kambuli wrote:
Gedo,
So in other words you are helping out those women??? How about the one you are breaking her heart? Trust me she may say, I am ok with it "Akhi" but deep down she is boiling...No women wants to share her hsuband with another women... Believe me waxaan isku tiriyaa, la iguna sheegaa qof aad u iimaan badan..But I wouldn't be able to accept with sharing issue.....Maybe, maybe if my husband was very good and kind to me, and for some reason from my side I couldn't have babies...Then maybe, maybe I would ask him to marry another wife and not near me..maybe back home
kambuli, you know how there are so much more women than men now, do you think ALL of them will get married? What is your humane solution for this? For whichever women can get married to get married, and let the rest live a miserable life single or fall into sin by just sleeping around b/c they need a man?
When a woman cannot get married after some time, believe me most women would like to be married to a guy who already has a wife than not get married at all. Why do you think you hear of women sleeping with married men?
AbdiWahab252 wrote:Gedoboy,
And you don't want wife # 1 to get any cuqdad if you upgrade to a garoob with children or an older woman.
Its easier for her to understand if wife # 2 is a stunner

P.S. Don't become a SOCIAL WORKER ! Leave that to Xidigow & other Garoob Social Workers

I never thought of it from that perspective, I thought the wife would get more jealous if the 2nd one was a stunner. That could be the real cuqdad.
Come to think of it, I would probably marry a woman w/ kids if she was a widow, because if the husband is still alive it is his responsibility to take care of the kids. If the kids are orphans, it is society's responsibility.