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I voted no, because mummy and daddy know best, and every single time I have gone against them it has backfired so Ill not be doing that in a hurry. But if your parents arent as wise as mine, and youve found someone and you happen to be ugly or unnatractive....and then your parents decide to refuse you a partner because of something xaraam like where theyre from...and not who they are in Islam.... Allah always 'wins' in the end, anything xaraam is doomed so do as the diin says, and hopefully your parents will aswell.

WasteMan wrote:if shes marrying a ajnabi then no!

ajnabi as in non muslim or non-somali???

I really dont care for the race.....if he's a good muslim man...then its a

people need to get over this race/qabil bulshiit....its not worth it......

Most parents I would say come around eventually.....they need their daughter/son just as much as their children need them.....

Shirib wrote:Marriage without parents approval is doomed to fail

far kaa sii waweyn ugu sii qorr naagahaan somalida kama dhadhacsane eeh

[quote="Enlightened~Sista"]i dont want to get into any detail..[/quote]

What was your point of asking the question if u'r not saying why your parents are saying no to it?

Tell us why ee udiiden! ma nin maskiin ba? ma qabiil dardis ba mase waa nin sarqaan??

I wish people would stop doing this.

Doing what?

Enlightened-Sista,

One of my friend's is going through exactly the same situation. They won't let her marry the guy just because he is from a different village. Who cares what village he is from? It's totally ridiculous. If he has good Islamic morals, and holds down a decent job - that's all that should matter. Tell your sister to hang in there, tell her to make Istakhiraah prayer - marriage is an important aspect of life - and it's good to consult Allah (swt) in the decision making process. She should keep making Dua - and Allah (swt) will guide her to what is good for her, and she should accept it even if it means she can't marry this potential partner. I hope it works out for her in the end, Insha-Allah. Remember Allah (swt) says there may be a thing which is bad for us, and we think it's good, and something that's good for us, and we think it's bad. But only Allah (swt) knows what's Best for us.

No, parents approval is a must....In fact I would want my siblings approval also.

I can convice my parents to do anything i want.It all depends on what u do and say darling. also u have to be beautiful, statistically beautiful people can get away with a lot of things that average looking or ugly people would not get away with!

Firefly wrote:Enlightened-Sista,

One of my friend's is going through exactly the same situation. They won't let her marry the guy just because he is from a different village. Who cares what village he is from? It's totally ridiculous. If he has good Islamic morals, and holds down a decent job - that's all that should matter. Tell your sister to hang in there, tell her to make Istakhiraah prayer - marriage is an important aspect of life - and it's good to consult Allah (swt) in the decision making process. She should keep making Dua - and Allah (swt) will guide her to what is good for her, and she should accept it even if it means she can't marry this potential partner. I hope it works out for her in the end, Insha-Allah. Remember Allah (swt) says there may be a thing which is bad for us, and we think it's good, and something that's good for us, and we think it's bad. But only Allah (swt) knows what's Best for us.

village could be all the difference in this case

Cisse Westlake wrote:

Firefly wrote:Enlightened-Sista,

One of my friend's is going through exactly the same situation. They won't let her marry the guy just because he is from a different village. Who cares what village he is from? It's totally ridiculous. If he has good Islamic morals, and holds down a decent job - that's all that should matter. Tell your sister to hang in there, tell her to make Istakhiraah prayer - marriage is an important aspect of life - and it's good to consult Allah (swt) in the decision making process. She should keep making Dua - and Allah (swt) will guide her to what is good for her, and she should accept it even if it means she can't marry this potential partner. I hope it works out for her in the end, Insha-Allah. Remember Allah (swt) says there may be a thing which is bad for us, and we think it's good, and something that's good for us, and we think it's bad. But only Allah (swt) knows what's Best for us.

village could be all the difference in this case

I doubt that very much. There are far more pressing things to worry about than the village he happened to reside in/ come from.

No.

Enlightened Sista, played a bad joke on all of y'll. See this scenario almost certainly isn't something that her sister is going through or anyone else for that matter. She just wants to know what the largest part of you qaxooti's would do in a circumstance like this one.

Why would any of you would give reply to such parched question without knowing the reason why her parents object this marriage?

hyperactive wrote:every parents even the bad ones
want better life for their kids
and of course what they think is good for their kids.
communication is the key.
talk, discuss and listen parents point of view
put your self on their shoes.
be truthful to your self
then listen to your thameer.
there is a little voice in us
mostly we are very load that we don't heart it.
go to quite place and listen to it.
normally that voice is right.
finally think if all this worth it.
im a man and i tell you no man deserves to sacrifice your parents.
and i consider my self best of out there.lol

Well said!

No man is worth it ya ukhti....bari ka maalin marku banaanka oo soo tuuriyey ayey ka shalayn doonta walle......

1nemansquad wrote:Enlightened Sista, played a bad joke on all of y'll. See this scenario almost certainly isn't something that her sister is going through or anyone else for that matter. She just wants to know what the largest part of you qaxooti's would do in a circumstance like this one.

Why would any of you would give reply to such parched question without knowing the reason why her parents object this marriage?

Do you have a crystal ball?? If you have nothing to contribute walaal you can go thataway

Thanks to all the positive intelligent contributions..i found some of the advise a bit hard to swallow...our parents are not always right and no we dont have to obey them unconditionally..but many thanks again for your contributions.

JazakAllah.