Naaya Surrender isa so xadiri fadlan NOW

[zulaika]

surrender caadi ma'aha...waxbaa si ka ah...waa iska caadi dee.

lol caadi waan ahay Zulaika, i just would give my man bit of a freedom if you know what i mean. let him play. men are just like kids, give them lolipop, they'll play and e happy!!!

nope...nope...u lack expertise in certain areas dear....u need to master those areas so that your husband won't feel the need to be "free"

[zulaika]

but you never(hardly ever) see a wife saying thank you my dear husband for bringing the food and the money on the table every day and every month.. waa cajiib..

u never see?

il-dhoqos...that's why its very important to see with both eyes...magaratey?

Seeing/hearing you got the gist.. so you are not denying it..which means I am right.
Does not matter if I see doubles ot triples..even better that way I think.

nope..u are wrong...horta you're not even married adiga so what's your problem

[Cawar]

Z, Me have no problemo.. but as they say..: Hirku intuusan ku soo gaarin baa laga quusaa/muuda..

I am giving my .02 cents about the things I have seen others go through.. and me thinks you are not being totally frank about the issue at hand to say the least.
PS. your little pep talk to surrender(as evidence) about keeping the man busy and never let him have time to be free or even think.

[SummerRain]

Yet in this thread :

viewtopic.php?f=18&t=201309&sid=60ae254408957bbb1171242bb6f9f940
you are passionately defending men's rights to polgamy and the need to follow Islamic teachings accordingly. Bal wax yar iifahamsi as I don't follow your clear stance into these things. Tell me how am I brain washed when you are the one willing to work a 9-5 shift, raise kids and let him have it his way i.e my main focuse Polygamy? be a stay home father etc.
You talk about women's rights yet you deprive yourself of your own basic rights by switch the role that Allah has given you as a women, a mother, a sister, a wife etc by falling for western ideology's quest for women equality when its crystal clear to us (Muslims) that when it comes to both genders they are equal in the eyes of ALLAH but serve different logistics in society. Again anigu kuma fahamsani, ma canjeelada suubaxi aa dubaasid ba kugu dhib ah mise adiga aya brain wash lagu samaye?

see i knew i was never going to be forgiven for that thread.! im going to try to explain where i statd with men/marriege/housewife/house work!!

i defend plogmay because is their right of life to have more than one women. is halaal for a man to have more than one wife in other words, and if he fufills he duties to me for example as a husband i don see why he shouldnt marry another women! i have no problem with it!!

but at the sametime i defend women's rights because i believe men and wome. YES do have different roles in life and can be equal in having those different roles. but there is nothing wrong with it if woman is willing to further her "role" in life as in education and work. there is no where that it states its haraam for women to work and go to school.

and at the sametime there is nothing wrong with it if the man is told or decides to help he's wife with houswork and the children. afterall, kaligeed maysan dhalin!!! its just our cuture (in fact many cultures) that states men/boys should sit on their as.s whilst the girl does everything at home. i surely wont raise my kids, boys or girls that way in'sha'alaah.

long story short, men can have more than one wife providing he fufills he's duties to the first one, women CAN/SHOULD work/educate if they want, and finally men SHOULD/HAVE to help their wife in the housework.

hope that answerd your question!!!

So let me get this clear. You absolutely don't mind if your husband becomes a stay home dad while you work full-time? Also have him potentially take up another wife? Do I read you correct?

[surrender]

i dont mind if my husband marries another women PROVIDING that he fufills he's duties to me!!!


i DO mind that he stays at home. he has to work, but im saying he also has to help me at home!!

and i dont mind if i stay at home some days whilst he's at wrk or visa versa!!!

[SummerRain]

Surrender,

Let me know when you write that contract dear. We need to make sure lot of things are clear to your future husband as things seem really blurry at this point.

[surrender]

nothing seems to be blurry to me lol. you guys are just pure selffishiin!!! give him something, he'll give you something back!!!

[Madd_Scientist_]

nothing seems to be blurry to me lol. you guys are just pure selffishiin!!! give him something, he'll give you something back!!!

heartache...that's what he'll give you.

[zulaika]

Z, Me have no problemo.. but as they say..: Hirku intuusan ku soo gaarin baa laga quusaa/muuda..

I am giving my .02 cents about the things I have seen others go through.. and me thinks you are not being totally frank about the issue at hand to say the least.
PS. your little pep talk to surrender(as evidence) about keeping the man busy and never let him have time to be free or even think.

so you basically drop this "ungrateful" indictment on all married women based on the marital fallacies of few? get a grip son...we not all "ungrateful"

as for my pep talk..there's nothing sinister about it, i am just advising my sister surrender of what to do to keep a man happy so he don't look elsewhere.

[surrender]

men have the right too look around 4x you can seduce them as much as you like. but is their righ of life!!!!

[Cali_Gaab]

Never thought i would say this.


Surrender, i think i'm developing feelings for you

[Madd_Scientist_]

surrender- you know what i don't understand, and i'm really hoping you can answer this for me, is..say you were married, your life was perfect, you were happy, your husband was happy...you've got everything you could ever ask for (kids, materialistic things etc) why would he want to be with someone else? because if he did then that would mean that something is lacking, you're not making him happy, you're not giving him whatever it is that he needs. All in all he's not satisfied with you. Am i right?

[zulaika]

men have the right too look around 4x you can decude them as much as you like. but is their righ of life!!!!

naa horta i will not discuss this issue with you here....asxaan baan kuu sameye and addressed you @ mss...where you got served.

[SummerRain]

Now I know why some men do what they do...

[Madd_Scientist_]

Now I know why some men do what they do...

...because of the females..who don't mind ruining a family.