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SteadyState wrote:

sahal80 wrote:regional based inter-marriages had less problems bc theres a bit cultural gap..for example the women in some region r bad mouthed and use the word w*$ wich could be shocking for a religious jufo like mine but not in another neighbouring community!

communities from cadaado, dhusomareb and caabudwaaq have similar cultural backgrounds and it works between them

i dont like to go deep down but some communities r too tribal and work like a lobby so if your an stranger you would have big broblem with the in-laws bc they dont let their man to be an important in the future if he is not under their influence over his familys issues so waa inuu iska dhis dhiso on the expense of his partner!

Some communities have a social problems and cannot be trusted her own distant relatives with her!

Having said that, marrying a somali is not like marrying an ajnabi who you share with him a zero culture

I speak arabic just like a native and it will take me years to know the true colors of an arab friend

You cant tell them until you live with them, work with them than you will see a totally different person!

Qof ajnabi ah can have some hidden isues like alcohol, can beat you, can kill you, can have obsession, racist in-laws etc.

You are forgetting one very important dimension to this, sxb. There is a very large subset of Somalis who consider themselves to be Arabs and thus a completely different race and culture than another large subset of Somalis who consider themselves black African. Therefore, such a relationship would itself be an interracial relationship! So, why support one kind of interracial relationship (i.e inter-clan), and be against others?

Also, again, you seem to be completely oblivious to the fact that Somalis are racist/hateful against each other more than ajnabis are to them. It's like you and the others in this thread are purposely ignoring the towering elephant in the room. Perhaps we need an example to drive it home: say a midgaan guy were to marry an Ogaden girl. Would anyone here deny that the midgaan guy would experience more hatred, more violence, and more opposition to the marriage than your typical Pakistani family? The same is largely true for any non-darod Somali man who wanted to marry the Ogaden girl. He would still face much more resistance and opposition to the marriage than marrying your typical Arab or Pakistani girl. More importantly, his family as well as the family of the girl will actively work to destroy the marriage. No one can deny this happens as there are even documented cases of this on this very forum. In fact, based on from what I've observed, the Ogaden family would be much more welcoming of their daughter marrying an Arab man than a non-Darod Somali man. I'm sure many others have observed this even if they do not want to admit this reality because it undermines their agenda.

SteadyState wrote:How is that at all qabyaalad? Please explain. I don't believe my qabil to be intrinsically better than others nor is my preference based on enmity for the other qabils. The unfortunate reality is, there is an a great deal of enmity and hatred between the tribes, and it just doesn't make sense in going after a girl who's not of my clan if both my family and her family would not only be against it but actively work to ruin the marriage.

As for their being millions, you're clearly exaggerating sxb. I'm not saying they don't exist, but from my observations of the diaspora at least within Canada, the US, and the UK, they are certainly the exception rather than the norm. I've definitely seen far more interracial relationships than inter-qabil. Now, I can't say anything definitive for the diaspora that reside in other countries, so things may be different in those places.

sahal80 wrote: this is bullshit! Im a native samaale and almost lighter than my somali neighbours from these clans! How can they be more arab than me?

Alshabaibe wrote:

sahal80 wrote: this is bullshit! Im a native samaale and almost lighter than my somali neighbours from these clans! How can they be more arab than me?

Don't let anyone kill your spirit.

Alshabaibe wrote:

sahal80 wrote: this is bullshit! Im a native samaale and almost lighter than my somali neighbours from these clans! How can they be more arab than me?

Don't let anyone kill your spirit.

Alshabaibe wrote:

sahal80 wrote: this is bullshit! Im a native samaale and almost lighter than my somali neighbours from these clans! How can they be more arab than me?

Don't let anyone kill your spirit.

FarhanYare wrote:sahal said it well!!. I think inter-clan marriage will only fail as a result of qabileste inlaws, who were right from the bat against it, but not showed it in the beginning. As for the topic, i don't think you can compare interracial marriages to inter-clan only because interracial marriages aren't common within Somalis.

SteadyState wrote:

FarhanYare wrote:sahal said it well!!. I think inter-clan marriage will only fail as a result of qabileste inlaws, who were right from the bat against it, but not showed it in the beginning. As for the topic, i don't think you can compare interracial marriages to inter-clan only because interracial marriages aren't common within Somalis.

Almost all in-laws will be die hard qabilists, so this is a rather moot point. And if you think I'm making this stuff up, just see the amount of Somali fathers who will give their daughter away to some ex-con Jamaican revert who lives off the state (welfare), but would absolutely refuse his daughter marrying an educated and successful farax who's not of the same tribe as him. I'm sure you even know of cases like this yourself, but I'm sure you wouldn't want to mention them since it undermines your agenda.

sahal80 wrote:

SteadyState wrote:

FarhanYare wrote:sahal said it well!!. I think inter-clan marriage will only fail as a result of qabileste inlaws, who were right from the bat against it, but not showed it in the beginning. As for the topic, i don't think you can compare interracial marriages to inter-clan only because interracial marriages aren't common within Somalis.

Almost all in-laws will be die hard qabilists, so this is a rather moot point. And if you think I'm making this stuff up, just see the amount of Somali fathers who will give their daughter away to some ex-con Jamaican revert who lives off the state (welfare), but would absolutely refuse his daughter marrying an educated and successful farax who's not of the same tribe as him. I'm sure you even know of cases like this yourself, but I'm sure you wouldn't want to mention them since it undermines your agenda.

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