Anger issues

[Lillaahiya]

Ma ihi

[SultanOrder]

Maya wa tahay 80/20

[Cherine]

Lol

No you guys misunderstood. I wanted to say 'you'd rather lilaahiya' . We're not blind you know

[Lillaahiya]

^ Sure

[SultanOrder]

Oh, I'm not good enough for you cherine? I thought the anti salafi bond meant something.

[Malachite]

What makes me angry is when anger is described as a negative emotion and People who say,"It's only a game" ....but, In many situations i think anger is a healthy response, sound weird...I amm not talking about the smashing the furnitures and shit, or beating up someone kind of anger, but the sort of anger that makes u feel inclined to speak about the things that annoy u rather than than bottling it up till it turns you to destroy thing. How about a heathy anger tha might stimulare a healthy defence of self, is that agression?

Also, people who find it very hard to assert themselves will often think and label assertive behaviour as aggressive behaviour. I get this all the time from women who don't know how to be assertive. Being assertive without any associated feelings of anger

It's not easy but, but you can ensure the anger to be channelled appropriately, and that the thing or person who is the perceived 'cause' of our anger is the actual cause and not just an easy target masking the true cause lol....Not just controlling ur emotions, but understanding them and what is going on around u, and the people who turn to aggression when they are angry do so because they do not have the skill or ability to manage their own internal processes

[Cherine]

Lol this salafi thing xitaa qabriga waa idaba socanaysaa

No you're not coz I can see you're sakaraad with the love of Lilaahiya. I quite enjoy your shukaansi games
and think it's cute

[SultanOrder]

My Cherine amour, you're the only one I adore

[BlackVelvet]

What makes me angry is when anger is described as a negative emotion and People who say,"It's only a game" ....but, In many situations i think anger is a healthy response, sound weird...I amm not talking about the smashing the furnitures and shit, or beating up someone kind of anger, but the sort of anger that makes u feel inclined to speak about the things that annoy u rather than than bottling it up till it turns you to destroy thing. How about a heathy anger tha might stimulare a healthy defence of self, is that agression?

Also, people who find it very hard to assert themselves will often think and label assertive behaviour as aggressive behaviour. I get this all the time from women who don't know how to be assertive. Being assertive without any associated feelings of anger

It's not easy but, but you can ensure the anger to be channelled appropriately, and that the thing or person who is the perceived 'cause' of our anger is the actual cause and not just an easy target masking the true cause lol....Not just controlling ur emotions, but understanding them and what is going on around u, and the people who turn to aggression when they are angry do so because they do not have the skill or ability to manage their own internal processes

Interesting. So what do you do when you recognise that you are angry and identify the cause of this anger?

[Colonel]

I swear alot

[Tuushi]

I hardly get angry.

Road rage,that is a different story.

[Gabre]

[XimanJaale]

I get angry sometimes, but good thing about me is that my anger ends quickly. I get over it, I hardly get very angry unless something really big happened to me. But usually I keep my anger to myself.

I swear alot

Co-sign.

[Malachite]

What makes me angry is when anger is described as a negative emotion and People who say,"It's only a game" ....but, In many situations i think anger is a healthy response, sound weird...I amm not talking about the smashing the furnitures and shit, or beating up someone kind of anger, but the sort of anger that makes u feel inclined to speak about the things that annoy u rather than than bottling it up till it turns you to destroy thing. How about a heathy anger tha might stimulare a healthy defence of self, is that agression?

Also, people who find it very hard to assert themselves will often think and label assertive behaviour as aggressive behaviour. I get this all the time from women who don't know how to be assertive. Being assertive without any associated feelings of anger

It's not easy but, but you can ensure the anger to be channelled appropriately, and that the thing or person who is the perceived 'cause' of our anger is the actual cause and not just an easy target masking the true cause lol....Not just controlling ur emotions, but understanding them and what is going on around u, and the people who turn to aggression when they are angry do so because they do not have the skill or ability to manage their own internal processes

Interesting. So what do you do when you recognise that you are angry and identify the cause of this anger?

Uhmm, take necessary action that doesn’t involve aggression….recognizing tho, is that other people can’t make us angry. That’s something we do internally ourselves in the same way we resolve by taking actions. It’s usually when we project the source of our anger onto someone else that problems start often simply because for the person, the behavior is quite acceptable in line with their own values. Although there might a link between anger and then behaving aggressively, I think one can act agresssively yet, emotionally be feeling calm, yeah…..Just likeargon on hilltop to protect hobbits, that moment of calm acceptance of what he needs to do before he enters the battle lol

So when I am dealing with truly angry people who are truly angry at me, i have many occasions stepped in to this place, then asked few questions, direct ones and questions ttrying to understand how they see things the way they do and them hearing those questions, I have seen that anger melt as they switch from attacking me to attacking the issue at hand. Even if I’m guilty as accused, it’s a matter of who cares how we got here, what’s the best way to solve it, don't have to be a doormat either, once we have looked really close at the situation, it may be there is nothing I can do that will lessen damage and whomever is going to be left with a mark…Shit happens, being a doormat means to take someone’s else and placing blame doesn’t shift the shit

[Malachite]

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