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Re: I feel so bad wallahi.
Posted: Wed Mar 04, 2015 8:50 am
by Xamud.
1nemansquad wrote:my cousin lost his wife and new born just yesterday and i feel horrible and guilty like it was my fault. it has been tearing me apart. young guy wanted to marry, came to me for financial support so i did. literally financed his entire house and wedding (true story). after that i told him, nin ragbaa tahay reerkada dhaqo, he lived in a family home so he wasn't paying rent, water or electricity. he came to me for help few other times, helped him out but with advice of family including his dad i was told not to 'ninkan ma naagtiisa baad ubiili'..
nevertheless i sent money just a day ago before she passed after i heard about her giving birth.
now she passed while giving birth and the baby too and i feel like shit..
maybe if helped more?
she was amazing and incredible human being, may Allah have mercy on her and give her Jannah.
also.... nevermind
Amiin Ilaahey ha u naxaristo, asagana samiir iyo Iman ha ka siyo.
It's not your fault, you can only do so much, we don't stand a chance against qadar alle.
I always help fellow Somalis out, specially the elders, even if I'm rushing, I go out of my way to help them as much as I can. Helping fellow Somalis is a value my parents instilled in me and my siblings.
Re: I feel so bad wallahi.
Posted: Wed Mar 04, 2015 8:57 am
by Rambie
my cousin lost his wife and new born just yesterday and i feel horrible and guilty like it was my fault. it has been tearing me apart. young guy wanted to marry, came to me for financial support so i did. literally financed his entire house and wedding (true story). after that i told him, nin ragbaa tahay reerkada dhaqo, he lived in a family home so he wasn't paying rent, water or electricity. he came to me for help few other times, helped him out but with advice of family including his dad i was told not to 'ninkan ma naagtiisa baad ubiili'..
nevertheless i sent money just a day ago before she passed after i heard about her giving birth.
now she passed while giving birth and the baby too and i feel like shit..
maybe if helped more?
she was amazing and incredible human being, may Allah have mercy on her and give her Jannah.
also.... nevermind
AUN May Allah grant peace upon her soul.
It wasn't you fault, it was her time, stay strong
Re: I feel so bad wallahi.
Posted: Wed Mar 04, 2015 9:54 am
by Firefly
1nemansquad wrote:my cousin lost his wife and new born just yesterday and i feel horrible and guilty like it was my fault. it has been tearing me apart. young guy wanted to marry, came to me for financial support so i did. literally financed his entire house and wedding (true story). after that i told him, nin ragbaa tahay reerkada dhaqo, he lived in a family home so he wasn't paying rent, water or electricity. he came to me for help few other times, helped him out but with advice of family including his dad i was told not to 'ninkan ma naagtiisa baad ubiili'..
nevertheless i sent money just a day ago before she passed after i heard about her giving birth.
now she passed while giving birth and the baby too and i feel like shit..
maybe if helped more?
she was amazing and incredible human being, may Allah have mercy on her and give her Jannah.
also.... nevermind
inalillah wa inalillahi raajicuun.. It's not your fault at all. Qof walba waqtikiisa waaye. Since she died during childbirth/ after childbirth she is considered a shaheedah. May Allah swt give you and your family sabr iyo imaan walaal. Also the person that facilitates a halal marriage by bringing two people together or contributing to the cost of the marriage will also receive blessings...ilahay khayr ha ku siiyo.
Re: I feel so bad wallahi.
Posted: Wed Mar 04, 2015 11:05 am
by 1nemansquad
Ameen.
FireFly
FarhanYare
Xamud
Rambie
thank you all