somali guy in love with a white girl

[Jeffo]

This guys not looking for any advise. His minds made up, he's just looking for someone to validate him.

[AvidThinkerr101]

This guys not looking for any advise. His minds made up, he's just looking for someone to validate him.

i wanted someone to tell me their good or bad experiences when it comes to interracial marriage or if they were the product of an interracial marriage.
like if someone could weigh the pros and cons would be nice. idk i think I'm just scared of the thought of marriage more then anything...it may just be me being paranoid...although everyone here gave me things to think about. thank you everyone for your responses btw. very helpful.

[Jeffo]

Fuck off and go get your ceeb wet in some white gushy gushy wet wet.

[Tiburon]

To the OP, dude who said going roots mean going somali, to me it means going black or my case a mullato. If you don't look your typical somali it may help you against somalis but not main stream canucks(or cultured canadians as you put it). Never been to canada really so I wouldn't know but from an american perspective, even at liberal schools, there is always an undertone subtle racism and awe as to why one is dating outside his race, especially when it cliched(like black dude/white girl). I suggest you go out with her on a road trip and outside your friend zone, take her to edmonton as I am hear it has many hillbillies and go to a sports bar with her and see how people react. One must be either a militant type(I don't give a fuck personality) to not notice the surroundings and their stares. I tell you this cause I once dated a reformed prostitute and put on my blank I don't give a fuck face but it is still too taxing and energy drainer. Don't get my wrong bro but from what you say the girl has personality which is very good thing and rare in this case, albeit not my thing as I am superficial bastard and will probably end up with a bimbo. I guess to each his own, good luck.

[Tiburon]

Now coming to experiences:
I can tell you one of the best and funniest interracial experience I have had came from mexican/white californian liberal militant girl I met in south america on vacation. I always laughed at how she called young bar girls senoritas meaning old women in that part of the world just to piss them off. I still remember the first day we met and had couple of coronas discussing new constitution for andian country ecuador and her suggestion she could hook me up with the el jeffe. lol. She was spunky, militant, almost artistic, my ideal type but really not someone I can comfortably settle with given my own issues and greed.

As for knowing interracial product, the ones I met seem more open and pragmatic than the rest, a plus if you can overlook the somali culture and are willingly to share and even assimilate equally into the surroundings. Still this is not something I have an experience in as I am not married.

Dude, if you are liberal and willingly to compromise, go ahead and stop being paranoid or as my friend used to put it, we are all going to hell anyway, so might as well do something that makes you happy and has tangible result. Whatever you do though, I am hoping this wasn't a knee jerk obamaphilia effect.

[FAH1223]

Your mind is clearly made up.

If you want to create a legacy that your kids will be confused and eventually be atheists/agnostics, then go ahead with it.

[Adali]

To the OP, dude who said going roots mean going somali, to me it means going black or my case a mullato. If you don't look your typical somali it may help you against somalis but not main stream canucks(or cultured canadians as you put it). Never been to canada really so I wouldn't know but from an american perspective, even at liberal schools, there is always an undertone subtle racism and awe as to why one is dating outside his race, especially when it cliched(like black dude/white girl). I suggest you go out with her on a road trip and outside your friend zone, take her to edmonton as I am hear it has many hillbillies and go to a sports bar with her and see how people react. One must be either a militant type(I don't give a fuck personality) to not notice the surroundings and their stares. I tell you this cause I once dated a reformed prostitute and put on my blank I don't give a fuck face but it is still too taxing and energy drainer. Don't get my wrong bro but from what you say the girl has personality which is very good thing and rare in this case, albeit not my thing as I am superficial bastard and will probably end up with a bimbo. I guess to each his own, good luck.

You dated a reformed prostitute ? I think your credibility just went out the window with that line, go check yourself for STD.

[Sophisticate]

@Zumaale its not all about looks bro. I've seen plenty of fine somali chicks age disgracefully. at 30 they all turn into a typical fat suugo smelling hooyo. every race is that way.

Like I've stated before what you do and who you date is your prerogative. Yes; you are right that all people don't remain the same with respect to looks over time.

However, to infer that at 30 they are " all overweight mothers smelling of suugo" is a statement that wrecks of (1) bias, (2) singlism and (3) fat-shaming. Speak for yourself and what you've seen. Don't use absolutist terms. We care not for what you like. Let's put things in perspective. The probability of finding a well-adjusted Somali that's funny/witty, with an advanced degree, decent looks, health-conscious, with an open mind and self-respect is much higher among the ladies than the men. We've got to be honest here. I don't mean to sound elitist but the men are lagging behind. It's also quite sad that some Somali guys with a couple degrees under their belt or financial stability are far from humble and rub off as entitled and obnoxious at times.

That just had to be said.

[Lancer]

What a self-hating troll if you don't like somali girls then go ahead marry cadaan or casaan girl nobody gives a shit. Just remember if you are a muslim that your children will be at a high risk of not being muslims because of their mother. If you are willing to risk that then suit yourself.

[Jugjugwacwac]

Miscegenation seems to be a Somali obsession these days. Like someone else said before me, this guy isn't seeking advice but validation at the expense of our Somali women. I always wonder what kind of Somali women guys like this have in their families ,and vice versa. I've seen my fair share of incredibly messed up Somali girls, but the human tendency to generalize has been mitigated on my part by the wonderful women in my family. I know there are Somali diamonds out there in the rough because of growing up with my mom, sisters and aunts. I think the endogomous/exogomous divide among diasporan Somalis says more about their perceptions of their own families, and thus their self-concept and concepts of their people, than it does about benign preference, which is what most people ostensibly use as their reason for going ajanabi.

[AgentOfChaos]

I would have given honest advice but I can't ignore the fact that OP is slowpoke troll. Dude, xaliimos don't even make "xaliimo+Ajnabi guy" threads anymore.

[EvolSyawla]

@Zumaale its not all about looks bro. I've seen plenty of fine somali chicks age disgracefully. at 30 they all turn into a typical fat suugo smelling hooyo. every race is that way.

Like I've stated before what you do and who you date is your prerogative. Yes; you are right that all people don't remain the same with respect to looks over time.

However, to infer that at 30 they are " all overweight mothers smelling of suugo" is a statement that wrecks of (1) bias, (2) singlism and (3) fat-shaming. Speak for yourself and what you've seen. Don't use absolutist terms. We care not for what you like. Let's put things in perspective. The probability of finding a well-adjusted Somali that's funny/witty, with an advanced degree, decent looks, health-conscious, with an open mind and self-respect is much higher among the ladies than the men. We've got to be honest here. I don't mean to sound elitist but the men are lagging behind. It's also quite sad that some Somali guys with a couple degrees under their belt or financial stability are far from humble and rub off as entitled and obnoxious at times.
That just had to be said.

I didn't have the care to respond to this thread beyond what advice everyone is trying to give him. Like our darling Jeffo said, he's only looking for validation. But I am glad you addressed those points.

Many of the guys on this forum need help understanding some very fundamental flaws about themselves, let alone our women. So thank you.

[Sophisticate]

@Zumaale its not all about looks bro. I've seen plenty of fine somali chicks age disgracefully. at 30 they all turn into a typical fat suugo smelling hooyo. every race is that way.

Like I've stated before what you do and who you date is your prerogative. Yes; you are right that all people don't remain the same with respect to looks over time.

However, to infer that at 30 they are " all overweight mothers smelling of suugo" is a statement that wrecks of (1) bias, (2) singlism and (3) fat-shaming. Speak for yourself and what you've seen. Don't use absolutist terms. We care not for what you like. Let's put things in perspective. The probability of finding a well-adjusted Somali that's funny/witty, with an advanced degree, decent looks, health-conscious, with an open mind and self-respect is much higher among the ladies than the men. We've got to be honest here. I don't mean to sound elitist but the men are lagging behind. It's also quite sad that some Somali guys with a couple degrees under their belt or financial stability are far from humble and rub off as entitled and obnoxious at times.
That just had to be said.

I didn't have the care to respond to this thread beyond what advice everyone is trying to give him. Like our darling Jeffo said, he's only looking for validation. But I am glad you addressed those points.

Many of the guys on this forum need help understanding some very fundamental flaws about themselves, let alone our women. So thank you.

Agreed. This thread has "attention seeking" stamped all over it. We don't care about his MD or his bride-to-be, Becky. Methinks this is vikingman's new handle.

[salool]

Suugo smelling?

Wuxu doono ha guursade bal muxu dumarka somalida oo caayeya talow...dad ka nadiifsan ma iyagaba jira.

[TheMailMan]

Miscegenation seems to be a Somali obsession these days. Like someone else said before me, this guy isn't seeking advice but validation at the expense of our Somali women. I always wonder what kind of Somali women guys like this have in their families ,and vice versa. I've seen my fair share of incredibly messed up Somali girls, but the human tendency to generalize has been mitigated on my part by the wonderful women in my family. I know there are Somali diamonds out there in the rough because of growing up with my mom, sisters and aunts. I think the endogomous/exogomous divide among diasporan Somalis says more about their perceptions of their own families, and thus their self-concept and concepts of their people, than it does about benign preference, which is what most people ostensibly use as their reason for going ajanabi.

Exactly. There is no reason for a Somali brother to go and marry some White girl. He can find plenty of available Somali women who are looking for marriage, and he should stick to his own kind. I've met a Somali guy who was totally against the idea of marrying Somali women, and his reasons revealed his deep psychological hatred for his own people, as well as his own deep insecurities. I knew this man quite well and he was trying to run away from his own identity, run away from who he was, and he sought validation by marrying some foreigner.

It's very disconcerting. It's disturbing, and it needs to stop