sophisticate wrote:Reacher wrote:I wouldn't mind seeing sophy get tested with real life proposal by a Somali madhibaan brother. It would be either her family or her man. Wonder which side she will choose to? Sophy, speak the truth my lady.
What a sad fate indeed for my beautiful future children. Disowning can hurt. I'll ask hooyo and aabo a hypothetical question and I shall see the response uno momento. For some reason, the #1 reason parents take issue with it is because of social stigma/alienation from other Somalis. Perhaps something in our twisted collective consciousness needs to change.
But same parents might give an approval to a marriage between you and a convert you choose to marry. One big reason I have no association with clan, never feel anything about it, no affinity, no hate, no love was because of my father. A man born and bred in a city, educated in a city who traveled the world ayuu ahaa. I was lucky to be born as a son to him. Ilaahay ha u naxariisto. What an example he was. A man of culture and respect, very educated, he was ahead of Somalis in foresight and knew what a kid needed to grow up healthy and independent among Somalis.
We all represent our parent's and extended relatives' views when it comes to Somali culture. Everyone on here represents how and where they grew up and with what form of views towards Somalis they learned from their household. For those who were born in Baadiye, clan was the life, so they know little about other Somalis except what was passed to them through word of mouth, and most of these stories and views about other clans are biased due to a war in the year of abaartii, and that year of this and that etc. Nothing logical to it. Sadly, kids born in US cities ask you what tribe you belong to, and their Somali is zero, they all sound and look demented because of the western culture, yet they are obsessed with the clan. Goes to show what kind of parents they have.
