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BaasAbuur wrote:Take him to an AIDS and STD seminar. A really graphic one where they show people the videos and pictures of people with these diseases in the worst stages. If that does not scare him, then nothing will.

Goodness! That is extreme. He might be put off for good.

Fah,

Ismahan, Yup!

Same reason why so many marry out too, they all believe Somali guys can't be religious or know nothing about the deen and are basically losers. Mothers are busy trying to keep their daughters on the right path (masha-allah) but the Sons are left alone, just because he can't get pregnant. High percentage of the Sons turn out to be losers, with nothing to offer an educated practising muslima. Busy with chasing girls and the high life. At the end the 'high' comes at a price and that is 'low'

^^^^^

u will be the saviour of somali teenages yaa warsan-muslimah?

leave alone these kids and take ismahan and FAH with u to somalia and make peace between hawiye. soon hawiya will be extinct.

Warsan_Star_Muslimah wrote: Fah,

Ismahan, Yup!

Same reason why so many marry out too, they all believe Somali guys can't be religious or know nothing about the deen and are basically losers. Mothers are busy trying to keep their daughters on the right path (masha-allah) but the Sons are left alone, just because he can't get pregnant. High percentage of the Sons turn out to be losers, with nothing to offer an educated practising muslima. Busy with chasing girls and the high life. At the end the 'high' comes at a price and that is 'low'

well blame absentee fathers,

fathers make us valuable member of societies, fact

there is only so much a mother can do

Warsan,

As Fah mentioned it the fathers who are letting these boys down. I dont know about Europe but here in the States and Canada, even if the parents are still married, majority of fathers decide to get a job in another town. They either marry another woman, and lose contact with their children or they just want to stay away from everything that comes with being a father.

You know maybe I will take him to an Sexual Health workshop, lakin these gaalo are going to give him condoms


Warsan - He's not the type to listen to advice, probably do the opposite but I suppose it's the best we can do short of a chastity belt

FAH1223 wrote:

HELWAA wrote:BV is angry....ooh talow ma xabadi aad eeganaysay baa laga qaaday

she must have seen a dude shes eying being a playa

Helwaa - If you like a player you should expect some extra curricular activities on his side.

..when i was coming up, my sisters used to petrol me literally and they were not succesful at all; all you can do is wish the nicca some luck and piss off

1ne you see nothing wrong with it miyaa? Piss off you know, one of these days I will single-handedly kick the shit out of the guy; ok he's a bit strong but I will try

I wasn’t being entirely serious but on realistic note, there isn’t much you can do heck there isn’t much anybody can do other than be a supportive guide and counsel him on as regularly as you can; if that boy is sharp then you don’t have much to worry about, he will look after himself

As youngster coming up in the West you will be exposed to everything roughly, go places where no father can keep an eye or keep track on you and only then will you learn to be in command of yourself or show weakness and lose your way so what I’m saying is only he can decide which bath he takes

Every guy goes through the skirt chasing period and honestly sometimes we never grow out of it but with a little luck the right chica comes along and you/he might be done or not

Its all up to the individual, those who are blaming the fathers, get focked I say

Ka darag wrote:LOL U CANT

Of course she can. She can KILL HIM.

Warsan_Star_Muslimah wrote:Same reason why so many marry out too, they all believe Somali guys can't be religious or know nothing about the deen and are basically losers. '

Its comments like that, that really make me not want to marry a Somali girl.

Ps. You think this phenomenon of Somali fathers not being around is new? Matter of fact most Somali men between 30-80 fathers had more then one wife meaning they themselves never really had any role models. What's failing us is our lack of deen and it's not just affecting the men but a lot of the women as well I don't know why only the guys are getting singled out.

Today girls dont know what xishood means. I went with my two brothers to a somali wedding in canada, and i was astonished how many woman befriended me to get closer to my brothers. Others even boldly ask me--what did u brother think of me? Some hinted weddings make them think of being next and looking straight at the handsomest of the brother. I was left jaws down, and speechless.

BV, It all starts and ends with you. You got the goods ready for him, he won't look for other females. And, oh don't bore him to death while you are at it. Sitting your back 24/7 and expecting him to do all the work isn't the way

Abdi_westldn wrote:

Warsan_Star_Muslimah wrote:Same reason why so many marry out too, they all believe Somali guys can't be religious or know nothing about the deen and are basically losers. '

Its comments like that, that really make me not want to marry a Somali girl.

Ps. You think this phenomenon of Somali fathers not being around is new? Matter of fact most Somali men between 30-80 fathers had more then one wife meaning they themselves never really had any role models. What's failing us is our lack of deen and it's not just affecting the men but a lot of the women as well I don't know why only the guys are getting singled out.

fatherhood is not overlooked in the deen

if you wanna be more deen oriented, the father better be at home raising his kids and being around his kids far more than being around his buddies or acquaintances

I agree with my nephew FAH. It is all about the fathers.

Come to think of it, most of the craziest Xalimos I dated had an absentee Dad. They seemed to be in search of that male role model in their life.


As for how to keep a young man from messing around, there is nothing you can do. Just stuff some condoms into his hand and hope he decides to practice abstinence.

FAH1223 wrote:

Abdi_westldn wrote:

Warsan_Star_Muslimah wrote:Same reason why so many marry out too, they all believe Somali guys can't be religious or know nothing about the deen and are basically losers. '

Its comments like that, that really make me not want to marry a Somali girl.

Ps. You think this phenomenon of Somali fathers not being around is new? Matter of fact most Somali men between 30-80 fathers had more then one wife meaning they themselves never really had any role models. What's failing us is our lack of deen and it's not just affecting the men but a lot of the women as well I don't know why only the guys are getting singled out.

fatherhood is not overlooked in the deen

if you wanna be more deen oriented, the father better be at home raising his kids and being around his kids far more than being around his buddies or acquaintances

I definitely agree with that all I was saying is most older generation Somali men didn't have any male role models themselves. In the end one cannot blame their mistakes on lack of male role model, its just about what you make of your own life.