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1nemansquad wrote:this topic has been discussed here over and over its ridiculous.

sophisticate wrote:I believe in opposite sex friends. There are always a set of parameters to work within. We won't be as tight as friends if you are married. Don't tell me your personal business. - in your relationship. I'm not here for you to emotionally cheat with - see a shrink. I help out my friends and if you want a champaign, potential business partner or reference I'm here. The problem is people are self-interested and unwilling to circumvent their individual interests for the maintenance of a platonic relationship. The premise might be - if so and so is such a great catch then why "just be friends". I have a couple reasons. You might not have common values or a similar vision on how you want to live your lives.
Well for one you won't have a scourge of disgruntled Ex-s. You give someone else that has more aligned values with them an opportunity. You could hook them up with a spouse, a job lead for their children in the future. Don't go and burn bridges. Dormant ties are friends you want in your arsenal. When Somalis make the mistake of cutting ties or being selfish it is on them.