Somali women and Ajanabi men

[saacJabshee]

I agree with this, I will definitely be choosing my husband according to his deen, personality and achievements not his ethnicity. Being Somali means nothing to me, it's not going to get me to Jannah nor will it give me a comfortable life in the dunya. Plus my family couldn't care less the ethnicity of the guy I marry as long as he's got a good background.

fair enough but are you saying you are looking for a foreigner or you'll see who you fall for?

[SiennaEarth]

I agree with this, I will definitely be choosing my husband according to his deen, personality and achievements not his ethnicity. Being Somali means nothing to me, it's not going to get me to Jannah nor will it give me a comfortable life in the dunya. Plus my family couldn't care less the ethnicity of the guy I marry as long as he's got a good background.

fair enough but are you saying you are looking for a foreigner or you'll see who you fall for?

Obviously I'm not going to go out of my way searching for a non Somali, who does that? If I find a good Somali man with what I'm looking for then good, if I don't and instead find a good non Somali guy with what I'm looking for then why not? When I die is Allah going to ask me why I didn't marry a Somali? No He's going to ask me about my deen so efff nationalism, it's a disease.

[AgentOfChaos]

O Lord! Here we go again!

Don't you know the universe revolves around xaliimos and their ajnabi men? Brace yourself sxb, this topic will never end cause apparently we should give a shit.

[Typhoon]

I agree with this, I will definitely be choosing my husband according to his deen, personality and achievements not his ethnicity. Being Somali means nothing to me, it's not going to get me to Jannah nor will it give me a comfortable life in the dunya. Plus my family couldn't care less the ethnicity of the guy I marry as long as he's got a good background.

I feel sorry for you, you don`t have self worth
humanitarian lover ma tahay whats with this aboriginal iyo adoon ba raba

If self worth means I have to be limited to Faraxs only even if they flopped in life then hey I guess I don't have any.

to quote urban philosopher katt williams "what is about your p**sy that attracts farax"
why do you the glass have empty instead of half full.

You have fetish for the exotic and the aberrant, you are non conformist.
Am very liberal with the woman I date but in my respectable somali life I am hardcore traditionalist and marriage is a sacrosanct somali institution.
Like our local wadad xkeyse said stop using islam like an excuse diinta ma ku fidhisaan S....

Euphoriia the content of your character is very obvious to me, you lack self-worth and confidence in own and community at large, you think you have more chance outside the somali community= dependency syndrome, cayrta qurbaha ba keentay that mentality it’s not your vault
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[SiennaEarth]

Lol okay think whatever you want coz I really don't give two flying donkeys.

[wiyeer]

O Lord! Here we go again!

Don't you know the universe revolves around xaliimos and their ajnabi men? Brace yourself sxb, this topic will never end cause apparently we should give a shit.

I couldn't have to put it better myself sxb.

[Typhoon]

Lol okay think whatever you want coz I really don't give two flying donkeys.

p**sy is a valuable commodity make sure you keep it inside the somali community because faraaxinta Cidna uma Maqna Ceelna Uma Qodna.

[Twist]

O Lord! Here we go again!

Don't you know the universe revolves around xaliimos and their ajnabi men? Brace yourself sxb, this topic will never end cause apparently we should give a shit.

[misterioso]

It is really rough out there for my single Somali sisters. The gap between the two genders is so wide and it has become really difficult for our women to find good suitors for marriage. I was at a gathering last weekend, and it hit me the number of beautiful, educated, well mannered single girls in the room and in comparison to the males, wallahi there were only handful of them that would maybe come close to their accomplishments. Some of these girls were in their late 20s, some even in their 30s. I used to believe that a Somali woman is best married to a Somali man but with all the social issues our community is facing, and the large number of girls settling for good for nothing faraxs, I'v become a proponent of inter-racial marriage as one of the solutions. I think these girls shouldn't hold themselves back from starting a family because she has to marry a Somali man. This stigma attached to the girls who marry ajanabi is completely baseless considering that Somali men have nothing to offer. If a girl is a university graduate, worked hard to maintain a job and support her family, I find it unfair that she ends up with a taxi driver or a truck drive, or a political science degree holder chasing a job in Somalia (with no pay).

Girls should rethink about what they want out of a marriage and if they find a similar minded fella who is muslim, should go ahead and marry him. Parents should also support this, it is defnitely better than giving their daughters to some farax from their clan only for him to divorce her in couple of years.

I think a study should be done, about Somali women who married foreigners and how they've fared. You yourself can do it, by interviewing a number of them. My instinct tells me they're unhappy and wish they hadn't done it. Personally, I think the solution lies in Somali men and how they can become more successful in education. This requires Somali parents to change how they raise their male children.

[Anarchist]

Not sure just what marrying outside the community solves, it's bound to create other compatibility issues. These women just need to find contentment with themselves and stop believing a man will complete them. It may look all beautiful in theory, but it rarely ever turns out as planned. Can't imagine spending my days next to a person who doesn't even speak Somali and whose values mirror none of mine. Education, life ambitions, etc are things which can be corrected - but how do you correct a person's physical appearance? Body odor? An alien upbringing to yours? Every culture is different and last I checked Islam alone wasn't sufficient. But, who am I to say No? Ka tii-tiimbada sii fiican.

[Typhoon]

Lol okay think whatever you want coz I really don't give two flying donkeys.

maanta wa ceebowday

allow ceebtada astuur, somalinet dhan wa la yabay, war gabdhii Euphoriia maha ku dhacay, jamaican iyo kukiyu ha ii la siiyo bay ku walatay.

but we still care about you as-long as you don`t take the route of DANGIRL, taas rajo ma laha, wa ka quustay, adi lakin kama quusaan becaue your are in the heterosexual domain
after you eat those monkey dishes from the congo you learn to love somalis with their imperfection

Euphoriia gabdhaha ha naga fadarayn by glamorizing your avant gard culture because you like one night stands doesn`t mean you have to propagate it in a public forum where young girls brows

I had always good impression of you lakin maanta wa niyad jabay, wai o wai!......saan ma dumarki somaliyeed u dhambaysay

[PrettyPrincess]

I could never imagine marrying someone outside my nationality! Marriage in itself is hard work so why would you add another culture into the mix, thats just a recipe for disaster. The prophet (pbuh) said love for your brother what you love for yourself and most of these halimos who are acting all "team ajnabi" all wanna end up with a farah anyways so why would you recommend non-somali to your sisters only to discover what you already know "that all men are the same" regardless. I rather take my risk on a somali guy and throw him his baac madow if he does me wrong rather than loose myself with ajnabi, just saying!

[Alto]

It is really rough out there for my single Somali sisters. The gap between the two genders is so wide and it has become really difficult for our women to find good suitors for marriage. I was at a gathering last weekend, and it hit me the number of beautiful, educated, well mannered single girls in the room and in comparison to the males, wallahi there were only handful of them that would maybe come close to their accomplishments. Some of these girls were in their late 20s, some even in their 30s. I used to believe that a Somali woman is best married to a Somali man but with all the social issues our community is facing, and the large number of girls settling for good for nothing faraxs, I'v become a proponent of inter-racial marriage as one of the solutions. I think these girls shouldn't hold themselves back from starting a family because she has to marry a Somali man. This stigma attached to the girls who marry ajanabi is completely baseless considering that Somali men have nothing to offer. If a girl is a university graduate, worked hard to maintain a job and support her family, I find it unfair that she ends up with a taxi driver or a truck drive, or a political science degree holder chasing a job in Somalia (with no pay).

Girls should rethink about what they want out of a marriage and if they find a similar minded fella who is muslim, should go ahead and marry him. Parents should also support this, it is defnitely better than giving their daughters to some farax from their clan only for him to divorce her in couple of years.

Adiga iska billoow oo guurso Ajnabi. See who sheds tears for your departure. One less Xaliimo who ditched the boat uun baad noqon, and forgotten.

[misterioso]

Adiga iska billoow oo guurso Ajnabi.

She's already taken.

[Lillaahiya]

You haven't addressed the root causes of the issue though. Why is there a gender gap in education and profession? Is it because Somali men don't value education as much as Somali women? Do Somali men lack motivation or desire? Or do Somali men face more obstacles that prevent them from obtaining a diploma/degree or job? Perhaps women pursue diplomas/degrees that lead to gendered occupations which may be in higher demand (nursing, teaching, etc) while their male counterparts study fields that may not necessarily lead to a job right away (economics, chemistry, mathematics, etc)? If we don't collectively take a step back and look at the bigger picture, quick fixes such as marrying ajnabis won't help the current situation. I don't mean to knock personal preferences; however, I think if you're going to marrying someone who isn't Somali, then that decision shouldn't be based on the plight of Somali men but be a conscious personal choice. Without raising awareness, prescribing solutions, and learning through trial and error, we'll never reach a solution, which means the gender gap will only become worse.

p.s. @ all the "who cares, orod guurso xyz". Stop projecting your insecurities.