Healing a broken heart...

[CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC]

When you think abt him remember all his bad habits, things that you didn't like abt him nd make urself busy but What ever you do do not beg him or become despo that's just a recipe for depression

[zumaale]

[Theguardian]

^^ so now you admit it, it is absolutely different for woman - men will just move on with the next woman who shows them any interest.
It is definitely men's world.

Although I generalized men, they usually carry less baggage with them if the relationship ends. Depending on the culture in which the love story happens for example, a woman may feel she has given up a lot for the man and it is too late for her to recover her dignity etc. Whereas men just move on without thinking they sacrificed anything worthy about them to be regretful.

To be more clear on what I said, if a Somali woman who is raised in the Islamic culture slept with the guy she loved prior to marriage, and the relationship ended, depending on how strong her faith is at the time, she may feel deeper wounds. A- Loss of dignity(in her mind), B- Loss of the man she loves --> Two strikes against her. So the pain can be deeper for her. If the woman doesn't care much about moral aspect of what happened between her and the man she loved, then she only deals with one Loss(and may lament about how good he was in bed lool), that of the man being not in her life anymore.

There are thousands of ways to look at this. It will be sunset and I need to find my spot under the bridge as Sophi hinted in the other thread that I may be homeless with a Wi-Fi connection submitting posts along the way.

She is amazing isnt she.

[zumaale]

Songs to help you cry your eyes out.

[Bandit]

Another female thread I know the average female mind is occupied by relationship and other petty things but this is absurd

[Theguardian]

When you think abt him remember all his bad habits, things that you didn't like abt him nd make urself busy but What ever you do do not beg him or become despo that's just a recipe for depression

What if he doesn't have any bad habits? or that I know off.

And since everybody is already assumed it is me who got dumped ---- might as go along with and say ok.

I haven't left the house two weeks, lost about 10kg in weight, don't sleep hence why I am here so late every night and early in the morning, took my annual leave in short notice, rely on others to do my shopping .......basically life sucks.

[Theguardian]

Another female thread I know the average female mind is occupied by relationship and other petty things but this is absurd

Hey it is part of life --------- get use to it or look away.

[QuantumSatis]

^ You will get over it. Or he will call you when he misses you since you are an easy available woman who can't say no to him. Either way, it is going to be easier with time and opportunities will present themselves. Stay positive. When he calls, jump to the occasion and tell yourself that is your ticket to getting stronger so you can deal with the next dumping better(what doesn't kill you makes you stronger sorta thinking). If it happened once, it will happen again.

Stay connected to people here and occupy yourself with the forums, visit relatives, donate your time to a worthy cause, stay away from romantic movies, anything that smacks of good times being had by couples etc.

You will be fine.

[jalaaludin5]

[jalaaludin5]

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[SolidCamel]

When you think abt him remember all his bad habits, things that you didn't like abt him nd make urself busy but What ever you do do not beg him or become despo that's just a recipe for depression

What if he doesn't have any bad habits? or that I know off.

And since everybody is already assumed it is me who got dumped ---- might as go along with and say ok.

I haven't left the house two weeks, lost about 10kg in weight, don't sleep hence why I am here so late every night and early in the morning, took my annual leave in short notice, rely on others to do my shopping .......basically life sucks.

What kind of relationship was it?

[QuantumSatis]

^ She shouldn't answer that in public, or in private. She said she is in love and was, that is good enough I think. We shouldn't ask people what can lead to others demeaning them or blaming them.

[SolidCamel]

^ She shouldn't answer that in public, or in private. She said she is in love and was, that is good enough I think. We shouldn't ask people what can lead to others demeaning them or blaming them.

Meh, I'm sure she wants to share, I mean she created a thread initially disguised as general advice, only to admit it was a personal issue.

Besides, I'm not asking for specifics, just generalities.

[Susu000]

In all honesty there is no real tricks or ways to get over someone. the only thing you can do is try to stay focused on your life and carry on with your every day life duties..
The worst thing you can do to yourself is loose yourself in the grievance. Believe it or not but time does heal all wounds.. Might seem impossible now but you'll realize your aching less and less for everyday..

[Theguardian]

^ She shouldn't answer that in public, or in private. She said she is in love and was, that is good enough I think. We shouldn't ask people what can lead to others demeaning them or blaming them.

Thanks...... thats some people for you, there is no limit.