Qudbo Siro.

[BlackVelvet]

I think this is just a way to insult each other - I don't want to be seen with you. Which in actuality is insulting yourself because how can you feel proud of yourself having such a dirty relationship that you have to hide it? As a woman you'd probably start feeling like a hooker and as a man you'd feel like a waste of space because gold-digging aside what kind of a punk arse man doesn't look after his wife?


I know I said to each his own but come on peoples

[zingii]

This isn't Qudbo Siro, you must be married first to call this QS, hiding ur 2nd wife. She is garoob ur single, why hide it..

We Just dont want to publisize it.
We want it to be private for now by not informing
anybody.

[Anarchist]

What drives sane women to agree to "Qudbo Siro"? It can't be just desperation.

Convenience of legal bootycall is the only logical reason i could come up with.

For the man, by all means, yes! But, for the woman?

[ElfRuler]

I think this is just a way to insult each other - I don't want to be seen with you. Which in actuality is insulting yourself because how can you feel proud of yourself having such a dirty relationship that you have to hide it? As a woman you'd probably start feeling like a hooker and as a man you'd feel like a waste of space because gold-digging aside what kind of a punk arse man doesn't look after his wife?


I know I said to each his own but come on peoples

Some people are turned on by the secrecy, the thriller, and the whole sneaking around staff.

[zingii]

What i am trying to get to bottom of is:


For a divorcee, is wali needed?

[Tuushi]

I think this is just a way to insult each other - I don't want to be seen with you. Which in actuality is insulting yourself because how can you feel proud of yourself having such a dirty relationship that you have to hide it? As a woman you'd probably start feeling like a hooker and as a man you'd feel like a waste of space because gold-digging aside what kind of a punk arse man doesn't look after his wife?


I know I said to each his own but come on peoples

I think this is humans at their core simplicity.

Two adults who want some action without the fuzz of responsibility or/and any attachments.


Anarchist. What is the woman losing here? She probably os established,has her life sorted out.

[PrinceDaadi]

War suaashu ninku idin weydiiyay ka jawaabu! bahashu ma xalaal baa hadii islaantu garoobtahay? oo eyadu ma is nikaaxin kartaa? "isnikaaxis"***

[zingii]

The dude is a student finishing school.
The chick is established with business.

They are both used to xalaal stuff that they highly desire.
Their mission is to satisfy one another with no strings atatched.

They think a WALI is not needed to give her away but are also unsure.

Both parties simply want to jiggy with it to lessen unpermisable desires.

[zingii]

War suaashu ninku idin weydiiyay ka jawaabu! bahashu ma xalaal baa hadii islaantu garoobtahay? oo eyadu ma is nikaaxin kartaa? "isnikaaxis"***

This.

[InaSamaale]

^ go ask a shayk if your serious about it, in the mean time look up 'Urfi marriage on IslamQandA

Ain't gonna give you a fatwah but their is substance to the saying wixii la qariya qurun aa ku jiro.

[grandpakhalif]

I think this is just a way to insult each other - I don't want to be seen with you. Which in actuality is insulting yourself because how can you feel proud of yourself having such a dirty relationship that you have to hide it? As a woman you'd probably start feeling like a hooker and as a man you'd feel like a waste of space because gold-digging aside what kind of a punk arse man doesn't look after his wife?


I know I said to each his own but come on peoples

its the female's choice she relinqushes her rights to economic support/etc. they agreed to it and its 100% halaal.

[Lillaahiya]

Some sheykhs just need a pretty penny and they won't ask questions. Also, a divorced woman doesn't need a wali, not that it would matter since they're hiding the marriage anyway.

[MrSinister]

if i was an enterprising shieck, i would set up an online qudbo siro website, where for a fee, the divorced, the desperately horny but morally/religiosly inclined can marry for a night or more and sign a strict contract where no emotional, financial attachments can be expect from the marriage. maybe call it qudbo siro.com or xalaax.com

unfortunately im a lazy shieck.

[SummerRain]

What i am trying to get to bottom of is:


For a divorcee, is wali needed?

Yes! The Hadith of our prophet clearly states a nikkah without a wali is invalid.

[AbdiWahab252]

Best thread he has read in 2013. He will keep a close eye on it for spiritual guidance.