Ok...one more push!!!

[surrender]

there's no way in hell my husband will see me like that! I will not allow it!

co-sign!

[shaamboo]

i would love to be there hold her hand and cut the umbilical

[HELWAA]

i would love to be there hold her hand and cut the umbilical

You will faint the minut u see the head walle. ..just imagin all the blood and the screaming and all the anger from the wife blaming u for all the pain swearing u will never touch her again.

[shaamboo]

helwa walaashiis if i was a man enough to fill her up i should be man enough to that

[Kolombo]

Seriously, what's the big deal with being there with your wife during her moment of need? Isn't marriage supposed to be about being supportive and taking care of each other? Not to mention being there to witness the birth of your child? Only cowards and sissy punks miss out on great moments like that. Like Helwaa already said, anything can go wrong, the poor woman needs a familiar face to draw courage from and someone to hold her together during the whole ordeal. I wouldn't miss it for anything in the world, insha Allah.

[Diyeeshaha_Tolka]

lol mid qaldaan oo aan sxb nahay ayaa wuxuu iska dhigay reer magaal oo wuxuu yiri,,dhalashada wiilkayga curudka ah goobjoog ayaan u ahaanaa,vidoe camera ayuu horay usii qaatay,laakiin ninkii wax yar kadib asagii ayaaba hospitalka la seexiyey oo wuu ku dhex suuxay..

[HELWAA]

helwa walaashiis if i was a man enough to fill her up i should be man enough to that

Good .I think it's good for many husbands to witness that so they see how much pain their wives go throu every time they have a child.Sharing that moment will bring them close together as couple.

After all isn't marriage is all about sharing good days and bad days.

[shaamboo]

helwa walaashiis if i was a man enough to fill her up i should be man enough to that

Good .I think it's good for many husbands to witness that so they see how much pain their wives go throu every time they have a child.Sharing that moment will bring them close together as couple.

After all isn't marriage is all about sharing good days and bad days.

Yes ma`m for good and bad

[Netanel]

i would never go it put me off sex 4 life
everytime we get intimate i picture a baby head coming out biting my Sh*t off

[zulaika]

It's best to have the husband there in case anything happens.In a split second ur life or the childs life can be in danger.You cant make any decisions when you're in that conditon so i would't be alone if i were u.

just like a major operations, the docs will still come out to consult the partner or next of kin..so its not an urgent matter that he be there right there in the delivery room.

personally i'd opt for him to stay out.

btw: its friggin' 2009..why are we women still screaming out of pain from childbirth ...my goodness people take a break from developing sophisticated weapons and fine a miracle drug to put us at ease during this difficult time.

[black velvet]

lol mid qaldaan oo aan sxb nahay ayaa wuxuu iska dhigay reer magaal oo wuxuu yiri,,dhalashada wiilkayga curudka ah goobjoog ayaan u ahaanaa,vidoe camera ayuu horay usii qaatay,laakiin ninkii wax yar kadib asagii ayaaba hospitalka la seexiyey oo wuu ku dhex suuxay..

[black velvet]

Zuli true say, if it were men that had to go through child birth they would have discovered something by now


I am in shock that there are men who WANT to be there

[HELWAA]

zuli

No pain killers will help u huuno....atleast u wont remember it, waxa la yeri ilmaha naagta marku sida uga soo baxo ma'laaikta ayaha dhagaha ka afoofta si ay xanuunka oo iloowdo.

Hadi xanuunka la xasuusan yahy naagina ilmo kale may dhasheen.

But if u have c section u wont feel a thing during the operation but after ward..ilaahy ha ku naxariisto

Ninkan dee marku ilmuhu abuurmay so isagu kamu danbeen..dee arintu markey qaraartna waa inu naagtisa ka ah dhaqaaqin

[Shirib]

It's best to have the husband there in case anything happens.In a split second ur life or the childs life can be in danger.You cant make any decisions when you're in that conditon so i would't be alone if i were u.

just like a major operations, the docs will still come out to consult the partner or next of kin..so its not an urgent matter that he be there right there in the delivery room.

personally i'd opt for him to stay out.

btw: its friggin' 2009..why are we women still screaming out of pain from childbirth ...my goodness people take a break from developing sophisticated weapons and fine a miracle drug to put us at ease during this difficult time.

This lady I know said that if men knew how child birth felt they would've already made a drug that made it a breeze

[black velvet]

You guys should actually read his argument

For many years, I have not been able to speak openly about my views that the presence of a father in a delivery room is not only unnecessary, but also hinders labour.
To utter such a thing over the past two decades would have been regarded as heresy, and flies in the face of popular convention.
But having been involved in childbirth for 50 years, and having been in charge of 15,000 births, I have reached the stage where I feel it is time to state what I - and many midwives and fellow obstetricians - privately consider the obvious.
That there is little good to come for either sex from having a man at the birth of a child.
For her, his presence is a hindrance, and a significant factor in why labours are longer, more painful and more likely to result in intervention than ever.

As for the effect on a man - well, was I surprised to hear a friend of mine state that watching his wife giving birth had started a chain of events that led to the couple's divorce?

For many men, the emotional fallout of watching their partner have their baby can never be overcome.

When I was first involved in obstetrics in the Fifties, it was unheard of for a man to be present as their child was born.
Childbirth was predominately a woman's business - usually carried out at home - and while a man may be in the vicinity at the time of labour, he would usually be found in the kitchen, boiling copious amounts of water, and therefore would miss the actual event.
However, by 1970, a handful of women started to ask for their husbands to be present at the birth, a shift that began to occur in many Western countries at about the same time.

There are a variety of reasons for this, including the fact that birth was being increasingly concentrated in hospitals rather than at home, and the rise of the smaller nuclear family meant women increasingly turned to their husbands for support in all areas of their life, rather than relying on their mothers or aunts.
What we didn't anticipate at the time was that this occasional demand from a handful of women would, in a matter of years, become doctrine.
By the late Seventies, all pregnant women were saying they could not imagine giving birth without their husband at their side.
And not only was the husband now nearly always present at birth, but with his wife clasping his hand during labour and screaming out for reassurance, he became an active participant.

At the time, it was widely believed there were many benefits to be had from the father's presence.
And even at the time, I had my reservations. I didn't want to judge, but I knew from experience that the presence of a man is not always a positive thing.
Fast-forward to today, and there is still a lack of scientific study on this subject.
But having been in charge of thousands of births, at homes, in hospitals, in the UK, in France, with the father present, with him absent, I have reached my own conclusions.
I am more and more convinced that the participation of the father is one of the main reasons for long and difficult labours.
And there are a number of basic physiological reasons for this.

First, a labouring woman needs to be protected against any stimulation of the thinking part of her brain - the neocortex - for labour to proceed with any degree of ease.
This part of the brain needs to take a back seat and allow the primal "unthinking" part of the brain connected to basic vital functions to take over.
A woman in labour needs to be in a private world where she doesn't have to think or talk.
Yet, motivated by a desire to "share the experience", the man asks questions and offers words of reassurance and advice.
In doing so, he denies his partner the quiet mind that she needs.

The second reason is that the father's release of the stress hormone adrenaline as he watches his partner labour causes her anxiety, and prevents her from relaxing.

No matter how much he tries to smile and appear relaxed, he cannot help but feel anxious. And the release of adrenaline is contagious.
It has been proven that it is physically impossible to be in a complete state of relaxation if there is an individual standing next to you who is tense and full of adrenaline.
The effect of this is that, with a man present, a woman cannot be as relaxed as she needs to be during labour, and hence the process becomes longer and more difficult.
We must keep in mind that mammals cannot release oxytocin - the key hormone in childbirth - when they are also being influenced by the stressful effects of hormones of the adrenaline family.

I have been with many women as they struggle to give birth with their partner at their side.
Yet the moment he leaves the room, the baby arrives. Afterwards, they say it was just "bad luck" he wasn't there the moment their child was born.
Luck, however, is little to do with it. The truth is that without him there, the woman is finally able to relax into labour in a way that speeds up delivery.
After birth, too, a woman needs a few moments alone with her baby, particularly between the time the child is born and she delivers the placenta.
And this is not just about her need to bond with her baby.

Physically, in order to deliver the placenta with ease, her levels of oxytocin - the hormone of love - need to peak.
This happens if she has a moment in which she can forget everything about the world, save for her baby, and if she has time in which she can look into the baby's eyes, make contact with its skin and take in its smell without any distractions.

Often, as soon as a baby is born, men cannot help but say something or try to touch the baby.Their interference at this key moment is more often than not the main cause for a difficult delivery of the placenta, too.

And that doesn't even include the effect the ordeal has on the man. Aparently some men suffer from post natal depression after witnessing childbirth and some never find their wife attractive afterwards. Interesting argument that can't be dismissed.