Wife searchin' for co-wife. .

[Thuganomics]

Cool

[Alphanumeric]

SK,

Yes, I'd assume so. And what in Islam do you think makes permission a prerequisite for marrying a second wife?


I'm just giving you a heads up sis. He doesn't need your permission, and talking about it simply isn't enough. If you want to protect yourself against someone running off and remarrying, then make it a written clause.

[PrinceDaadi]

If my husband wants a 2nd wife, fine. He'll have to divorce me(his 1st wife) and marry a 2nd wife. I will not share my man!! And I don't know how I'd feel living with the other woman who fucks my man! Kinda a weird relationship.

Just be sure to make it a written clause.

There is no written clause abt this considering this marriage become legal under Islamic law. while i technically ok if my wife wants to end our partnership there is no clause that can force me to force me to end the partnership.

If my husband wants a 2nd wife, fine. He'll have to divorce me(his 1st wife) and marry a 2nd wife.

I have met/seen countless Somali women who said the same words u r jst writing and stayed with their husbands when they brought the second wife, it is easy to say anything as Somalis do say "habar fadhida lagdan la fudud" when u r not facing the situation but when time comes there will be many things to consider as experience has shown.

[Alphanumeric]

Daadi,

If the first wife wishes not to be with a man who marries another woman, she can opt for a written clause in the marriage contract that forces him to divorce his first wife. If he agrees to this contract, it is witnessed and signed, but he marries a second wife without divorcing his first, then he is committing zina. The "written clause" does not exist, unless it is actually written. It is a simple agreement.

What Somalis do and do not do matters little to me.

[PrinceDaadi]

The Somali part was not directed to u, it was mainly that ppl do say i will not this or that when they r not under the situation.


back to the contract thing, can you plz provide a proof though personally i will not hand over my Allah given rights to a women so there will be no contract which m gona sign.

[Alphanumeric]

Marriage is simply a contract; an agreement. If you agree to something, you must uphold it. If the contracts has a nullification clause that you agreed to, but when time comes around to enforce it and you squirm away, then you are the one who broke the contract and fall into sin.

[BlackVelvet]

A woman who does this is bicurious and is actually looking for a wife for herself.

[Adali]

A woman who does this is bicurious and is actually looking for a wife for herself.

or maybe its just you being lesbian having lesbian thoughts ? did you stop to think that maybe the wife wanted not to have her husband go on dates, so took it upon herself to introduce her handpicked potential 2nd wifeys to him herself.

~brothers do this for their sisters and sisters do this for their brothers, cousins also help out, does this mean all of them a now homosexuals ??

get a f-king grip BV and pop out of that closet already.

[greenday]

A woman who does this is bicurious and is actually looking for a wife for herself.

what is she gona say can taste to see if she can please my husband?

[BlackVelvet]

Green all she needs to do is find a curious woman. Where do you think these questions of whether it is halal for a man and his 2 wives to have a threesome come from? The men think they're being smart but they have no idea

A woman who does this is bicurious and is actually looking for a wife for herself.

or maybe its just you being lesbian having lesbian thoughts ? did you stop to think that maybe the wife wanted not to have her husband go on dates, so took it upon herself to introduce her handpicked potential 2nd wifeys to him herself.

~brothers do this for their sisters and sisters do this for their brothers, cousins also help out, does this mean all of them a now homosexuals ??

get a f-king grip BV and pop out of that closet already.

Brothers and sisters won't share the person they are looking for with their siblings in that way.

You are telling us that a woman doesn't want her husband shukansing another woman but is going to be okay with him sleeping with her? You are so naive

[Alphanumeric]

A woman who does this is bicurious and is actually looking for a wife for herself.

I think you're on to something.

[greenday]

BV, if she cant share the women then waa qasaaro so i say these are xoolo among xalimoyin

[BlackVelvet]

BV, if she cant share the women then waa qasaaro so i say these are xoolo among xalimoyin

That depends on her and how thorough she is when looking innit?

Seriously the only 2 reasons that make sense:

1. She wants to experiment
2. She suggests someone she wants protected - a young cousin or niece


If she hasn't suggested qarabo then you know how it is

[greenday]

Or her man has a big appetite which could not satisfy

[AhmedBoqor]

Question to the guys - Lets say you was dead set in marrying a second wife.. And your first wife said she was fine with it aslong as she picked her co-wife? In other words you cant look for a wife yourself.. She'll do all the work and search for her, obviously the final decision of marrying the woman she picked out lies with you.. Would you agree to it?

No

Its not wajib. She's not my mother. I wouldn't think she would bring me someone just as good as her. And its just plain awkward for your wife to be introducing you to a 2nd potential wife.