Somali Girls with careers

[DisplacedDiraac]

A woman's youth and beauty makes her attractive, while a guy's success and stability makes him more attractive. It isn't fair, but thats how the game is.

Unfortunately that's become quite common. Even though Islam strongly advices men to marry women for their deen not their beauty *the devils workings*.

[Madd_Scientist_]

A woman's beauty is one of the criterias cited for a man to marry a woman.... wealth being one of them....

So sis it's not the devils work....

[Abdi_westldn]

My wife can work from home.

[DisplacedDiraac]

A man should marry a women for her deen!! not her beauty.

When choosing a partner you should choose the one with the most ''taqwa" *piety*. And not by their physical beauty. This is because people are blinded by the physical attraction, and in most cases the marriage doesn't work out because she/he didn't choose the compatible partner. *hope im making sense*

[Abdi_westldn]

A man should marry a women for her deen!! not her beauty.

When choosing a partner you should choose the one with the most ''taqwa" *piety*. And not by their physical beauty. This is because people are blinded by the physical attraction, and in most cases the marriage doesn't work out because she/he didn't choose the compatible partner. *hope im making sense*

You thats really hard tho because theres some sisters who are amazing in Islam but their not soo easy on the eyes...so i cant understand not marrying for physical attraction because how can one even get into the process of sleeping with somebody they arent really feeling like dat?

[DisplacedDiraac]

loooool. Not all religious sisters are *Unpleasant to the eye*. But than again there's plenty of stunning spiritual sisters. Deen makes you more beautiful *gives you an eye catching glow*


Just to back myself up.


WHO TO MARRY

''Islam is clear on the kind of wife you should be seeking. The
Prophet (s.a.w) said: "A woman may be married for four reasons:
for her property, her status, her beauty, and her religion; so
try to get one who is religious, may you be blessed." This
specifically defines just what kind of a companion we are
seeking, for if we marry her for anything other than her
religious piety, our marriage is bound to fall into misery.

True, beauty and charm is hard to resist, yet beauty does not
last forever and does not guarantee you her obedience and
religiousness. Financial status is dynamic, and so is worldly
status, yet religion strongly establishes a household, and it
may be that through your intention of marrying her for her
religion, the rest is given to you anyway. In another hadith,
the Prophet (s.a.w) said: "The whole world is a provision, and
the best object of benefit of the world is the pious woman."
Imagine! Nothing in this world is as valuable as a pious
woman!''

[Abdi_westldn]

Well yes they will have this certain glow to them just can't help being soo damn shallow.

[DisplacedDiraac]

Who's shallow you or them?

If your chatting about them, it could be because they want to marry a imaan or something or because they've been watching too much shallow-hal

[Abdi_westldn]

noo me im shallow.

[Dhers]

A man should marry a women for her deen!! not her beauty.

When choosing a partner you should choose the one with the most ''taqwa" *piety*. And not by their physical beauty. This is because people are blinded by the physical attraction, and in most cases the marriage doesn't work out because she/he didn't choose the compatible partner. *hope im making sense*

You thats really hard tho because theres some sisters who are amazing in Islam but their not soo easy on the eyes...so i cant understand not marrying for physical attraction because how can one even get into the process of sleeping with somebody they arent really feeling like dat?

Asalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabaraktuhu,

You should marry a sister for her lineage, beauty, piety and wealth {as it states in an article posted by sis UponSalafiyyah). Beauty diminishes, yes, but you shouldn't have to marry someone if there is no pyshical attraction there!!

Islam is a diin of finding ease, through hardship, so don't make marriage such a complicated and and hard thing insha'Allah.

[DisplacedDiraac]

[quote="Abdi_westldn"]

noo me im shallow. [/quote]



looooooooooool *how shallow*. What the heck we could all be shallow. But watch shallow-hal over and over again, trust me it'll losen your shallow-ness

[UponSallafiyya]

Asalama Alaikum, mashallah this topic is beneficial indeed in highlighting the importance of marriage.

Sister Madd_Scientist know that if one is able to marry then one must do so in order to safe guard themselves from fitnah.

Also did you know that the modern term 'career' doesn't exist when it comes to Islam.
To put it mildly a woman must stay at home as she is Awra from top till toe.
Now this doesn't mean that she can never come outside..LOL, no it simply means that a woman's place is in the home wherein she is protected.
As for having a career, that is for the Men not the women, as Men are the providers.

I remember when i was doing sociology and even the kuffar admit that a woman who works and at the same time manages her home is stress full and not recommended, i believe they called it 'the double burden' or something like that.

Working outside from your home also includes free-mixing with non-mahram men which is Haram, eventhough you may be covered from top-toe.

Inshallah sister if you have a degree maybe look into more halal ways of making use of it e.g. maybe having a home run business or teaching small children etc you know?

Inshallah when i get married i have no wish to leave my house in order to work outside my home lol that would be so distressful for me, for indeed the quest to gain knowledge of Islam outweighs the quest for this dunya sister.

Inshallah if you look for a good husband based upon the deen He will take care of you and give you life qualities which are impossible to find in having a career.

I hope i haven't offended you sister.

Asalama Alaikum

[Abdi_westldn]

noo me im shallow.

looooooooooool *how shallow*. What the heck we could all be shallow. But watch shallow-hal over and over again, trust me it'll losen your shallow-ness

Erm well for marriage my wife's gotta look like tyra banks or alicia keys. ...noo watchin shallow hal just makes me scared.

[DisplacedDiraac]

Trya? ok than, and i thought you was real shallow.

Im soo shallow i can't even name a celebrity i think is goodlooking .

[Dhers]

Wa Alaykum Salaam Warahmatullahi Wabaraktuhu UponSalafiyyah, unless you plan on doing hijrah (which you've mentioned before) then it's really hard here in the West living on only one income.