environment...I think in the Muslim world, it is much more practical to get married young, IMO...

Anyway, I think you seem like a responsible dude who is already ahead of the game so I don't think you'd have much of a problem But I disagree about staying with hooyo..

My mom is a people person, so is my father...they rarely have any problem with anyone, but I cannot imagine them letting me stay in their house being a married man (which has all of the responsibility attatched to it)...they'll let me stay at home as long as I'm in school, doing something with my life...but marriage...I think you and your wife need to be alone in your own setting.

I can see the benefits of staying at home. A good friend of my father, his family owns 2 large houses...the whole family is there and they save a lot of money with everyone paying the bills and since the houses are huge there is a lot of space for everyone...

[RebelLion]

Koronto/kolombo

It's not mut'ca unless one specifies that the marriage would be temporary. It's better than being broke students, married and living with your parents. Most of these young marriages end up in divorce anyways, this way there is no commitment, financial burden and everyone is happy.

[Enlightened~Sista]

Rebel are you out of your mind? Using religion to justify your lack of self discipline.


You're saying most of these marriages end up in divorce..tell me..how many of these cohabiting relationships end up in seperation.

[RebelLion]

ES

I'm not saying I would do it, but I see the practicality of it.

[Enlightened~Sista]

oooh okaaay Look you dont have to 'confess' anything to me!

I can see the practicality of it..when people are away travelling..but i cant understand the point of temp.marriages when you're broke , irresponsible and horny as hell ..masturbation would make more sense in this kind of situation

[Muwahhidah_1]

I can see the benefits of staying at home. A good friend of my father, his family owns 2 large houses...the whole family is there and they save a lot of money with everyone paying the bills and since the houses are huge there is a lot of space for everyone...

See I would not mind that, I would actually say that that's financially savvy but even then your home is still supposed to be a place of comfort. Spouses can do whatever they want but with parents there, it's kind of hard because there still has to be a certain level of hayaa.

Yes we are advised to marry young if we cannot withhold our desires, but people have to understand that in this world you can no longer live on only one income. Even if your husband works two jobs because he wants you to stay at home and mother your children there are still other responsibilities such as maintaining the home and what have you. People don't understand what a big responsibility marriage really is.