How shall i deal with it?

[Enlightened~Sista]

In Islam you're not even supposed to come unannounced to your own home...wa inaad khabar xaaskaaga siisa let alone bringing someone else along with you {read about it}. Of course your wife is also wrong for chasing away your guest like that.

[Lillaahiya]

She's foul for telling your niece to dip and you're just as obtuse for not even letting her know before hand. This doesn't warrant a divorce though. How you gonna tell your kids "eedada ba rabtay inay habeen nalaa seexato, hooyadana wey diiday, kolkaasan warqadeeda siiye" If this incident is enough for you to think about divorce then perhaps it was already in the back of your mind and you're just waiting for the excuse/justification.

[zingii]

Seef la bood baan noqday.

mama sita felt threatened and was protecting her zone.

[Sameyacadey2013]

Firstly hi all
Secondly I don't think that divorce should be taken so lightly. its the most hated thing in the sight of Allah. for that reason we should hate it too as much. Your wife shouldn't have acted the way she did but then again you didn't inform her about bringing some1 home. One phone call to tell her huni my niece will sleep over might have changed lt all. Marriage is a two way street and communication is the key. having said that it's not always that easy and no one has a perfect marriage. we are all humans but as long as we are trying our best and our intentions and actions are sincere then God make it work for you. That's what I always say to myself.

[RaymondWashington]

yeah, that was rude. Family is family, she shouldn't have done that.
But, an impulsive decision is only going to make it worse,..so be the wise one in your relationship and talk about it. Try to make her understand that no matter what families stick together and your niece is family too.
I believe it is more a matter of strengthening your trust and reorganizing your priorities with your partner. You should really talk to her or maybe see a marriage counselor..but divorce is not going to solve anything..besides, it will have a bad impact on your children.

[RaymondWashington]

yeah, that was rude. Family is family, she shouldn't have done that.
But, an impulsive decision is only going to make it worse,..so be the wise one in your relationship and talk about it. Try to make her understand that no matter what families stick together and your niece is family too.
I believe it is more a matter of strengthening your trust and reorganizing your priorities with your partner. You should really talk to her or maybe see a marriage counselor..but divorce is not going to solve anything..besides, it will have a bad impact on your children.

[barbarossa]

From the sound of it, this marriage has been on the rocks for quite some time. The couple in question here are apparently struggling with preexisting serious marital difficulties. This, in my opinion, need to be addressed, not in a public forum, but rather through the proper channels, namely, through family, friends or even professional marriage councilors if need be . This seemingly mundane incident with the niece could be more of a symptom than cause of a relationship on a downward-spiral.

[Adali]

You calaacal about your wife on the net, well I guess we know who wears the macawiis in that relationship.


she made you choose between her and your family, doesn't sound like a wife who loves you in fact it seems like the both of you are miserable and only staying together for the kids.