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Captain24 wrote:

Basra- wrote: I rather be in an abusive marriage than get a divorce. The embarrasment of divorce is far worst,it reflects to your personal failure, as a woman, a wife, a muslim etc etc. I rather hubby be abusive, heck i could turn that abusiveness into erotic positive fetishness. to me Divorce is worst.

Speaking of experience? This is how a single mom knows the value of being married

Captain,

Horaa loo yiri, DAB AAN KULEYLKIISA LA ARAG, DAMBASKIISA LAGAMA LEEXDO. Ayeeyo indeed knows these drills too well.

[quote="xidigow"][quote="Captain24"][quote="Basra-"] I rather be in an abusive marriage than get a divorce. The embarrasment of divorce is far worst,it reflects to your personal failure, as a woman, a wife, a muslim etc etc. I rather hubby be abusive, heck i could turn that abusiveness into erotic positive fetishness. to me Divorce is worst. [/quote]

Speaking of experience? This is how a single mom knows the value of being married[/quote]

Captain,

Horaa loo yiri, DAB AAN KULEYLKIISA LA ARAG, DAMBASKIISA LAGAMA LEEXDO. Ayeeyo indeed knows these drills too well.[/quote]



i always get xaajiin excitement when xidigow responds to my posts. I dont want to say its orgasmic since it is ramadhan, istaqfurula.

Ayantu, Your enthusiasm is futile. At the end of the day, you are a female. If you can make your husband happy , I don't see a reason why he would beat you or divorce you. You have to make sure not to give the guy a reason to divorce you. He won't do it if you are god fearing respectful women

Ms.Nalia, abaayo why don't you explain yourself? I know you grew up in the west, and It might seem ignorant, but walaahi that's the harsh truth. The amount of Single moms roaming around the city is alarming


Xidigow

Captain24 wrote:Ayantu, Your enthusiasm is futile. At the end of the day, you are a female if you can make your happy , I don't see a reason why he would beat you or divorce you. You have to make sure not to give the guy a reason to divorce you. He won't do it if you are god fearing respectful women

Ms.Nalia, abaayo why don't you explain yourself? I know you grew up in the west, and It might seem ignorant, but walaahi that's the harsh truth. The amount of Single moms roaming around the city is alarming


Xidigow

Do you ever think it's because somali men, especially back home have no sence of Responsibilty?
waste wallahi

Ismahan horta ma aragtay, niminka qarkood when they divorce the wife they sadly divorce the kids too, naagtaa ayaa la nacaan, ilmaha, bal waxas maxa waaye.

MJ-Pride, Marriage is not about a bad husband or a good woman, it doesn't work like that, it's not that simple, it's a partnership, but when the partnership is not working anymore for neither parties involved then divorce becomes inevitable, and no one is to blame, though society tends to blame women more, and men most cases walk a way scratch free. In all honesty, niman iyo naago aad u dulqaad badan ayaa jiro, may Allah bless their souls. In my opinion divorce is a horrible thing, ilaahay ha naga badbadiyo.

Nabeela, thank you for understanding my point. All I am trying to say is, when a divorce happens, the women would get most of the blame(In Somali tradition). I am just trying to advice women to be a good wife by trying to keep the family intact more than men.

Captain24 wrote:Nabeela, thank you for understanding my point. All I am trying to say is, when a divorce happens, the women would get most of the blame(In Somali tradition). I am just trying to advice women to be a good wife by trying to keep the family intact more than men.

Captin 24
You mean shut up and take it.....for the good of ur "famliy name" or ppl back talk you.

Uff

Nabeela hun i completly agree with you tooo.

Ayantu, with attitude like this, I won't be surprised to see you dragging a kid or two in the streets and spending long nights alone in the bed

Depending on where sxb. If you mean in the West, I agree but if you mean Africa, I disagree.

women in africa are divorced as simply as adding too much salt on food for oneday.

excutieve ingreeskaas ma garanays Single motherku wa buux but the problem is ragga wadda bila naagta ah dayday ga ah go there for tumasho back in the days markaan naagaha eryaan jiiray i used to do that 2 laakin waxan la yaaba.
Why do the Somali single mother have sex with niman anay is qabin Waxay ku odhanaysa well i am not a virgin any more maxa iga galay And say jaw .. oo marka maad siinaysanaysa Just becaus wa lugu so furray in islam naag nin waxay uu tagi karta marku uu qabo uu kaliya

Captain24 wrote:Ayantu, with attitude like this, I won't be surprised to see you dragging a kid or two in the streets and spending long nights alone in the bed

lol
i dought that....i got mine on lock

You on the other hand....let me know who gets to keep your beloved shae pot

Captain24 wrote:
Ms.Nalia, abaayo why don't you explain yourself? I know you grew up in the west, and It might seem ignorant, but walaahi that's the harsh truth. The amount of Single moms roaming around the city is alarming

oh my bad? I didnt know Somali had to put up with BS just so that men like you dont stigmitize them. I've lived in the west the middle east and africa and yes every single place has taught me something. But to sit back and let a slefish bastard ruin my life? I dont effn think so
What kind of brother are you frist of all? How da hell are you going to tell your sister, your own flesh and blood to go back to a man who raised his hands to her? How da hell are you going to let any nephews and neices be subjected that kind of behaviour? Have you balls?
Second of all, although failures in the marriage can be the result of both parties, your going to tell us that "good wives" dont get divorced? What kind of BS are u running.
How selfish and self obsorbed one must be to say that a good woman would stick to a bad man to change him but reversly it should not apply. Dont you know that you cant change a person...Esp. a man; if they dont want to change themselves.
But Im pretty sure what I just said is pointless; you are after-all the the brother who would tell his own sister to go back to an absuive man to try n change him.

Captain,

utter bullshit! ever thought that the wife might have been with her useless up to no good husband for years and finally had enough of him? a man who doesn't do shit let alone works, who hangs around with his so called mates who are all into drugs etc and does shit around the house is definitely not a man let alone a husband. so no, just because a wife asks for a divorce does not mean that she is or ever was a bad wife!

Nabeela wrote:Ismahan horta ma aragtay, niminka qarkood when they divorce the wife they sadly divorce the kids too, naagtaa ayaa la nacaan, ilmaha, bal waxas maxa waaye.

MJ-Pride, Marriage is not about a bad husband or a good woman, it doesn't work like that, it's not that simple, it's a partnership, but when the partnership is not working anymore for neither parties involved then divorce becomes inevitable, and no one is to blame, though society tends to blame women more, and men most cases walk a way scratch free. In all honesty, niman iyo naago aad u dulqaad badan ayaa jiro, may Allah bless their souls. In my opinion divorce is a horrible thing, ilaahay ha naga badbadiyo.

Nab,

That is not 100% true, sometimes men take the blame. Also, nowadays there are women walking out from their kids life.

WOOOOOW
If "you are after-all the the brother who would tell his own sister to go back to an absuive man to try n change him."

I think this convo is DONE

Peace and Baris ppl!