Polygamy

[mahdi01]

It has to be a reason why married man wants to pick a second or third wife, and women should not hate each other for sharing god’s given right of having dignity, how many single moms need that love and care they are missing in their life today, this is all by your choice no one is holding gun over your head. It comes with rules and regulations, it is not like the man wakes up one morning and says “my wife is too lazy to satisfy my needs anymore so I am going to get a second wife tomorrow” chill sisters and seek more knowledge in Islam.

[precious_dyme]

Polygamy was legalized to serve 4 functions, non of which are practiced today (except for maybe a few God fearing men):

1-To care for Muslim widows who lost their husbands who went off to fight Jihaad.

2-To care for Muslim women whose husbands refused to embrace Islam.

3-To care for Muslim children who were left fatherless because of Jihaad.

4-To take care of Muslim women who are crippled, blind or suffer from serious ailments and would not find a husband.


Don't let the actions of a few men who have no respect for the rules of Islam corrupt your judgement and make you dislike something which Allah has made lawful out of his wisdom. Everything in Islam serves a purpose.

Mashallh absolutely true..

Its just the Somali men who are letting the rules of Islam down. I've observed this thoroughly and came to this conclusion.

[FAH1223]

Shariah law is perfect because its the law Allah ordained for Muslims, who is wiser than Ilaaheey? Its implementation though is another matter and it has been abused through the centuries by different groups for their own political/social gains. Its their loss because they have turned something beautiful in to something perverted. There's no gender superiority in Islam. There's no evidence anywhere that says men are superior to women or vice versa. All that is mentioned are the rights & responsibilities of men & women. In some regards women have more rights e.g. mothers have 3x more rights over their children than fathers. In other cases men have more rights e.g. a man has the right to marry more than 1 wife (provided he meets all the conditions for it), some even call it a permission to marry more than 1 wife rather than a right.

A woman has the right to be fed, sheltered and clothed by her male relatives and once she marries, that right transfers over to her husband who is to provide for all of the things her father/brothers provided her with. That includes paying for all of her expenses including personal items and even paying for a maid if she was raised that way. Whatever she earns is hers to keep and dispose off as she pleases. Rain or shine a man has to get up and provide for his family whereas a woman never has to go through such a thing. If anything, Islam has honored women and elevated them at a time when they were being burried alive and traded as livestock. Allah is the all just, the wise.

Masha'Allah bro, well said and this is something that the non Muslims must hear as well.

Xamari, you cite Pakistan and Afghanistan but those areas have cultures that just flat our hate women and treat them like dirt, even today when they have the light of Islam. India is another example, where girls are still buried alive when people want a son.... its the same ancient cultural traditions that Islam came to eradicate.

Rape is a serious matter in Islam and false accusations have to have measures taken against it so that justice can be just.

How many stories have we heard of men accused for rape but they were innocent and even worse they did jail time for it? Or on the opposite spectrum, women are raped... the perpetrator is seen and there is evidence for it, but the guy is let off easily?

[Xamari_76]

In India they do it because they don't see a girl as useful as a boy would be. A girl would eventually grow older get married and they make little money from her marriage and then she joins her husbands family and is no use to her original family..according to Indian culture...but the boy can work and earn and always be there for the family even after marriage..

In Pakistan and Afghanistan is where they take it to a whole different level..

[shaamboo]

oh the possibilities if women we are allowed to do polygamy

actually Bantu women are allowed to have that

[Salahuddiin]

Good answers Kolombo.

Question for girls who oppose polygamy. Is there any cases you wouldn't oppose your husband getting a second one? Like let's say that girl gets married and later finds out she's infertile and can't get babies (may Allah protect from that.) Now would you allow man to have a second wife so he can have kids and keep on living with him in marriage, or would you rather want divorce and most probably never get married again, 'cos every man wants to have babies?

[samadoon-waaxid]

what amazes me is that every God fearing polygamist brother is trailed in the eyes of society, women especially. while the married ones who go around every weekend lookin for some haram meat r given the benefit of doubt.
what has the world come to

[ms.naliaa]

Xamari:
What Pakistan and Afghanistan are proliferating is not according to Islam sister. They have breached the rulings of islam, tiwsted and mutated the script to feed their (male) insecurities. What they do has no bearing on what we (as muslims) beleive in.

As for polygamy: You have to understand that although the men have permission to marry more than one, you have the right NOT to marry a man who wants more than one...and you should always talk about this issue before you marry someone and make it a point that if (in the future) he wants more than one wife, you'd rather not be married to him!