Why do some Somali men refuse to Divorce Their Wives

[Firefly]

Those are good men for shunnin' divorce..

[FHA1223]

@Westlondonshawty, see is that attittude that we have (Somalis) we too proud to put up with our husbands/wives. waxaad maqlaysaa naa ma doqon baad tahay maxaa ninka baas ku agfariisiyey, naa orod oo iska fur' all because he did something silly. im ubber duper anto divorce, but yes i would not put up with some of his behaviours,but lets be honest some of the things Somalis divorce each other for is kinda silly lol. horta wax patience layiraahdo malihin.

are there any old Somali couples left anyway? because of the civil war and migrating to all over the world, old Somalis are single, from what i have seen. waan kanaxaa, markaan arko habar kaligeed guri dagan, ama like this old man who was our neighbour, kaligiis bay council ku guri hal qol ah siiyeen. he has no one. makhaayadahaas buu kasoo cunaa cunto.

i think the Somali case is especial one. because of the civil war.

When some guys divorce their wife, they divorce their kids too. And they expect their kids to take care of them while they aren't there for their kids when they do big things like graduate and making some cash.

Strange logic.

[Beenaale_No1]

Loads of gaalo divorce everyday, so lets quit acting like it's a Somali thing. Loads of sources say up to 50% of Western marriages [cadaan gaalo marriages] end up in divorce.

And I won't put up with cheating, abuse or any of that crap. Regardless if there are children involved. Loads of kids grow up with their parents divorced, and they turn out fine. If the wife turns into a bitch and says she wants out, then the door is wide open for her. The kids are staying with me, so you can go and fuck yourself

[AbdiWahab252]

Surrender,

I have an Adeer of mine who was married to his wife for 50 years. They both came to America and after less than 1 year, the wife divorced him. Folks wondered why she did it but she said that she had enough abuse to last a lifetime and she wanted to live out the remaining days of her life in happiness. Her husband (AUN) passed away a couple of months after that.

[FHA1223]

Loads of gaalo divorce everyday, so lets quit acting like it's a Somali thing. Loads of sources say up to 50% of Western marriages [cadaan gaalo marriages] end up in divorce.

And I won't put up with cheating, abuse or any of that crap. Regardless if there are children involved. Loads of kids grow up with their parents divorced, and they turn out fine. If the wife turns into a bitch and says she wants out, then the door is wide open for her. The kids are staying with me, so you can go and fuck yourself

Hell yeah nigga, I'd keep my seeds as well.

[AbdiWahab252]

Loads of gaalo divorce everyday, so lets quit acting like it's a Somali thing. Loads of sources say up to 50% of Western marriages [cadaan gaalo marriages] end up in divorce.

And I won't put up with cheating, abuse or any of that crap. Regardless if there are children involved. Loads of kids grow up with their parents divorced, and they turn out fine. If the wife turns into a bitch and says she wants out, then the door is wide open for her. The kids are staying with me, so you can go and fuck yourself

Hell yeah nigga, I'd keep my seeds as well.

She can keep them. I am sure when they grow up that they will come looking for their Aabe.

[Firefly]

I think the kids are better off with their mother, most of the time. I think it's cruel to separate a child from his/her mother, unless she leaves them voluntarily and in that case she didn't deserve them in the first place.

[Dhaga Bacayl]

I am deeply puzzled why some Somali men refuse to divorce their wives even after she asks for it on multiple times.

Whats the logic behind denying her a divorce ?

Maybe the booty is too good to let go.

Dhaga bacyl,

Haji, there is never the perfect booty. After time, one begins to crave new booty and needs variety.

P.S. If she spites you like that, chances you ain't getting any. And if you do, it would be whack

I was being sarcastic man.
If the chick doesn’t want you let it go. There is no need to dwell on dead relationship.

[FHA1223]

Loads of gaalo divorce everyday, so lets quit acting like it's a Somali thing. Loads of sources say up to 50% of Western marriages [cadaan gaalo marriages] end up in divorce.

And I won't put up with cheating, abuse or any of that crap. Regardless if there are children involved. Loads of kids grow up with their parents divorced, and they turn out fine. If the wife turns into a bitch and says she wants out, then the door is wide open for her. The kids are staying with me, so you can go and fuck yourself

Hell yeah nigga, I'd keep my seeds as well.

She can keep them. I am sure when they grow up that they will come looking for their Aabe.

AW, you're one of those old Somali men who when they divorce the woman, you divorce the kids and don't take any part in their life thereafter.

Sad

[qoraxeey]

i grew up with seperate parents .


and I JUS TURNED OUT GREAT

so kids dont suffer its worse when the two argue all the time lol

[DisplacedDiraac]

@Westlondonshawty, see is that attittude that we have (Somalis) we too proud to put up with our husbands/wives. waxaad maqlaysaa naa ma doqon baad tahay maxaa ninka baas ku agfariisiyey, naa orod oo iska fur' all because he did something silly. im ubber duper anti-divorce, but yes i would not put up with some of his behaviours,but lets be honest some of the things Somalis divorce each other for is kinda silly lol. horta wax patience layiraahdo malihin.

Being proud has nothing to do with it. I've seen/heard about tons and tons of Somalis divorcing over the smallest things.. like she can't cook or he plays on his PS2/3 all the time *so they say*.. But cheating and drinking is by no means a SMALL thing. I could put up with some of his behaviours *which he had before i was his wife* or he just developed it because i aint perfect myself..
But, if he started drinking or even cheated on me.. I'm out, No amount of 'sorry, it wont happen again'..ama 'its a one-off thing' would stop me...

[AbdiWahab252]

FAH1223,


I will send them $$$ and drop in from time to time but I am not raising them.

[surrender]

When some guys divorce their wife, they divorce their kids too. And they expect their kids to take care of them while they aren't there for their kids when they do big things like graduate and making some cash.

Strange logic.

strange indeed! i hate some of our men for that. not only do they divorce the wife, they divorce the whole family, inc. the children. someone needs to teach our men that even though they divorce the wife, they can still be part of the children's lives.

Loads of gaalo divorce everyday, so lets quit acting like it's a Somali thing. Loads of sources say up to 50% of Western marriages [cadaan gaalo marriages] end up in divorce.

And I won't put up with cheating, abuse or any of that crap. Regardless if there are children involved. Loads of kids grow up with their parents divorced, and they turn out fine. If the wife turns into a bitch and says she wants out, then the door is wide open for her. The kids are staying with me, so you can go and fuck yourself

you think thats a good idea? kids are better of with their mothers, you can still be part of their lives, obviously some of us havent learned the art of this. but i wouldnt advice you to take the kids away from their mothers.

Surrender,

I have an Adeer of mine who was married to his wife for 50 years. They both came to America and after less than 1 year, the wife divorced him. Folks wondered why she did it but she said that she had enough abuse to last a lifetime and she wanted to live out the remaining days of her life in happiness. Her husband (AUN) passed away a couple of months after that.

wonders what democracy and freedom does for us. but seriously i have issues with Divorce! i hate it with passion. but i guess each case is different, and we dont know what that poor woman has to pit up with in the last 50 years.

[Firefly]

FAH1223,


I will send them $$$ and drop in from time to time but I am not raising them.

They need a father, a rolemodel, guidance, and love that's more important than any money in the world.

[Cirwaaq]

There were no divorces only 2-3 generations ago purely because those women that wanted divorce had to convince not only their husband but also their entire family and community. The stigma of being divorced was one that no woman could recover from as communities were isolated and she would never have a second chance. In the west a woman can survive without her husband as she has welfare or even work. She has options in terms of social circles and can totally avoid her extended family.

The only reason that women in the past tolerated and appeared to have more IMAN was due to their dependancy on the income of their husbands.

Reality dawns on her when the kids reach teenage, then it is a path of sleepless nights and high-blood pressure followed by internal organ failures, obesity, chronic insomnia. When her kids tel to F.Off she then realises there was a need for a father figure.

Where my kids are all Sons i would divorce her when she looses her IMAN and gets abusive.

If i had even one daughter, i couldnt fogive myself for how she turns out... So i would do what ever it takes and remain a save till she is married then i would fly off to somalia and get me a new wife younger then my daughter to catchup on lost joy