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Enlightened~Sista wrote:

Murax wrote:Biggest reason I see is because the guy thinks the girl will change or the girl thinks the guy will change and they don't, so they just divorce instead of staying miserable. Funny thing is I just had a 3 hour lunch with my good friend who got married a couple months ago. He's thinking of divorcing because the girl won't give up a lot of her bad habbits i.e dress etc.

He wants her to wear abaaya and she won't stop wearing jeans

What a stupid friend you have

actually women are the biggest consumers of "he will change when we get married" myth

samadoon-waaxid wrote:Helwaa:this thread reminds me of a friend of mine,gabadhii wuxuu uu furay cuz she was moody and tripping during pregnancy due to walac.as if walac was a new thing.I was like "WTF thats it?" .some people need maturity course before they tie the knot.

Lord have mercy

samadoon-waaxid wrote:Helwaa:this thread reminds me of a friend of mine,gabadhii wuxuu uu furay cuz she was moody and tripping during pregnancy due to walac.as if walac was a new thing.I was like "WTF thats it?" .some people need maturity course before they tie the knot.

I believe this is one of those precarious things in life that one has to experience personally, for thee to comment and critique on. Therefore when our wives are pregnant, let us see how we handle it, and then shall we should comment on whether husbands overreact or if it is the spouse in that is in the wrong and is being inhospitable.
~Rich advice as always.

Richfarax wrote:

samadoon-waaxid wrote:Helwaa:this thread reminds me of a friend of mine,gabadhii wuxuu uu furay cuz she was moody and tripping during pregnancy due to walac.as if walac was a new thing.I was like "WTF thats it?" .some people need maturity course before they tie the knot.

I believe this is one of those precarious things in life that one has to experience personally, for thee to comment and critique on. Therefore when our wives are pregnant, let us see how we handle it, and then shall we should comment on whether husbands overreact or if it is the spouse in that is in the wrong and is being inhospitable.
~Rich advice as always.

lets put it this way awowe,most women turn to inhospitable/irrational human being during pregnancy due to those mood altering chemical changes/hormone imbalances she is going through its the nature's course,it comes with the territory of being a family guy,if u cant take care of biz then dont shoot,just pull out and make life easier.its a no brainer

samadoon-waaxid wrote:

Richfarax wrote:

samadoon-waaxid wrote:Helwaa:this thread reminds me of a friend of mine,gabadhii wuxuu uu furay cuz she was moody and tripping during pregnancy due to walac.as if walac was a new thing.I was like "WTF thats it?" .some people need maturity course before they tie the knot.

I believe this is one of those precarious things in life that one has to experience personally, for thee to comment and critique on. Therefore when our wives are pregnant, let us see how we handle it, and then shall we should comment on whether husbands overreact or if it is the spouse in that is in the wrong and is being inhospitable.
~Rich advice as always.

lets put it this way awowe,most women turn to inhospitable/irrational human being during pregnancy due to those mood altering chemical changes/hormone imbalances she is going through its the nature's course,it comes with the territory of being a family guy,if u cant take care of biz then dont shoot,just pull out and make life easier.its a no brainer

I assume you labelling me awowe is as a sign of respect for the wise and wonderful words I contribute to this forum with vast quantities, so thank you my grandson.

Yes I am aware of the hormonal imbalances that women undergo whilst in pregnancy, however one has to experience it first-hand to know whether it is truly impossible to live with the attitude and inhospitable behaviour, which your spouse may give out. However every woman is different so we can only deal with what hand we are delivered.
~Rich analysis

WestLdnShawty wrote:Divorce is easier than ABC nowadays...

In some countries it takes only a day to get divorced

And I keep hearing of Muslim men who "divorce" their pregnant wives WTH?!

It's either people don't take the union seriously to begin with or their expectations didn't parallel with reality.

BlackVelvet wrote:

WestLdnShawty wrote:Divorce is easier than ABC nowadays...

In some countries it takes only a day to get divorced

And I keep hearing of Muslim men who "divorce" their pregnant wives WTH?!

As I have previously stated in this here forum, I think it is wrong to judge an individual who has divorced his pregnant wife. As it is wrong to take sides in any divorce, who are we to know how unbearable this woman has become during the period that lead up to the divorce. She may have transformed into an unbearable wreck that was caused unliveable conditions that prolonged stay would have lead to her husbands insanity.
In conclusion, we must look at all things objectively, and to quote a famous saying; try to experience how things are in other people's shoes.
~Rich analysis as always

I swear all these divorces have me feeling like alhamduliah i've been too distracted with school to properly get on the aroos train and we can trick ourselves by saying 'its halaal if its for the purpose of marriage' and 'may allah forgive me but i have no idea how else to get married' but we sure as naar can't trick Allah.

Wax xaraam will never give rise to wax kheyr leh.

I swear all these divorces have me feeling like alhamduliah i've been too distracted with school to properly get on the aroos train and we can trick ourselves by saying 'its halaal if its for the purpose of marriage' and 'may allah forgive me but i have no idea how else to get married' but we sure as naar can't trick Allah.

Wax xaraam will never give rise to wax kheyr leh.

because Somali men treat marriage like legal slavery. She's your wife not your property.