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BlackVelvet wrote:A. The wife has a right to know about all of her husband's money, savings, salary, investments and have access to all of them
B. The wife has a right to know about some of her husband's money, savings, salary, investments and have access to some of them
C. The wife has no right to know about any of her husband's money, savings, salary, investments but has the right to pocket money

If the choice is static then B is the obvious choice. Of course she can know about all the important aspects of the salary, investments and savings but having access to every single aspect of it is way way too much.

I agree with what PO said. I already have my private account, and I'm sure she does since everyone has a bank account in the west so all that needs to be added is a shared account for serious things

The shared account can be managed by the more financial savvy member of the two. Everything can be adapted and monitored from this standpoint. Simple formula.

Good topic by the way BV, some responses are really funny from opening letters, to wives holding their husbands bank cards and even dictating when he can use it ROTFL

That can't be serious

A Women are better at financial planning than men. That's a FACT!


Ps; What's mine is mine still

Option C

Murax wrote:The Man has to provide period. Her money is her money and your money is your money (and her money to a certain degree). If the roles are reversed or providing for the household is 50/50 strong chances the marriage will fail. This is what I was taught and this is what I agree with.

one thing i find funny is these women who want the man to 'provide' and play the traditional so called male role, are also the first to balk and whine when it comes to doing female roles of taking care of the home, cooking etc. its a two way street ladies, you cant have your cake and eat it as it were.

anonymousfaarax wrote:

BlackVelvet wrote:But isn't it sad to be married to someone you don't fully trust.

yh but thats just another fact of life. I think women especially in somali marriages need more leverage than a man would. Plus you can never [fully] trust anyone but yourself.

There is so much wrong with that statement

Nanees wrote:

anonymousfaarax wrote:

BlackVelvet wrote:But isn't it sad to be married to someone you don't fully trust.

yh but thats just another fact of life. I think women especially in somali marriages need more leverage than a man would. Plus you can never [fully] trust anyone but yourself.

There is so much wrong with that statement

Why and which parts ?

anonymousfaarax wrote:
Why and which parts ?

Literally, all of it.
1) It's just another fact of life to be married to somebody you don't trust.
2) Women in somali marriages need leverage over their husbands.
3) you can never trust anyone but yourself.

Your name says farax but you sound like a xalimo, a broken hearted one

Nanees wrote:

anonymousfaarax wrote:
Why and which parts ?

Literally, all of it.
1) It's just another fact of life to be married to somebody you don't trust.
2) Women in somali marriages need leverage over their husbands.
3) you can never trust anyone but yourself.

Your name says farax but you sound like a xalimo, a broken hearted one

So you disagree with what I wrote about Somali women but ironically I sound like a broken hearted "xaliimo" - proves my point soo maahan ?

I have addressed point #2.

Point # 1 really comes under #3 so its practically the same point. What I meant by # 3, which is a sufficient condition for #1, is that you can trust people but you can never trust someone else 110%, maybe 99% but not 100%; there is always that small maybe 1% or 0.0001% margin for error - that's a fact.

Helwaa

Actually come to think of it I think you are right about knowing the pin. I know the pin numbers of practically everyone in my house, though I forget them right after I do what I am supposed to do. It is not that weird.