What Advice Should I Give This 1 Kid?

[ciyaal_warta]

if he cant control his anger infront of his parent he doesnt deserve ur advice...so tell him to suicide or jump off a bridge

[Navy9]

if he cant control his anger infront of his parent he doesnt deserve ur advice...so tell him to suicide or jump off a bridge

yaa satir

[ciyaal_warta]

if he cant control his anger infront of his parent he doesnt deserve ur advice...so tell him to suicide or jump off a bridge

yaa satir

seriously that is my advice...if i am to explode due to anger and i see my parents am gona swallow it...if the kid was in xamar i will take him str8 to the closest police station and arrest him for disobeying his parents...the police stations love to arrest caasi waalidayn kidz

[CilmiDoone]

Samatr,

The Kid is 19 years old, and honestly most of these kids these age are so far gone in their caasinimo they probably woudln't even apologise. At the very least, He's remorseful enough to apologise over and over again. I also agree, I could understand the Dad being shocked, and extremely angry yet it is kinda wierd that the Dad wouldn't forgive. The Kid's Dad btw, travelled extensively but still provided very well financially and was pretty much gone for almost all of the kid's life. Not that, its a excuse for Him to say that.

And he has the nerve to demand respect? the son was right.A father by name iga dheh...do you think just providing is enough for a child?

Maybe he did his best and there were prevailing circumstances that we dont know.

[CilmiDoone]

Why is his father not forgiving that's the better question

This
Many a things are said in the heat of the moment

I agree. The father is over-reacting, exxagerating, he needs to get off it. hes just playing mind-games.

[Navy9]

if he cant control his anger infront of his parent he doesnt deserve ur advice...so tell him to suicide or jump off a bridge

yaa satir

seriously that is my advice...if i am to explode due to anger and i see my parents am gona swallow it...if the kid was in xamar i will take him str8 to the closest police station and arrest him for disobeying his parents...the police stations love to arrest caasi waalidayn kidz

walaalo, being respectful is one thing and being obedient is another thing, you do not have to be obedient all the time, you do have your own brain and view things in life differently than your parents, right? I have learnt that is very vital to be able to read your parents hidden language. For instance, when i am arguing with my father and he starts mocking my Somali, i know i got on his nerve so I retreat and continue my argument on another day...its all good.

[Hyperactive]

his dad is soft. i would be thought a lesson right there and then. when i was 15, and mind you that was first time ever tried to act rebel as teen, and cut fiqh class that i thought was repetitive and was bored. second day my head was shaved , as humiliation and shipped to jigjiga and harar for whole 2 month. never misbehaved in front of my dad ever.

but one thing i noticed is he is soft on my younger brother who is totally crazy and rebel by nature. parents so e times are unfair.

[Navy9]

lol @ hyper, i know that feeling. I always thought my mom was extremely tough on me and flexible with my younger siblings and how i wished i was not the eldest. My younger siblings wished they were the eldest, they hated so much everyone telling them to be like their older sister esp at school, they felt like they were walking in my shadow. Their cutest rebel line when they are angry with me was "we have a mother, we do not need another mother".




what can i say, c'est la vie...

[Hyperactive]

my only explanation is, they may got tired of displine them.

[Samatr]

Samatr,

The Kid is 19 years old, and honestly most of these kids these age are so far gone in their caasinimo they probably woudln't even apologise. At the very least, He's remorseful enough to apologise over and over again. I also agree, I could understand the Dad being shocked, and extremely angry yet it is kinda wierd that the Dad wouldn't forgive. The Kid's Dad btw, travelled extensively but still provided very well financially and was pretty much gone for almost all of the kid's life. Not that, its a excuse for Him to say that.

A 19 year old is not a kid but still a young adult.
the son had a point, money doesn't raise a kid,j ust look at the people you know; the ones who had a father figure for the most part behave a bit different there are always exceptions though.

[salool]

Salool,

Sis, believe me a good parent would always want to be involved in their children's life but life is not always ideal. A father that makes sure to provide everything that his child needs is a good parent in my books. You have no idea how many fathers are out there who not only abandon their kids when they need them the most but also have the nerve when their kids are grown ups to demand their parental rights over them. Our parents are no angels, they do have their short comings but we too should understand that as well and be respectful.

Walaalo a father who can provide for his children is good laakin it's not enough.We're adults and we can understand the situation better but kids see it differently, not all the money in the world can replace a fathers affection, love and guidance.For a boy, just having his father there cheering up for him during his soccer games means the world for him.Somalis realy need to change their priorities, and think about their kids needs first instead of chasing their dreams.

[Hyperactive]

life is not easy for fathers too, God help them. i guess we rest when we die only!

[Murax]

My mother once told me that a mother will always forgive her child no matter what. A father doesn't have the same bond. I have taken care not to offend my father ever, out of filial piety but also because of that reason.

Walle so true. I have a brother, who was wild, but the patience level between My Mom and My Dad towards Him was just unreal. I really think a Dad (Not all) can emotionally cut thems from their kid(s) if they really want to. A Mother can never.

[AgentOfChaos]

Tell the kid to bribe his dad with khat, he will forgive him in no time.

[Navy9]

Salool,

I guess you have a point there; maybe if I were a boy, I would have seen things differently.

my only explanation is, they may got tired of displine them.

Hyper, do you know what my mom's logic was, the leader of the herd has to be tough so she was giving me lessons the hard way; I didn't want to be a leader or anything...just be me. But the good thing i learned many years later, that was not after all a bad training, if people give me hard time, I exactly know how to react without losing my composure...at least in most cases