Nimanka qaarkood gacan adaka

[SummerRain]

Ismahan,

Its horrible. Anywayz, I heard Rer Gelinsoor are moving to Hobyo to learn how to swim and sail so as to set up isbaaros in the Ocean.

Ina adeer, I'm deeply disappointed in reer Galinsoor as they decided to join the Alsuunah wel jameecah. As for swimming and sailing, we were always the most adventurous of the bunch.

[HELWAA]

Sir lug

Bakhyelnimadada halka ban arka....wuxu doono ahadee inaad seediga caawisid soo maha..?

Are u out of yr mind???

Lacag aan u soo dhididay baad doonaysaa nin meel iska fadhiya inuu ku qayilo, xaraam caleek

Bal ka waran hadi aad adigu kabahiisa xirnaan lahayd oo walaalka dibada joogi lahaa oo caawimu intaad waydiisatid sida oo kugu jawaabi laha....Isha dadka iska ilaaliy ya akhi.Aduunku second buu isku badli kara...maanta cidna uma baahnid laakin you never know tomorrow.

[Sir-Luggoyo]

Helwa,

Waxaan ku idhi, hadduu ninku seedigii yaqaano inuu yahay mudadar oo sidaa darteed uu ugu diiday inuu lacagta ugu diro. Kama hadlayo ruux baahan oo dani haysato.

[Gedo_Boy]

Well, sometimes Somali women think it's a man's responsibility to take care of her whole entire family. That can be too big of a burden.
Islamically, it's really not his RESPONSIBILITY b/c the man is responsible for his own household.
If he does send them money b/c he's able to, it's macruuf, but his first responsibility is to HIS household; her and her children.

If there is a need for her family, he should not prevent her from getting at least a part-time job.

[SummerRain]

Well, sometimes Somali women think it's a man's responsibility to take care of her whole entire family. That can be too big of a burden.
Islamically, it's really not his RESPONSIBILITY b/c the man is responsible for his own household.
If he does send them money b/c he's able to, it's macruuf, but his first responsibility is to HIS household; her and her children.

If there is a need for her family, he should not prevent her from getting at least a part-time job.

Going into a marriage assuming the hubby will cover everything is personal irresponsibility. I honestly think she should have told him, her expectations when it came to her extended family to save the drama.

[HELWAA]

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[HELWAA]

Well, sometimes Somali women think it's a man's responsibility to take care of her whole entire family. That can be too big of a burden.
Islamically, it's really not his RESPONSIBILITY b/c the man is responsible for his own household.
If he does send them money b/c he's able to, it's macruuf, but his first responsibility is to HIS household; her and her children.

If there is a need for her family, he should not prevent her from getting at least a part-time job.

Well if ur inlows need you dont have a choice...you must help them.

[surrender]

Su'aal dadow nin naagtisa mu oo diidi kara inay reerkooga biil oo dirto...I know this woman who doesnt work and her brother called her from back home and asked her for mony...markey ninkeedi oo sheektay waxaan raba inan hebel lacag oo diro kulaha naa anigu reekina lacag uma hayo....bal hada eeg waa seedigi bu saa oo galay.Bal 200$ maxay tahay...Balaayo in la gacan adkaatay.

Ladies work for ur mony.

no he cant! wa xujay kartaa in that case. 1) lacag udir rerkayga 2) ama aniga dowlada waxa issiisaan udirayaa, anaka nabiil 3) ama waan shaqaysan oo anaa udoraya ee guriga siijoog!

[HELWAA]

Surrender

Anigu ninka habeen lama joogeen laakin naagtan isheeda ayuu oo dhacay..that what happens when you're afraid of divorce.Iyada hawel oo taalo waye.She lost all respect by sticking by him...ninka walaalka wax tariy waayey ma adigu naf kaaga kici. Akhas

[surrender]

helwaa who would stick by a an who refused to send money to family!? who in their right mind!? walee habeen baad tiriye i wouldnt stay with him one minute.! jow! thats why many girls are losing respect of their men because mayaqaanin sida cadkooda loosoojorto. before marriage waxan in laga hadlo weeyaan, oo deal laysku afgaranayo lagaaro!

[Ka darag]

LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL GACAN ADEYG

[SummerRain]

Su'aal dadow nin naagtisa mu oo diidi kara inay reerkooga biil oo dirto...I know this woman who doesnt work and her brother called her from back home and asked her for mony...markey ninkeedi oo sheektay waxaan raba inan hebel lacag oo diro kulaha naa anigu reekina lacag uma hayo....bal hada eeg waa seedigi bu saa oo galay.Bal 200$ maxay tahay...Balaayo in la gacan adkaatay.

Ladies work for ur mony.

no he cant! wa xujay kartaa in that case. 1) lacag udir rerkayga 2) ama aniga dowlada waxa issiisaan udirayaa, anaka nabiil 3) ama waan shaqaysan oo anaa udoraya ee guriga siijoog!

[kambuli]

OO tolow maxaa u diidey haweyneyda inay shaqaysato? Why can't she work for herself and her family? Koley anigu la col baan ahay haweenka ninka uun wax ka dhowra..

Yes there are bakhayl men oo aan "Xuushada Xaarka uga kicin" and there are Bakhyl women too...Dadka qaarbaa fakhriga arka..

Having said that...There are so many reasons besides the Bakhaylnimo that a man may refuse to send money back home..Maybe the brothe-in-law is a good for nothing parasite who chews every penny with Kat? Maybe he is a very irresponsible human being...maybe maybe and maybe..We simply don't know that whole story..

[suga_n_spice]

deeqsinimada wax la heli karo ma aha walle. generosity is a rare characterist.

Kambuli,

walaalo, xaaskiisa xaq ma aha in ee shaqeyso hadii ee ilmahiisa u heyso. runti isagaa laga rabaa in uu reerkeeda biilo madaam uu reerka uu u shaqeeyo.

[mahdi01]

So, some of you said “if he is not willing to send the money every month she should ask divorce” is that a solution or you just exacerbating it? Which one the Islam gave priority the spouse or the relatives?

First of all $200 or even $1000 that is given to brother inlaw is not a problem, but when it becomes routine every month, and it starts effecting my budget, yes I will raise a question and that will be simply “we will send to your brother whatever our budget allows for”

You have to remember after all there is no hadith or verse in the Qur’an says you have to give such and such your inlaws every month or year, this is Somali culture thing and even our closest people the Arabs and muslim Africans don’t resort it. It is not gacan adeyg, So adinkana Gabdho bal nimanka u aayara, dhibkii ayaad ka badiseene kii fiicnaa ee shaqeysanaayey ee ilmihiisa iyo reerkiisa dhaqanaayeyna ma waxaa dusha laga saarayaa howl uusan awoodi karin