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Any woman that rejects Based is obviously a lesbian.

Funny Farax hitting on a Korean chick who has a thing for Asian Guys , a now he wonders why she turned him down .

Based wrote:Any woman that rejects Based is obviously a lesbian.

Naw a lady loves a man in uniform. Mr. eskeri Supreme Revolutionary Council

Based wrote:Any woman that rejects Based is obviously a lesbian.

Naw a lady loves a man in uniform. Mr. eskeri Supreme Revolutionary Council

GeoSeven wrote:

Perfect_Order wrote: So, if you don't want it to bother you, I recommend you let yourself get rejected twicea day for the first week, once a day for two weeks, and then once a week after that and I guarantee you won't think twice before moving on.

You are talking to a female with a totality of mind completely different to yours. You probably just prescribed her a female routine into gradual depression.

STARKAST wrote:

Based wrote:Any woman that rejects Based is obviously a lesbian.

Naw a lady loves a man in uniform. Mr. eskeri Supreme Revolutionary Council

I thought you were a guy...unless you swim that way.

Relationships are not worth it. *Bah Hum Bug*. I'm just being a bitter Betty. Tried that hogwash once and I came to the conclusion I'm better off solo.

Translation: I spoke to a standup Somali dude that was serious and wanted to get married a couple years ago. I knew him for years prior and he met my subconscious check list. He had a clean record, with no baggage like myself, he was family oriented, witty, intelligent and self-deprecating. He wanted to get married and I was too focused on my goals/aspirations. As fate had it, I decided to be friends. He recently moved on. I surprisingly did not, and now he's about to get engaged. *Ugly cry*. In other words the one that rejected can eventually feel rejected after the fact. The tables have turned. I really should have taken my friend's advice and talk to plenty, as the Somali proverb goes. Too time consuming and exhausting for us one-track minds. I don't know how they manage.

#MythofReturn #MoveOn #SchoolOverEverything #DiversifyYourPortfolio #TeamArrangedMarriage

sophisticate wrote:Relationships are not worth it. *Bah Hum Bug*. I'm just being a bitter Betty. Tried that hogwash once and I came to the conclusion I'm better off solo.

Translation: I spoke to a standup Somali dude that was serious and wanted to get married a couple years ago. I knew him for years prior and he met my subconscious check list. He had a clean record, with no baggage like myself, he was family oriented, witty, intelligent and self-deprecating. He wanted to get married and I was too focused on my goals/aspirations. As fate had it, I decided to be friends. He recently moved on. I surprisingly did not, and now he's about to get engaged. *Ugly cry*. In other words the one that rejected can eventually feel rejected after the fact. The tables have turned. I really should have taken my friend's advice and talk to plenty, as the Somali proverb goes. Too time consuming and exhausting for us one-track minds. I don't know how they manage.

#MythofReturn #MoveOn #SchoolOverEverything #DiversifyYourPortfolio #TeamArrangedMarriage

Sorry to hear that walal. Definitely talking to multiple guys helps one from developing strong feelings, as well as never going out solo. Group dates, double dates and public event meet up will protect your delicate heart.


Calaf is calaf, meaning you should accept the fact that you could never escape the person destined for you or force something from someone you are not destined for. Its best to focus on your life goals and enjoy the ride.

SelfD wrote:

sophisticate wrote:Relationships are not worth it. *Bah Hum Bug*. I'm just being a bitter Betty. Tried that hogwash once and I came to the conclusion I'm better off solo.

Translation: I spoke to a standup Somali dude that was serious and wanted to get married a couple years ago. I knew him for years prior and he met my subconscious check list. He had a clean record, with no baggage like myself, he was family oriented, witty, intelligent and self-deprecating. He wanted to get married and I was too focused on my goals/aspirations. As fate had it, I decided to be friends. He recently moved on. I surprisingly did not, and now he's about to get engaged. *Ugly cry*. In other words the one that rejected can eventually feel rejected after the fact. The tables have turned. I really should have taken my friend's advice and talk to plenty, as the Somali proverb goes. Too time consuming and exhausting for us one-track minds. I don't know how they manage.

#MythofReturn #MoveOn #SchoolOverEverything #DiversifyYourPortfolio #TeamArrangedMarriage

Sorry to hear that walal. Definitely talking to multiple guys helps one from developing strong feelings, as well as never going out solo. Group dates, double dates and public event meet up will protect your delicate heart.


Calaf is calaf, meaning you should accept the fact that you could never escape the person destined for you or force something from someone you are not destined for. Its best to focus on your life goals and enjoy the ride.

Thanks for the advice. I concur walaal, don't get caught up. I used to exercise personal distance for years, I'm kind of aloof and nonchalant. I still am for the most part. I think females should not be under the impression that because so and so is the first person you gave a chance to, that it's a wrap - wedding bands. We had common morals, but different values. Self-deception is a horrible thing. He moved away, which might have been his impetus behind getting married. In theory it sounded ok, but my inner voice said "hell naw" [had too much to do]. In any case, we just had different trajectories. Mine revolved around cultivating self-efficacy and personal growth, while he had something else planned out. It would have been unfair to rob him of what he wanted. Allah knows best. I also believe life and opportunities are what you make of them. Ca la vie.

"Freedom"

SelfD,sophisticate,

Do Yall get pressure from Your Mothers?

hmmm lots of wise words for younger up & coming people.
Then again, I know a young lady in my area, went to 6th form with her actually (she's a few years older), who married someone through family. All boxes ticked and they hit it off straight away. She declined to ention however, that she has no plans to have kids for the first 5 years (apparently, according to others) and so would be requiring birth control for ages. Needless to say aftetr a few back and forths with her family to negotiate things, it all broke down.

My own experience of arranged marriage isn't that positive to be fair. However there's plenty of pros & cons about both methods and in the end seeking Allah's council (istikhaarah) is the only way to gain a good partner and for marriage to survive.

@ Murax: probably not. It's just natural, at some point you wanna settle down and start popping babies

Murax wrote:SelfD,sophisticate,

Do Yall get pressure from Your Mothers?

Nope no pressure from my parents.

SelfD wrote:

Murax wrote:SelfD,sophisticate,

Do Yall get pressure from Your Mothers?

Nope no pressure from my parents.

Same here

there is a ethipian girl living near me, i used to sometimes visit her for "bun" and "canjeero" most importantly to win her heart i politely told her that i am single and looking for one. but i always used to give her some space when we are sitting together, i was like really very desparate miskiin dude who is waiting some miracle reaction like " kiss, lets do it now" but that never happened, weeks passed and still no jixinjix,

she even took my phone and called her ex boyfriend, i felt like disrespected and angry like she is my girl. when i asked if she still see her boyfriend she simply said no. finally i decided to show her my wild side and i invaded her personal space. i was rejected verbally but there was no too much serious resistance although i let her go. i wasnt expecting her to call me until i catch her again, unexpectedly she called me back yesterday, i realised girls like bad boys. next friday i wont sit the corner again and she already know that , i will pray upstairs

we dont like bad boys, okay!

we like confidence and kindness and of course we love attention. Just dont look desperate and you'll be fine.