Some pregnant women...

[SummerRain]

Ismahan you chose to do that, you didn't have to. Maybe she doesn't know how to bake and since she's already pregnant this is not the time to start learning.


ps finances waa his responsibility

Salool does she call you guys to come to her house or is that whenever you go wey jiifta?

She ask her husband to drop the kid at our house in his way to work and 10 hours later when he finish he takes the kid with him+ food for the entire evening and the morning after...so her highness dont starv while his is at work.She doesnt want be bothered those 10 hours, dont even answer the phone because she's sleeping.During weekends he do the laundry and some hours we help him with the cleaning.Everyday after work he take care of his child, wash the dishes, and do all arends..adeegi, dhaktarki ilmaha etc etc.

Mashallah is he looking for wife no.2? This man knows how to do his job properly

Thats exactly why I choose to do what I did, so balaayos like you don't come around my man.

ESista
We know we are not obligated to lift a finger, as muslimah we are to follow the mother of the believers and their adaab and cater to our husbands. No man wants a woman who isn't catering to his needs. If he gladly hires a maid for you, he will gladly eventually take her as a wife, because in his pysch the maid takes care of him.

[BlackVelvet]

She is not obligated to cook, believe it or not that's not one of her Islamic duties. In some madhabs she should get paid for housework too.

That's what I'm saying. Even worse a grown man expecting a pregnant woman to run around after him waa yaab!

[salool]

Ismahan you chose to do that, you didn't have to. Maybe she doesn't know how to bake and since she's already pregnant this is not the time to start learning.


ps finances waa his responsibility

Salool does she call you guys to come to her house or is that whenever you go wey jiifta?

She ask her husband to drop the kid at our house in his way to work and 10 hours later when he finish he takes the kid with him+ food for the entire evening and the morning after...so her highness dont starv while his is at work.She doesnt want be bothered those 10 hours, dont even answer the phone because she's sleeping.During weekends he do the laundry and some hours we help him with the cleaning.Everyday after work he take care of his child, wash the dishes, and do all arends..adeegi, dhaktarki ilmaha etc etc.

Mashallah is he looking for wife no.2? This man knows how to do his job properly

loool we will get rid of this one and get him a real wife who can take care of him.Haday xanuunsaneyso lama yaabben, laakin naag cuntadeeda cunaysa oo xabad lalabo ihi hayn oo ninkeedi gaajo ku dishay, bacdeeda ina banaanka lo tuuro ayey istaahisha.Qof maalin oo dhan guri ku raaxeysaneya oo ninkeedi cunto dabka oo saari la wa bakhti
caadi ah.

[salool]

West when you get married, you marry a grown adult who is fully functioning, hopefully. Why does he become a sac sac who can't do anything for himself when he gets a wife?

He's a grown man who's working his socks of *10 hours per day* providing for his family.. The very least the wife could do is slap up a simple meal for him at least once a day.. Assuming she doesn't work.
Being pregnant doesn't make one physically handicapped.. If she can get herself dressed and feed surely she can do a little work around the house and make him a little something to eat..
People need to put themselves in other people's shoes marmar..
Plus marriage is a partnership.. It isn't a one way thing!

[BlackVelvet]

Ismahan ninkaan camal waa barwaqo. Your's is probably spoilt, kaas oo kale a second wife maba rabi laheyn, he's ruined for all other women, job well done

West when you get married, you marry a grown adult who is fully functioning, hopefully. Why does he become a sac sac who can't do anything for himself when he gets a wife?

He's a grown man who's working his socks of *10 hours per day* providing for his family.. The very least the wife could do is slap up a simple meal for him at least once a day.. Assuming she doesn't work.
Being pregnant doesn't make one physically handicapped.. If she can get herself dressed and feed surely she can do a little work around the house and make him a little something to eat..
People need to put themselves in other people's shoes marmar..
Plus marriage is a partnership.. It isn't a one way thing!

He's spending 10 hours a day away from his family. Does he know if they're alive or dead, does he know if his pregnant wife is safe, if she fell down the stairs? The least he can do is make sure she's not running around potentially causing harm to herself or their unborn child. He too needs to be considerate like Helwaa's cousin.

[BlackVelvet]

loool we will get rid of this one and get him a real wife who can take care of him.Haday xanuunsaneyso lama yaabben, laakin naag cuntadeeda cunaysa oo xabad lalabo ihi hayn oo ninkeedi gaajo ku dishay, bacdeeda ina banaanka lo tuuro ayey istaahisha.Qof maalin oo dhan guri ku raaxeysaneya oo ninkeedi cunto dabka oo saari la wa bakhti
caadi ah.

Asiga haddii oo sidaas ku rabo maa iska dhaftiin? Clearly there is something about her he likes. Cunto is just cunto, maybe there are most important things going on here

[MujahidAishah]

Salool you are encourageing her behave waxay ku kibirtay isha gacaal. .shisheye would of slammed the door in her face

[DisplacedDiraac]

He's spending 10 hours a day away from his family. Does he know if they're alive or dead, does he know if his pregnant wife is safe, if she fell down the stairs? The least he can do is make sure she's not running around potentially causing harm to herself or their unborn child. He too needs to be considerate like Helwaa's cousin.

Lol..
So he should quit his job.. claim benefits and cook for the both of them yea?

[BlackVelvet]

West in this case he seems to be managing fine mashaAllah. Kaan wu barakeysan yahay like I said.


If there was one who was struggling then yes, he'd have to get his priorities straight.

[salool]

Adiga trolling sheekadada way kay badtay Bv, bal ka waran haday hooyada aabaha oo maanta dhan so shaqayneyey cunto oo karin?
Dadku way is caawiyan laakin wax yaalahas oo kale waa axmaqnimo iyo dhaqan xumo.She's digging her own grave and one day he will say: enough is enough and none of us will defend her.in fact mashxard baanu ku dhufan.ulululul.



Aisha, we're doing it for him not her.Maxaanu samayna miskiinka ma gaajo ku dili karna.

[MujahidAishah]

cunto waaxba but ciyaalka haa haysato :ufdup;

[BlackVelvet]

My mom is too much of a raaliyo aniga my husband will get the karbaash wasaqa aniga oo cunto iga sugaa miya?!

cunto waaxba but ciyaalka haa haysato :ufdup;

Inna lillahi! Better cuntada in ey iska kariso. Adigo uur leh ilmo ka dabo carar...subxanallah I can hardly keep up now

[MujahidAishah]

Bv thats your kids you cant just dump them because your pregnant waxas hooyo maha.

[salool]

lool Aisha, ilmihi yara intay is ag seexiso bey dooneysa inu maanta oo dhan la hurdo...intu dhuubtay bu xanuun ka bixiy waayey.Kids need rutin and have their meals on time + hawo ayay oo baahan ina banaanka la saaro.Xita ilmihi yara banaanka oo saari meyso.



Bv, nooca oo kale waa kuwa cagaha nimanka oo meydha...naag kasta oo is waasha nin cabiidsada aya hela.Besides the apple dont fall far from the tree, inan kasta hooyadeed bey noqota..so wil be raaliya just like ur mother.

[Enlightened~Sista]

Ismahan gartey..personally I don't have a problem wit it as long as it is not expected of me to cook markasta.