Do not Marry 7 types of Women

[RebelLion]

#3 Doesn't seem that bad, but the rest should definitely be avoided.

[FAH1223]

These things the Sheikh has listed are basic, you can pretty much figure it out from a convo. i.e. if someone talks too much, talks too much about themselves, wears too much slap and beautifies oneself, whines about pretty things...etc! Its so basic, seriously.. anyone who genuinelly believe you have to live with the person for life, or ''get to know'' the person before hand years and years to find these things out is just opening the doors to Zina in my opinon. & That just another level.

Whoa Whoa, who said anything about zina?

I just don't think you can tell about some people...everyone is so nice and polite in first meetings/impressions

[Alchemist]

Foxy22 just let me know if you want to see my pic. Anyways why do you ask?

I just found you fascinating that is all... no I don't want to see your picture a simple yes or no would have been enough.

I dont wear qamis unless on especially occasion.. As for how much of a gardhere i am. to be honest i dont know how to answer such a question.gardhere do you mean as in the sunnah of the prophet?. Is like asking how much of a muslim i am..

as for the other words, i dont know what they mean..

[Lil_Cutie..]

[quote="FAH1223"][quote="Lil_Cutie.."]

These things the Sheikh has listed are basic, you can pretty much figure it out from a convo. i.e. if someone talks too much, talks too much about themselves, wears too much slap and beautifies oneself, whines about pretty things...etc! Its so basic, seriously.. anyone who genuinelly believe you have to live with the person for life, or ''get to know'' the person before hand years and years to find these things out is just opening the doors to Zina in my opinon. & That just another level.[/quote]

Whoa Whoa, who said anything about zina?

I just don't think you can tell about some people...everyone is so nice and polite in first meetings/impressions [/quote]



I'm really sorry, I didnt mean YOU personally. Forget me!
Theres just so many posts in here stating that and the general vibe seems to be just that.. and perhaps they dont know about Zina, & how the shaydaan works his way .

Yes to an extent you it is difficult. But if both of you want to get married you'll be straight up, no nac-nac talk.. What you expect from eachother and in front of Allah. Ofcourse, if you're meeting this person through family/friend etc.. they MUST give you the info about that person, they may not know everything but theres general vibes in convo's..

[Foxy22]

Foxy22 just let me know if you want to see my pic. Anyways why do you ask?

I just found you fascinating that is all... no I don't want to see your picture a simple yes or no would have been enough.

I dont wear qamis unless on especially occasion.. As for how much of a gardhere i am. to be honest i dont know how to answer such a question.gardhere do you mean as in the sunnah of the prophet?. Is like asking how much of a muslim i am..

as for the other words, i dont know what they mean..

Don't mind me I am just high on cough medicine and few other pain killers... no I am not a junky I am just sick.

[Alchemist]

Foxy22 im home sick too.. aint that something..

[Foxy22]

Foxy22 im home sick too.. aint that something..

Alchemist, ohh poor you too. I just want to cry... I have been so sick from Friday... I am just waiting now for my husband to wake up and make me tea I am going to hold my tears till he wakes up then I will just cry like there is no tomorrow.

[Alchemist]

Foxy22 im home sick too.. aint that something..

Alchemist, ohh poor you too. I just want to cry... I have been so sick from Friday... I am just waiting now for my husband to wake up and make me tea I am going to hold my tears till he wakes up then I will just cry like there is no tomorrow.

Yeah, when your sick nothing else matters..

[Firefly]

Foxy22 & Alchemist:- Aww, I hope both of you feel better soon, Insha-Allah.

Back to the topic,

That's interesting. How much whining & moaning is considered whining and moaning? Is now & then okay? I don't understand number 3, what's wrong with craving for your former husband's children? The children are still hers, as long as she doesn't use the children to get back at the husband, is that what it is referring to?

[Alchemist]

Everyone before you'll jump on the shayk (may Allah have mercy on him) about #3. just know that the article is probably a rough translation so some of the meaning might have been lost..

Firefly thanks sis

[Cawar]

IMO..90% of women have some of these qualities at some points n their lives..

Any of you had some sort of a long relationships with women??
they all whine, fake headaches, like things be bought for them..talk too much..and I am sure that I am being generous here

[Foxy22]

IMO..90% of women have some of these qualities at some points n their lives..

Any of you had some sort of a long relationships with women??
they all whine, fake headaches, like things be bought for them..talk too much..and I am sure that I am being generous here

and this is why you will always stay single.

Firefly, thank you sis.

Alchemist, who is making you tea? I have 3 more minutes till my tea maker I mean my lovely dude wakes up. I hope he is not sick too... then I am really going to cry.. I want my mommy!!!

[*Amal]

Ohh and guys, for those of you using the lame line that you can not possibly know all this about your future wife..you can not be more wrong. These are merely basics. Ofcourse you can tell these things from the first meetings!!

well i dunno, you dont really know these things until you live with someone

These things the Sheikh has listed are basic, you can pretty much figure it out from a convo. i.e. if someone talks too much, talks too much about themselves, wears too much slap and beautifies oneself, whines about pretty things...etc! Its so basic, seriously.. anyone who genuinelly believe you have to live with the person for life, or ''get to know'' the person before hand years and years to find these things out is just opening the doors to Zina in my opinon. & That just another level.

I think the minute someone sets themself up for meeting in a halal manner then you can pretty much tell that they're the serious type. Unfortunately for a lot of couples, after they get married the facade is off and then the moaning and groaning starts.

#3 still confuses me, I want to see the full article.

[SummerRain]

assalamu a'leykum, a simple advice by the shiekh muhammed salih ibn al utheymeen (rahimahuallah).

1. Al-Annaanah: The woman who whines, moans and complains and ties a band around her head all the time (i.e complains of a headache or some illness but in reality she is not sick, rather she is faking).

2. Al-Mannaanah: The woman who bestows favors, gifts, etc. upon her husband then (at that time or the future) says; "I did such and such for you or on your behalf or because of you.

3. Al-Hannaanah: The women who yearns or craves for her former husband or children of the former husband.

4. Kay'atul-Qafaa: lit. has a brand mark on the nape of her neck (i.e. has a bad reputation or doubts about her).

5. Al-Haddaaqah: The women who lit. cast her eyes at things (i.e. always looking at something to purchase, then desires it and requires her husband to buy it (No Matter What).

6. Al-Barraaqah: The women who spends much of her day enhancing her face and beautifying it to such an extent that it will seem like it was manufactured.

7. Al-Shaddaaqah: The woman who talks excessively.

Do not Marry 7 types of Women By: Ash-Shaykh Uthaymeen Taken From The Book: A Concise Manual of Marriage

Sorry, but these are all characteristic of a everyday woman. Bal maxaa hare hadee ayakana la guursankarin?

[Abtiga]

In #3, My attention was focused on the cravings and/or yearning for the former husband. This woman is supposedly married or getting married. How does that square with her husband or with the man interested in her? Each one of you women in here put yourselves in this situation and deal with a husband who craves for his ex-wive openly, or imagine to deal with a man who wants to marry you but who expresses yearning for his ex-wife. What do you think?

I don't know about the kids part in the quote and whether it should be there, or it was originally there. Naturally, mothers have deep affinities for and ties to their children, the unbreakable bond of motherhood, so the yearning for the children doesn't look what the sheekh would consider imperfect attitude. Seeing the original arabic lecture is important to understand what he meant. Hope this clarifies some of the confusion.