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Re: Would you ever marry someone your not attracted to?

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PrinceDaadi wrote:Sure, why not! How about if m attracted to her brain?
This. Intellectual attraction.
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Why is everyone assuming the OP is referring to 'physical attraction'?.. :|
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Zeliha wrote:
PrinceDaadi wrote:Sure, why not! How about if m attracted to her brain?
This. Intellectual attraction.
It wont be enough for me..need the whole package.
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WestLdnShawty wrote:Why is everyone assuming the OP is referring to 'physical attraction'?.. :|
We know you are a freak, waxaa kuu muhiim ah waad soo sharaxdey :mrgreen:
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Re: Would you ever marry someone your not attracted to?

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PrinceDaadi wrote:Sure, why not! How about if m attracted to her brain?
You are a rare gem Prince. Be prepared for a million marriage proposal PMs
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Re: Would you ever marry someone your not attracted to?

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BlackVelvet wrote:
WestLdnShawty wrote:Why is everyone assuming the OP is referring to 'physical attraction'?.. :|
We know you are a freak, waxaa kuu muhiim ah waad soo sharaxdey :mrgreen:
:lol: @ freak.. :mindblown:

A little bit of attraction is extremely important, I reckon.. I have waswis issues and I can't seem to hide it.. :|
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Re: Would you ever marry someone your not attracted to?

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For me no it is not possible. yes personality, intelligence and ethics matter but i must be attracted to her first.
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WestLdnShawty wrote:
:lol: @ freak.. :mindblown:

A little bit of attraction is extremely important, I reckon.. I have waswis issues and I can't seem to hide it..
The attraction will make you forget the waswis miyaa? ;) :lol:


I am being such a troll, my apologies :lol:
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S 4 8 15 16 23 42 wrote:
PrinceDaadi wrote:Sure, why not! How about if m attracted to her brain?
You are a rare gem Prince. Be prepared for a million marriage proposal PMs
The world doesn't work like that.

The 1st women I wanted to marry was not even an average beauty but she had two things I value most, speaking from her mind and She could carry on a decent conversation. Unfortunately I had other assignments so .....
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Re: Would you ever marry someone your not attracted to?

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BlackVelvet wrote:
The attraction will make you forget the waswis miyaa? ;) :lol:


I am being such a troll, my apologies :lol:
It helps.. :mrgreen:
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Re: Would you ever marry someone your not attracted to?

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NO. She has to be 10/10 :stylin:
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Easiest answer based on instinct is "No". First impressions do matter and it is why we are obsessed with looking good generally speaking. Then follows if the beau is a psycho or not. Cause, real life experience teaches some people that a beautiful psycho only burns them at the stake and life becomes unbearable, whereas settling for less attractive person might be acceptable to that problematic existence. Experience shapes people as they age and many of the black and white stances they took in their youth goes away or moderates.

A more logical thinking about the question says it is possible to get married to someone you are not deeply attracted to. If there are no alternatives to your first choices, for example, you settle for less. If we also believe our destiny is written for us at inception or prior, then despite our thoughts and expectations in life, we may end up marrying someone we are not attracted to, or we may not. Nobody can say for sure who they will end up with.

We all hope for the best always and we adapt and change based on experience we go through.



I am lucky now that I don't have to grabble with the thoughts of making a choice, I met a woman who has both Caqli fiican iyo Garasho, and Good looks I admire(beauty is in the eye of the beholder). That is why I am smuggly smoking my pipe though it kills eventually.
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Re: Would you ever marry someone your not attracted to?

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Big shiny booty is all I need. And 3 big delicious meals with Mango juice and baklava twice a day

Everything else is a non issue. No love or appearance is nevessary
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Re: Would you ever marry someone your not attracted to?

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Of course. Somalis have done it for centuries. You grow to love the person. :roll: Those ones are sometimes the most successful, because they are not based on sexual attraction. Meaning the attraction fades out, and mark my words it will, u have nothing else to hold on to. At least with arranged marriage of no attraction, u have something mystical to work on. U have the understanding this is a marriage but not an emotional crap like love or sex appeal. :stylin:
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Re: Would you ever marry someone your not attracted to?

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GOD NO.
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