Would you marry someone that your family.

[hunterKING]

Is there some kind of consensus here? Is there something wrong with someone who respects their parents wishes and denies someone marriage? --- Chances are you'll be doing the screening process first, your parents may also have some insider knowledge about the family's background or dynamics. They can play a critical role in this decision. I don't think we are mindless cogs following our parents orders because we lack the psychological fortitude to make our own decisions. Keep in mind, that we come from a collectivist cultural not one predicated on individualism (western world). Hence you are intrinsically linked to your family, call it co-dependent or spoon feeding if you want. You are not the only one to put up with this person, they don't merely marry you but they marry your family as well.

I've heard of a some cases where the person goes ahead and marries the individual that their parents refuse, only to be disappointed with the outcome of the marriage. I'm talking about reasonable parents not dysfunctional ones or those plagued with tribal baggage that clouds their decision making .

For goodness sake their are plenty of fish in the sea. To you hopeless romantics If its love you want, you can love again if let yourself.

There are some awful parents. There are many home-wrecking parents. Not all parents are created equal.

[zumaale]

I think the title of the topic should be, as a woman would you marry ........

Guys, as long as you domesticate the xalimo, your parents wont care but if you marry one with high mileage/history that your parents know of or an carawelo then prepare for drama. Also, avoid xalimos that are male in all but sexual organs. I am referring to the career minded, 50/50 feminazis that have been brainwashed by the freedoms afforded to them by qaxotinimo in the West. You cannot have two pairs of balls in a mrital home, thats asking for a messy divorce.

[Sophisticate]

Is there some kind of consensus here? Is there something wrong with someone who respects their parents wishes and denies someone marriage? --- Chances are you'll be doing the screening process first, your parents may also have some insider knowledge about the family's background or dynamics. They can play a critical role in this decision. I don't think we are mindless cogs following our parents orders because we lack the psychological fortitude to make our own decisions. Keep in mind, that we come from a collectivist cultural not one predicated on individualism (western world). Hence you are intrinsically linked to your family, call it co-dependent or spoon feeding if you want. You are not the only one to put up with this person, they don't merely marry you but they marry your family as well.

I've heard of a some cases where the person goes ahead and marries the individual that their parents refuse, only to be disappointed with the outcome of the marriage. I'm talking about reasonable parents not dysfunctional ones or those plagued with tribal baggage that clouds their decision making .

For goodness sake there are plenty of fish in the sea. To you hopeless romantics If its love you want, you can love again if let yourself.

There are some awful parents. There are many home-wrecking parents. Not all parents are created equal.

I have provided some context hunterKing. It's from my vantage point, you know.

[thehappyone]

For goodness sake their are plenty of fish in the sea.

this line keeps reappearing, nobody believes in soulmates anymore

[Basra-]

sophisticate

u would enjoy Jane Austen if u bow down to your parents wishes and desires when it comes to the partner who will defile u in the b edroom.

[LMFAOO]

I think the title of the topic should be, as a woman would you marry ........

Guys, as long as you domesticate the xalimo, your parents wont care but if you marry one with high mileage/history that your parents know of or an carawelo then prepare for drama. Also, avoid xalimos that are male in all but sexual organs. I am referring to the career minded, 50/50 feminazis that have been brainwashed by the freedoms afforded to them by qaxotinimo in the West. You cannot have two pairs of balls in a mrital home, thats asking for a messy divorce.

[Basra-]

I think the title of the topic should be, as a woman would you marry ........

Guys, as long as you domesticate the xalimo, your parents wont care but if you marry one with high mileage/history that your parents know of or an carawelo then prepare for drama. Also, avoid xalimos that are male in all but sexual organs. I am referring to the career minded, 50/50 feminazis that have been brainwashed by the freedoms afforded to them by qaxotinimo in the West. You cannot have two pairs of balls in a mrital home, thats asking for a messy divorce.

What is WRONG in that statement is epic. zumaale---recognizes that there is 'freedom' in the west. I mean-- he calls it freedom. I think that word is not bad, right? So why does he make it sound like-- as Somalis--they don't deserve freedom of the 'west'! Zu--is tyrannical enslavement an option to consider as a Somali then? R u saying --we don't deserve freedom?


I mean-- u can argue the merits of two sets of balls pairs as much u want-- and u could have a valid point --but your argument of begrudging us poor qaxooti freedom---does not hold a fcuking cent in my book! Kiss my futo! LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL

[Amira143]

I think the title of the topic should be, as a woman would you marry ........

Guys, as long as you domesticate the xalimo, your parents wont care but if you marry one with high mileage/history that your parents know of or an carawelo then prepare for drama. Also, avoid xalimos that are male in all but sexual organs. I am referring to the career minded, 50/50 feminazis that have been brainwashed by the freedoms afforded to them by qaxotinimo in the West. You cannot have two pairs of balls in a mrital home, thats asking for a messy divorce.

@"domesticate your Xalimos" what are we... wild donkeys?

[zumaale]

I think the title of the topic should be, as a woman would you marry ........

Guys, as long as you domesticate the xalimo, your parents wont care but if you marry one with high mileage/history that your parents know of or an carawelo then prepare for drama. Also, avoid xalimos that are male in all but sexual organs. I am referring to the career minded, 50/50 feminazis that have been brainwashed by the freedoms afforded to them by qaxotinimo in the West. You cannot have two pairs of balls in a mrital home, thats asking for a messy divorce.

What is WRONG is that statement is epic. zumaale---recognizes that there is 'freedom' in the west. I mean-- he calls it freedom. I think that word is not bad, right? So why does he make it sound like-- as Somalis--they don't deserve freedom of the 'west'! Zu--is tyrannical enslavement an option to consider as a Somali then? R u saying --we don't deserve freedom?


I mean-- u can argue the merits of two sets of balls pairs as much u want-- and u could have a valid point --but your argument of begrudging us poor qaxooti freedom---does not hold a fcuking cent in my book! Kiss my futo! LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL

Basra, give a xalimo western freedom and she packs your belongings in a bin bag outside the door after you exercise your God given right to smack her when she misbehaves

By 'freedom' I mean they indoctrinate them to believe they are the equal of men when we have clearly defined roles. Men bring the bacon home, women cook it. Life in the west distorts the natural order of things, women become semi-men, men become emasculated. What happened to good old Somali Muslim values

[Sophisticate]

Thehappyone its true people are becoming more realistic. We are no longer trapped in the old paradigm of one true love.

Here are some parting words to say before altruistically cutting them loose...


Basra I don't have antiquated ideas, do I?

I know I'm shifting gears to Margaret Mitchell but who do you think is the better man for Scarlett O'hara.

Ashley or Rhett?

[zumaale]

I think the title of the topic should be, as a woman would you marry ........

Guys, as long as you domesticate the xalimo, your parents wont care but if you marry one with high mileage/history that your parents know of or an carawelo then prepare for drama. Also, avoid xalimos that are male in all but sexual organs. I am referring to the career minded, 50/50 feminazis that have been brainwashed by the freedoms afforded to them by qaxotinimo in the West. You cannot have two pairs of balls in a mrital home, thats asking for a messy divorce.

@"domesticate your Xalimos" what are we... wild donkeys?

Amira, some are wild horses that need to be broken before one can ride them. Cant cook, won't clean and talk back. Nonetheless, you my dear, are not in that group.

[Amira143]

I think the title of the topic should be, as a woman would you marry ........

Guys, as long as you domesticate the xalimo, your parents wont care but if you marry one with high mileage/history that your parents know of or an carawelo then prepare for drama. Also, avoid xalimos that are male in all but sexual organs. I am referring to the career minded, 50/50 feminazis that have been brainwashed by the freedoms afforded to them by qaxotinimo in the West. You cannot have two pairs of balls in a mrital home, thats asking for a messy divorce.

@"domesticate your Xalimos" what are we... wild donkeys?

Amira, some are wild horses that need to be broken before one can ride them. Cant cook, won't clean and talk back. Nonetheless, you my dear, are not in that group.

Haye!

[Basra-]

ZU

first all, in the name Of decency and diinta, don't use the bacon Anology, it gives me puking urges. LOL Second of all, indoctrination is subjective. A man can see that as indoctrination, and a woman can see that as democracy. Third of all, I am sure a lot of Somali women fit in the 'domestica Xalimo' criteria, it is their daily reality. Lots of Xalimo are willing to open their legs, sweep the floor, cook and give births to little hawiyas and daroods. But the thing, men are not keeping their end of their bargain. A welfare daddy is not a muslim prototype daddy who goes and looks for daily bread. (not bacon mind u) Give me a real man--who has money to pay a mortgage, car payment, food, and expenses, and u will find a muslim submissive wife who respects u.


As to the God given right to be smacked. That is debatable. In the heat of passion, sure--smack the hell out of me, but not otherwise. I don't want to see you in your macaawiis, scratching your futo, u haven't brought money at home, and u start giving orders. Nope. Your nightmare will happen. You bags will be packed, and police will be called.

[zumaale]

Ok Basra, bring the caloole home, happy now!

Hedhee, if it goes against our culture and deen waa brainwashing but its not the fault of little caasho or cambaro if the system corrupts them. it is abo and hoyos fault for seeking asylum and the Zoomali civil war/wars.

You are right though, if many men were able to come out of their end of the bargain, divorce rates would not be that high in our society. But you gotta admit, a maryooley that was 'persecuted' back home by her suun waving husband when his canjeero/laxoox was not ready would be tempted to turn the tables on him once she had a taste of western freedom and realised that she does not to take shit and can claim welfare.