Is Married Life Boring??

[abdi342]

That M word just freaks me out. People please don't rush to marriage, first get engaged to ur boy/girlfried and move in 2ghther, if yall can make it through engagement than yall'll make it through marrige...if not than he/she is not for u.
No wounder why so many somali marriges fail cause they rush to marriage. Don't get married cause ur desprate, want to have kids, or ur biological clock is ticking. Wheather ur 18 or 75 there is someone out there for u, know that person inside/out before u make the big stap.
Peace out.

Donot exhort people to commit sin. It is useless and westernized advice you posted. You encourage boy and girl must move in and live together before marriage so if they are both satisfied with sex then they will marry or leave each other. Ina lilaah wa inaa ileyhi raajicuun.

Men do not practise the rules of the family and that results in divorce. The women have rights and the men have rights too. But each part must acknowledge his/her real deeds for the family. If you love some one you love him from heart but not from words of LOVE. You should pamper with sincer and respect utmost.
LOVE is important and must be from both sides. We know the word but we do not perform but instead have self-intrest. That is the difference. It is asif you said I know there is Allah but I donot perform his commands so your believe is null and void as long as you donot do what he commanded you to do.

Good luck

[Smile-LiKe-SuN-RiSE]

What are u talking about dude u need to read again what I posted( ) If people get enganged and move in 2ghther is a sin? Is mahar a sin (:roll: ) I know alot of peopel that are engaged live and 2ghter.
Don't jump on clonclusions so fast bro

[BaasAbuur]

first get engaged to ur boy/girlfried and move in 2ghther, if yall can make it through engagement than yall'll make it through marrige

How long is long enough to live with you girlfriend before you make official? After how many babies exactly?

[Firefly]

What are u talking about dude u need to read again what I posted( ) If people get enganged and move in 2ghther is a sin? Is mahar a sin (:roll: ) I know alot of peopel that are engaged live and 2ghter.
Don't jump on clonclusions so fast bro

Sis you're right, there is a concept of engagement in Islam, but it does not permit the man and the woman to live together because technically you're not married. So he is still a non-mahram to you, but you are engaged since he has made a promise to you of marriage, and that's all engagement means in Islam. Basically, you have to get a nikaah and only then can you live together as husband and wife ( you can't live together as bf/gf under any circumstance, that's impermissible). Sis, you're right Mahr is not a sin because Mahr=dowry, the dowry/gift the bridegroom gives to his bride as part of the marriage contract.

[abdi342]

What are u talking about dude u need to read again what I posted( ) If people get enganged and move in 2ghther is a sin? Is mahar a sin (:roll: ) I know alot of peopel that are engaged live and 2ghter.
Don't jump on clonclusions so fast bro

First donot try to induce me to believe in your distortion. How old are you? Do your mom and dad allow you to move in when you are engaged? Engagement is proposal and it is not permissiable. When your dad marrys you off at the same night you will be seen off and brought you at your husband`s house.

I wish you good luck

[Firefly]

abdi342:- Are you talking to me walaal? Or are you talking to Smile-LiKe-SuN-RiSE?

[abdi342]

abdi342:- Are you talking to me walaal? Or are you talking to Smile-LiKe-SuN-RiSE?

Nope. You seem to be pious according to your post.

I wish you good luck

[BaasAbuur]

there is a concept of engagement in Islam, but it does not permit the man and the woman to live together because technically you're not married.

Really? What is it called and what is the purpose of it? I have never heard of such thing. I always thought that when a Muslim couple got engaged, it was pretty much the end of it and that the marriage is finalized.

[Firefly]

abdi342:- lol@pious. I'm not quite there yet, but thank you walaal. Lets not be harsh on the sista, I think she is quite young, so it's better to advice her in a gentle manner, because she's more likely to take the advice, insha-Allah.

there is a concept of engagement in Islam, but it does not permit the man and the woman to live together because technically you're not married.

Really? What is it called and what is the purpose of it? I have never heard of such thing. I always thought that when a Muslim couple got engaged, it was pretty much the end of it and that the marriage is finalized.

I had a feelin' I didn't explain that clearly I also used to think once they're engaged, it's a done deal. However, engagement is only a means of the man letting the woman know he is interested in her, and wishes to marry her. They're not lawful to each other, because the engagement happens before the marriage contract takes place. So they're both non-mahram to each other. I don't know what it is called in Arabic, but the purpose of the engagement is to make your desire of marriage to that particular person known. The exchanging of engagement rings is not allowed tho, because it's imitating the Non-Muslims, and living together is not allowed because you're not recognized as husband and wife under Shariah Law.

Check out this site, walaal. It explains it more clearly.

http://www.islam-qa.com/en/ref/20069

[amina40000]

no its not if you have an amazing freaky husband who loves you to death. But to make sure your marriage is not boring. Live together first, get engaged and see if you are ment to be with him.

Marriage is amazing if its with your soulmate .

[Smile-LiKe-SuN-RiSE]

Amina that is what I am talking
U don't have to make babies if u want to throw a wedding.
I know nikaah as ur not haram to each other which means u can screw each other I thought mahar means nikaah
Listen religious old dude, I am not religious a person, and I am not going to argue about religion. Btw ur hypocrite, ur tribelist and religious person should be pure hearted u dig
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[abdi342]

To: Smile Sun Rise

I think you donot know what you are writting its exact meaning. You are mengling things however you seem to be more understandable. Where have you learnt English? It can be you are comparing English to Somali which is wrong. You took transcript of my post and called me a hypocrites. What is wrong with you in gods name! How can I be a MUNAAFIQ. You donot know me. I didnot talk about Islam. It is just because your brain limits what you see. You scramble and disappear for few minutes to see reactions over your post.

You called me QABIILISTE! How do you know it. I just said she can be from despised tribe what made her to marry that black guy. I meant she has no chance among Somalis boys as they will come after her background whilst her marriage ceremony. Again your abysmal brain limits what you see!

Ofcourse I am old but I use my common sense and I donot abuse any body. Look all my post Iam apologetic but you are ARROGANT! Why? You are a girl. Donot boast yourself but belittle always to achieve your goals.

[abdi342]

no its not if you have an amazing freaky husband who loves you to death. But to make sure your marriage is not boring. Live together first, get engaged and see if you are ment to be with him.

Marriage is amazing if its with your soulmate .

First donot hide yourself as a woman. Secondly do not reveal perversity among us. I know you amuse girls by telling such funny stories in order to attract attention but fear Allah. You are responsible for whatsoever your fingers type. I donot understand why only you guys like to hide and be grummpy. Shit do you know that you are giving bad example about your poeple? You are our future so donot be addicted to bad habits.

Now tell me what is so funny repeating and posting these staffs? You copied and added a slight words. If I were you I would help my mom in the kitchen than engrossing on internet.

I wish you good luck!

[amina40000]

abdi you seem to be fasinated with me and seem like a cyber stalker. Why are you roaming around women section and answering women posting? are you under closet gay guy? secondly if you are looking for attention seek somewhere else i'm happily married with a reall man who doesn't get initimated by little girls like you. stop hiding through religion your insecurity and lack of islam is truly clear through your posting. If you don't have something productive to say then go waste your 18 century mentality somewhere else. You seem very lonely and insecure typically late 30 loser who have nothign better to do then run after under aged girls on the net.

Now it makes sense when many single girls say that all good men are taken and losers and garoob are left on the market lol

[abdi342]

abdi you seem to be fasinated with me and seem like a cyber stalker. Why are you roaming around women section and answering women posting? are you under closet gay guy? secondly if you are looking for attention seek somewhere else i'm happily married with a reall man who doesn't get initimated by little girls like you. stop hiding through religion your insecurity and lack of islam is truly clear through your posting. If you don't have something productive to say then go waste your 18 century mentality somewhere else. You seem very lonely and insecure typically late 30 loser who have nothign better to do then run after under aged girls on the net.

Now it makes sense when many single girls say that all good men are taken and losers and garoob are left on the market lol

Kkkk You made me laugh. Shit your topic examplified how ignorant you are! I am dumbfounded in you. Am I wronged in you naming yourself a good girl married and has a nice husband yet loafing in Somalinet-furm? There must be something wrong with you! Leave unmarried people alone tell me what made you to come in here while you are nice and married. So you are going to play double cheating in marriage. Iam older than you and I admit that evenif you will be the last person on earth I would not marry you so go and whine on your pillow.

You wish you were married kkkkk sweat dream at home. Who is the hider in this section it is you adressing yourself as a girl. Feel confidence and uncover yourself then I can talk to you. NIN INTAADAN TUUG ODHAN BUU TUUG KU YIDHAAH!