Cultural differences betweeen us and the koonfurians

[grandpakhalif]

Well for one we don't praise the british, have british names or idolize them.

[Cumar-Labasuul]

Granpa, for somebody who can stand us, you do seem to enjoy posting in our threads

Btw, I don't think there are that many cultural differences besides the obvious ones that they adopted italian words and we english.

[grandpakhalif]

Granpa, for somebody who can stand us, you do seem to enjoy posting in our threads

Btw, I don't think there are that many cultural differences besides the obvious ones that they adopted italian words and we english.

I am joking bro, forgive me.

[Voltage]

Saaxib, no joke wtf

You can virtually go to any meher and get some free qaad, Somali meher or Yemeni meher.
Ofcourse, the guy who's getting married is not the person handing them out, he just makes sure the qaad is purchased before hand. I personally didn't see the qaad, they give it out marka la qadeeyo, most of the time its at the local community centre. You just avoid giving the qaad directly to the girls father or brothers man, one of my cousins and a friend of mine were giving it out but they were not at the meher itself.

I would say maybe you are just talking about Isaaq weddings but thankfully I have been to couple Isaaq mehers and have never seen one as shameful as what you describe. I know for a fact such a think would never occur in a wedding my family is part because we would just walk out. It is the difference between class and the less than common folk's ways of acting.

[Hyperactive]

what you guys talking about? all mahar ive seen the girl's father if he is alive and present he gives away his daughter verbally, in some case the father was in africa and they called the father and put him on speaker and the qaathi asked: do you give your daughter heblaayo bing hebel's hand to hebel hebel and the father says yes. if her brother there or uncle the same. the only one talks is the qaathi and the father/brother/uncle etc. not the ones invited.
waligeyna la'ag ma arkin la isa seeyey, neither qaat!! maybe maharka inanta check ba lo qora when every one leaves. lol

walikey ma maqlin qof kale giving away the bride when her father, brother , uncle etc. if they not there they call them and ask them.

if this true then im surprised!

[Voltage]

We are talking about Somali culture, not Arab culture hyper. You are right, the father or the next masuul if not father like uncle or brother give the girl away but all meher I have been to that was the extent of their contribution. Then comes a duel of words, the actual speechs about giving and not giving is made by elders and the afmiinshaar clansmen. Then they give out sooryo. Have you never heard of sooryo? It is not the girl's dowry, that belongs to her but sooryo is extra money the husband pays to those attending the meher. Usually everyone, men and women, get $20 in most mehers I have been to. Poorer guys give out about $10 to everyone.

Never heard of khaat being given out, waaba ceeb. Must be the drug fantasies of Cali Gaab.

[1_londoner]

Akhaas, qaat given out in mehers? Qudhunimadaas oo kale yaa arkey...

[Hyperactive]

We are talking about Somali culture, not Arab culture hyper. You are right, the father or the next masuul if not father like uncle or brother give the girl away but all meher I have been to that was the extent of their contribution. Then comes a duel of words, the actual speechs about giving and not giving is made by elders and the afmiinshaar clansmen. Then they give out sooryo. Have you never heard of sooryo? It is not the girl's dowry, that belongs to her but sooryo is extra money the husband pays to those attending the meher. Usually everyone, men and women, get $20 in most mehers I have been to. Poorer guys give out about $10 to everyone.

Never heard of khaat being given out, waaba ceeb. Must be the drug fantasies of Cali Gaab.

voltage, im not talking about arab mahar bro, the only mahar ive been are my family only(first cousins and my father's young brothers), and khutba only sheikha wah meheran ayey omba interduce the girl's father and the groom.
the two,shake hands(keep it that way) until mahar finishes. when mahar done, other family members congratulate the father and the groom. la'ag ma arkin or any one else talking other than the sheikh.


maybe that's is in somalia, but in qurbaha ive seen, maherka, qof kale maba yimado other than father, his sons and very close family n 2 witness who're very close family friend. hadey o badato 5-6 people.
then if they invite people to lunch/diner , they do go the guys and have the diner.

i wouldnt want other guys who are not mohram to even know my sister's name in fa3shar like that.lol

the qaat thing is just crazy and disgusting eeb.

ps; what's sooryo? no one giving money the all one's ive seen, as young kid i was wondering, aaway maharki inanta la seenayey. i just figured out, they may given them in private.

if this really somali culture ive to ask my money . by the way, do you have to be the girl's family or the guy's to get the money?

[Cumar-Labasuul]

Akhaas, qaat given out in mehers? Qudhunimadaas oo kale yaa arkey...

ileen lama socodtide, qaad was always given out in mehers and it still is as well as the gabati. Most guys only care about the qaad, then the money then the food. But nowadays most religious girls/guys are refusing to pay for qaad but their fathers still pay it as they feel waa ceeb to not pay it.

[Hyperactive]

Cumar- is this for only UK somali daqan or was back home?

ive seen rer abtigey in yemen, if they invite guys for lunch for any occasion, after lunch is grassing season!! wa most disgusting daqan that i hate about my reer abti.

[Cumar-Labasuul]

Cumar- is this for only UK somali daqan or was back home?

ive seen rer abtigey in yemen, if they invite guys for lunch for any occasion, after lunch is grassing season!! wa most disgusting daqan that i hate about my reer abti.

In the Uk and back home, I don't know if reer koonfur do it - uma maleynayo - but reer waqooyi do it. But nowadays the young generation in london are getting religious and way diideen in qaad lagu bixiyo meherka. masha'allah. Insha'allah anigu maalinta aan gursado - haddu ilaah i gaarsiiyo - meherka waan ka mamnuuci

[Cumar-Labasuul]

Horta hyperoow waxaad ii sheegta, aabo waa somali soo maaha hooyona carab mise wax baan isku qalday

[ina aadan]

Qado bilaa qaada waa ceeb iyo magac xumo marka laga hadlayo dhulkaan ka imid anigu.

[Hyperactive]

Horta hyperoow waxaad ii sheegta, aabo waa somali soo maaha hooyona carab mise wax baan isku qalday

my old man is agdeer

[Cali_Gaab]

WTF, i cant believe people are surprised by this. There's nothing discusting about giving out qaad man.

Voltage, lol@ family walking out. That is not possible because for one, the qaad is given out after the meher

You're asuming that qaad isd given out to the family which is not the case. At a meher, qado is provided for both families at the family house. Halkaas ayaa lagu bashaalaya. The community centre is hired for friends of yours, neighbours and whoever else wants to just drop in. It is there were the qaad is given out. Usually, the families of the two getting married do not participate in it. You do have the youth such as younger cousins or cousins your age leaving the family house, go get the qaad and hit the road.

It's got nothing to do with 'dhaqan' or class.