Small things that would probably lead you to divorce your husband/wife

[Murax]

Amazing advice I got that helped Me in My marriage is this:

A lot of times spouses split up about differences they have in things they want to do in the future, or things that happened in the past but rarely is it problems that actually exist in the moment. This could not be more true and the smart thing is for these couples is for both of them to just silently tell themselves 'Calm down, We'll cross that bridge when We get there'.

[eliteSomali]

BV: Those all seem things you can find out before you sign the contract. Assuming y'all meet each other at least couple times, you should know whether or not the person has a bad breath, body odor etc.. Unless it is an arranged married where the only time you see the person is after you marry them, you have no reason to not know these stuff.

As for the wig, I doubt many Somali chicks have hair problems, at least I think majority of them do not.

Anyways, you need to take your time and do some research, observe and ask the appropriate questions before you seal your fate. What you describe sounds like something a person who has no idea what s/he's getting into would do. Or maybe a person who left everything to luck. Do all this before marriage, not after marriage.

[BlackVelvet]

Don't worry elite we won't miss your little boy buuryo.. Qalab casri ah baa laa soo saaray oo waan ka dhul talabsaanay

Bv probation we all know you will jump that nigga in the lift after the wedding

What if he turned out like this Probation

I'll have you know I am a stellar example of self control. Halahaan haddi aan soo moodey 3 months is a piece of cake. Adkeyso, it can be done!


Didn't understand the song

[BlackVelvet]

BV: Those all seem things you can find out before you sign the contract. Assuming y'all meet each other at least couple times, you should know whether or not the person has a bad breath, body odor etc.. Unless it is an arranged married where the only time you see the person is after you marry them, you have no reason to not know these stuff.

As for the wig, I doubt many Somali chicks have hair problems, at least I think majority of them do not.

Anyways, you need to take your time and do some research, observe and ask the appropriate questions before you seal your fate. What you describe sounds like something a person who has no idea what s/he's getting into would do. Or maybe a person who left everything to luck. Do all this before marriage, not after marriage.

What happened to "you don't truly know a person until you live with them"


ps those were just examples there are many more situations and the two I've already mentioned aren't so easily dismissed either

[Xamud.]

^ bruh the proportion period is to make sure u don't consummate the marriage until she's sure you're worthy. lol

Only a very retarded man would accept those terms, ma naag xalaal ii ah ayan habeen walbo isku guuri kaso wada tooseyna aniga oo aan sabaxaden? I will divorce her the min she mentions "Probation periode" and I will demand full refund for every single penny I forked out.

I remember hearing a story about some poor chap that got married to a woman with this type of mindset, of course she did not propose no probation periode, she just kept giving him the run around for a week telling him it was that time of the month, so poor dude bit his tongue and waited for 7 days, only to be told she was too tired or not in the mood for another week, and when 2 weeks had passed she summoned couple of odays and told them "I want a divorce, this man is not a man enough for me, we have been married for 2 weeks and he has not touched at all"...long story short he hit that and divorce her on the spot, how he managed to spin the situation is another story





Probation periode waan ku xada iyada oo hurudo.

[zulaika]

BV,

Yeah devils in the (small) detail. Small troublesome things can compound to greater problems, ie straw breaking camels back etc...but only if u let them. Emphasis on the word "small"...not exactly worthy of a big reaction/outcome like divorce. If u can't help but be affected by the little things, perhaps a smaller gradual response/resolution of fitting stature would be suitable.

Then again it all comes down to the strength or lack thereof your relationship. If u got a good thing going, you will not pay attention to the little things. Some people actually speak of what bothers them about their spouse as some sort of endearment, like its a unique flawed mark of their personality

[eliteSomali]

BV: Those all seem things you can find out before you sign the contract. Assuming y'all meet each other at least couple times, you should know whether or not the person has a bad breath, body odor etc.. Unless it is an arranged married where the only time you see the person is after you marry them, you have no reason to not know these stuff.

As for the wig, I doubt many Somali chicks have hair problems, at least I think majority of them do not.

Anyways, you need to take your time and do some research, observe and ask the appropriate questions before you seal your fate. What you describe sounds like something a person who has no idea what s/he's getting into would do. Or maybe a person who left everything to luck. Do all this before marriage, not after marriage.

What happened to "you don't truly know a person until you live with them"


ps those were just examples there are many more situations and the two I've already mentioned aren't so easily dismissed either

I still believe that but surely you can get a lot of things out of the way. There are things that you can learn about a person only after marriage, and there are other things that you can learn before marriage and all the things you mentioned fall under the latter. Just investigate thoroughly and learn all you can before you commit to marriage. If you do this right, you shouldn't be surprised that terribly after marriage unless you are unlucky.

Aisha: Casri? Why bother with caag when you can have the real thing?

[MujahidAishah]

Smdh :snoops:

Basically he's a fraud waa broke to the point that everything in the house from sariirta iyo maafiiqda is borrowed

[eliteSomali]

^ bruh the proportion period is to make sure u don't consummate the marriage until she's sure you're worthy. lol

Only a very retarded man would accept those terms, ma naag xalaal ii ah ayan habeen walbo isku guuri kaso wada tooseyna aniga oo aan sabaxaden? I will divorce her the min she mentions "Probation periode" and I will demand full refund for every single penny I forked out.

I remember hearing a story about some poor chap that got married to a woman with this type of mindset, of course she did not propose no probation periode, she just kept giving him the run around for a week telling him it was that time of the month, so poor dude bit his tongue and waited for 7 days, only to be told she was too tired or not in the mood for another week, and when 2 weeks had passed she summoned couple of odays and told them "I want a divorce, this man is not a man enough for me, we have been married for 2 weeks and he has not touched at all"...long story short he hit that and divorce her on the spot, how he managed to spin the situation is another story





Probation periode waan ku xada iyada oo hurudo.

Some women are pretty odd but my nigga had too much patience. Some women will marry a man and tell him no as if they had expected something else. Marriage entails sex, how hard is that to understand? A woman that tells you no more than a night should hit the road even if she changes her mind and says yes afterwards. she's not worth your time and eventually seed, and she definitely did not deserve all the expenses that ta man goes through to secure her.

[Xamud.]

Don't worry elite we won't miss your little boy buuryo.. Qalab casri ah baa laa soo saaray oo waan ka dhul talabsaanay

Bv probation we all know you will jump that nigga in the lift after the wedding

What if he turned out like this Probation

Abdi Haybed Lambad my nicca

"Arigii xarashow awr ba ka jooge bal aamurtan eega, allah kulula edeb darana"

Irbada iyo dabqadka ehel baan ka qaday
ogow sariirta waan so amahaday
Dawahaa latisa dad ba isiyey
Haadi ay nin doonto aniga u jooga, iyaduna alaabtey iga badal ii ledahay


He is dealing with a gold-digger

[BlackVelvet]

Zuli but isn't that always the case? Making excuses until eventually it all blows up. People don't really change fundamentally past a certain age so his actions and habits will remain and the fact that they annoy her will also remain


Eventually people who annoy you become people you don't truly like or respect

I still believe that but surely you can get a lot of things out of the way. There are things that you can learn about a person only after marriage, and there are other things that you can learn before marriage and all the things you mentioned fall under the latter. Just investigate thoroughly and learn all you can before you commit to marriage. If you do this right, you shouldn't be surprised that terribly after marriage unless you are unlucky.

Why depend on luck when you have the means and opportunity to get a more conclusive answer

Probation periode waan ku xada iyada oo hurudo.

You see ladies!!!!


This is the kind of knowledge that only a probation will uncover. Acudubillah!

[BlackVelvet]

Smdh :snoops:

Basically he's a fraud waa broke to the point that everything in the house from sariirta iyo maafiiqda is borrowed

More proof that a probation period is crucial

[SiennaEarth]

I'm getting pretty tired of relationship threads on snet, especially ones started by BV BV tell us something personal like a date you went on or a guy who asked for your hand, or a crush you have, anything else is boring to me. The more personal the juicer

[BlackVelvet]

Okay fair enough


I went on a date and ordered seconds What should I do




Sorry Sienna lakin all my relationship topics are theoretical. It has to be enough

[SiennaEarth]

Girl don't even try making fun of me. Why can't you make your relationship threads more juicer though? All they do is make me scared about getting married.