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Brobaganda wrote:

Twist wrote:

I am sure we all know many examples of people whose mother refused them marry a certain guy or girl over a petty reason.

Aad iyo aad, qabiilba ha ugu horeeyee.

And by the way, brobaganda, which one of the recently "left" members are you?

Wah?

Let's not derail the gentleman's thread you crazy man

If she's asking me to choose btwn her and my mother then you know she's


She's def not worth it.

Substance wrote:There is plenty chicks bro. But you only got one mom.

oh abakar...... what a lousey lonely soul.

Rightwing wrote:You need to draw a line between obeying your parents and your love. You parents have to aknowledge to respect your right to make choices.

sorry ader, i had to disagree with you. no lines drew at all , other than if they ask you do do what Allah forbid you. and there is wisdom behind it. your mom is your mom and also father, after Allah n prophet, they are second people have rights on you . i may undestand very well, education, career that they want you pursue but a woman? And worse a love? you even call your love! it could be your dooms what you call today your love.


there is crazy people out there that sound normal in cloth of angels. dont fall for it. parents in this dunya, they come first and for most.

When I was single I never considered a guy who would oppose his mother to marry me. Nothing is worse than mean mother-in-law

My rule was: future husband must have mother who approves of me or a mother who is dead..

Can you figure out why your mother is not so keen on the girl? does she know her or know her family? if that is the case, i would not go ahead with it. I am a woman and if my family have some dealings with the guy i want to marry, i would not go ahead with it.

there is nothing called love over the heels. calm down a bit. stay away from the lady for a month or so and figure out what is best for you in the long run. I know I am not the best person to advise on parental relationship as I miserably failed to please my mother but i am telling you this: it is something that can pain you every day every second. you can get depressed about it, so do along with your mother's feeling ( but also tell her that was unfair and that you let go the woman you loved).

but also pray salat istikhara. It is your best consultant. Believe me.

here's what happened a couple of years back. A guy fell in love with his highs school classmate and wanted to marry her. His mom said NO because the girl's mother hated the boy's tribe (D). The boy's mother (H) said the girl's mom (I) and her whole family (I) hate Ds and call them the fa word. She said I dnt want my son to marry from ppl who hated me for so long just because my kids were D

I and many others told him to ignore his mom's rejection and marry her. He initially agreed but they eventually broke up. He may be doing Zina now because of his mother's selfishness.

Twist wrote:

Alphanumeric wrote:Don't know how you got that from what I said. Besides, unless marriage spontaneously forms around my being, don't think I'd willing go for it.

I got from what the topic is about & your leaning towards mother's approval rather thing a guy/girl to make their own choice, awoowe.


And what do you exactly mean the second part of your statement? Mind to explain? By forming around your being, does that include parents having nothing to do with your choice as well, or it's more about you & your potential partner?

It's not just mother's approval, but also my sisters'.

And that last bit was a joke lol. Just meant it's not on the agenda.

As other likeminded people have already addressed, you only have one mom, whereas they are plenty women where she came from.

Cherish your parents while you still can kiddo.

OK, here's a situation:

Your mother visits town to meet the woman you're serious with. This woman is your dream girl. Keep in mind that 'you' were previously married and have a 7 year old child. You're all reasonably agreeable people, however, your partner isn't particularly interested in children. You've always known this but from what you saw, she and your child got along relatively fine, and it wasn't a factor. You leave your child, mother and partner to bond while you run errands all day. Later that night, your mother reveals her belief that the woman isn't right for you, as she witnessed your girlfriend's short temper and cold manner toward her grandchild.

What would you do?