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military-mind wrote:a 25+ year old single woman will always hate on a 18year old girl that wants to get married.. Somaha Helwaa
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Paddington Bear wrote:
I was presenting you with the worst-case scenario there. It is, of course, possible that a girl would marry at eighteen and not have any children for the next five years (or maybe have one or two). The point being, she is not going to remain eighteen for ever. Experience teaches responsibility. The first few months of marriage are (usually) all about mad intercourse and takeaway food (you say she can’t dial the pizza number?). All the responsibilities of marriage come at your gradually (just like the story above with one child then another then another, etc).
An 18-year-old boy or girl can certainly cope with marriage in my opinion. There really is nothing to it.
P.S.
Digaagad ha ka dhigin. Choose a sexier animal.
PB
when you get hitched so young and never had the time to have fun..(when i say fun i dont mean sleeping around) You become adult so fast.10yrs later you wake up one day and realize...ah inaalilaah who am i? ... ...when you reach that stage you become crazy and do everything you would have done in ur teens.This happend to many pple who got married at young age both males and females.........WAALIDA INAAD SO DHAMAYSATID WAYAAN MARKAAD YAR TAHAY.
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wax kasta waa qoraal iyo calaf laakin like Ms.Erudite said the hardest part is to staying married.May Allah bless somali women...some of them put up with ass holes and abusers...ilaahy ha sahlo.
staying married with somebody you are happy with shouldn't be a problem , laakinse unfortunately for some xalimo's they are not lucky to end up with the 1's they were destined for.
wax kasta waa qoraal iyo calaf laakin like Ms.Erudite said the hardest part is to staying married.May Allah bless somali women...some of them put up with ass holes and abusers...ilaahy ha sahlo.
staying married with somebody you are happy with shouldn't be a problem , laakinse unfortunately for some xalimo's they are not lucky to end up with the 1's they were destined for.
yup.
walal wa siida laakinse Xalimo's should expect too much Luck.
suga_delic wrote:does age bover u?
Halimoz r told 2 marry as soon as shes 20 nw a days otherwise she will b gumays.
Bt wiv u guys does it bover u still single? Cz u 2 nid a wife at hme. Life patner n r u guys nt scared of zina? cz is nt onli wmen dat cn fall into dat sin.
Wot u guys say 2 dis?
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Kambuuli,
Walaal haa qiimuhu mid ku eryaya maahee imisaad haysaa waynu iska heshiiniye? BTW,me no XOOLO! I'm one of those luxury items that goes on sale every now than. Take advantage of it
Paddington Bear wrote:
What responsibilty? All she has to do is wash a couple of dishes and ensure that she feeds her man edible non-poisonous food. If her man happens to be one that fires live rounds, she will still have nine months to go before giving birth to her first child (by which time she'll be 19). If her man happens to be the kind that hits the bullseye everytime, she'll still have another nine months (plus the time she was recovering from the first child) before giving birth to the second (by which time she'll be 20/21). If her man happens to be the type that always gets three lemons on the fruit machines, she'll still have another nine months (plus the recovery time from the second child) before giving birth to the third (by which time she'll be 22/23). Now if she's married to an insatiable monstor that goes on to hit her for four, five and six I am sure we can all agree that she'll know all she needed to know about responsibility by then.
Aren't u the fella who coined, "Get them young, raise them right ?"
I still stand by that. I shall not try to persuade you becuase I'll only be preaching to the converted. But HELWA needs a lecture. Here we go...
Our young ones are presented with a difficult situation in an impossible environment. Many are strong enough to fight the unrelenting itch but many more can’t or don’t want to. Now, whilst they’re eighteen, nineteen or twenty, their gullible little minds (the condescension is fully intended here) can make them think that they know it all and they may believe they have an answer to all the problems they face (with the answer being: have fun, fun and more fun). But, as they grow older, as the wacky friends abandon them, as the nights start to feel longer and the days seem meaningless they will look back on the conquests of the past and wonder if they should have given that short, buck toothed boy who tried to molest them behind the bike shed a chance. Or maybe that cheerful but extremely obese girl that used to phone them all the time. Or maybe the net café owner that would always offer them free minutes! They could have married any of these; they could have given them a chance.
Now that we are an established community in the West we need to change the rules of courtship for the young ones. It is not that I am saying they are stupid; it is more to do with the obvious void in their upbringing. So, if their Western peers can have boyfriends/girlfriends at thirteen and fourteen, I suggest our ones get married off at eighteen. After all, it is practically the same thing and it presents them with no moral dilemmas when they’re relieving that merciless craving.
Myself, Abdulwahab and a few others of the old ones have already made the sacrifices and were the first to throw ourselves into the heart of battle. But will these young ones know of the demons that haunted us as we chatted one girl, kissed another and went steady with a third? Do they realise the anguish, pain and confusion we suffered as we ploughed our way through countless beauties from countless nationalities and faiths? It was fun at the time because, like them now, we were young and inexperienced. Yet, now, with old age and endless battle scars (I hear Abdulwahab’s scar comes in the shape of a fifteen year old boy called Tyrone), with reflection and the aid of a wisdom acquired in over two decades of endless hanky panky, we realise and know that ours was not the right way. Luckily for us, no mental scars remain. We had the right preparation and upbringing. We experienced an African life that allowed us to view the privileged problems of today’s young ones as nothing but simple niggles. But what of today’s youth? How could they cope with the guilt of kissing a girl when such guilt is (probably) the biggest problem they’ve ever encountered in their short lives? You see, when Abdulwahab was faced with such a dilemma at a similar age, all he had to do was remember the time he stole that ring from the hands of the corpse he saw outside his house or the time he tested if his aim was true as he practiced on some fleeing Puntlanders. Do the Ka Darag’s and Macaany’s of this world have similar reserves? Or will they cry themselves to sleep every time they show a questioning boy the label in their bra proving that the tissue stuffed thing does indeed say 36D?
Marry them all off I say. Introduce a culture whereby everyone starts to believe you are past it if you’re still single at eighteen. Save the children.
You don't purchase anything simply because it is on sale You have to check if it has the quality you are looking for So the question at hand is not how much I have but how much you worth
*Nobleman* wrote:Not sure if i understood fully. But fear of finance and responsibilty of marriage outweigh threat of commiting zina. Boys should try and also get married young cos the ages between 17-25 can be very challenging in terms of resisting sin.
nw i knw y sex b4 marriage is high in the somali community.
At this point of life I am attracted to older women, I dont know why but the problem is their a social stigma with it in our community, majority Xaliimos will not go for a younger dude because of what some would say and other social constrains. I always admired my eedo who went toe to toe with her clan, family and friends because she got a herself a guy half her age and to this day everything worked out for the best
iisoo duceeya, I get one who's at least 8 years my senior
Advo wrote:At this point of life I am attracted to older women, I dont know why but the problem is their a social stigma with it in our community, majority Xaliimos will not go for a younger dude because of what some would say and other social constrains. I always admired my eedo who went toe to toe with her clan, family and friends because she got a herself a guy half her age and to this day everything worked out for the best
iisoo duceeya, I get one who's at least 8 years my senior
Advo, single mothers rule, they're mature, wont be financially dependent on you, have their own place and they wont be too fussy about your looks and stuff. Go for it.
You become adult so fast.10yrs later you wake up one day and realize...ah inaalilaah who am i? ... 
...when you reach that stage you become crazy and do everything you would have done in ur teens.This happend to many pple who got married at young age both males and females.........WAALIDA INAAD SO DHAMAYSATID WAYAAN MARKAAD YAR TAHAY. 
