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BlackVelvet wrote:

Addoow wrote:

Basra- wrote:I want to marry an abgaal so that i can cause an uproar.

So,who is the unlucky guy?

You know you're the one she was talking about innit

gedo_gurl wrote:What a bunch of liars...no-one is leaving anyone...just tell the truth, you would make him suffer for a while, but leaving him on the spot is unrealistic and a fairytale land scenario. There is no way Im wasting the money and effort I spent on wedding parties, new house etc just because he acted like an imbecile for a minute. And to be fair, all of you women more often than not see your qabiil as better than his, you were just clever enough not to make such out bursts.

Basra- wrote:BV

Addoow has had a crush on me since 1998 as gamadid. The man is relentless and charming i have to admit. But seriously, u guys -----STOP talking about me when i am not here. Akhaas!

gedo_gurl wrote:What a bunch of liars...no-one is leaving anyone...just tell the truth, you would make him suffer for a while, but leaving him on the spot is unrealistic and a fairytale land scenario. There is no way Im wasting the money and effort I spent on wedding parties, new house etc just because he acted like an imbecile for a minute. And to be fair, all of you women more often than not see your qabiil as better than his, you were just clever enough not to make such out bursts.

surrender wrote:in the first place i would not marry someone thats not from my qabiil. heck ill marry a white before that. no offence. but say i did, and this happened. what would my response be... let me think....


hmmm....


i would tell him aabahaa iyo hooyada iyo tiikudhashayba wase, waraaq dayda iidhig and close the door behind. nacalatulaah calayk.

BlackVelvet wrote:He was not an caaq when you were marrying him obviously.

BlackVelvet wrote:Hypothetically speaking, imagine you were married to a man from a qabiil that traditionally does not get along with yours. Things go well despite this because qabiil has never been a part of your life in the first place. Now, one day when you're sitting together he gets a phone call and he seems pretty disturbed by the news he just received. Dude is shouting and cussing getting more upset my the minute. Saying things like "Maya maya, we can't let this happen, saas madhici karto..." By the time he's hung up, he's talking to himself seemingly in shock. You ask then what's wrong and he tells you. "My niece heblayo mexeey rabtaa in ey guursato nin oo qabiil X ah" Then you say, why are you so upset about that? He looks at you in shock and goes "ma gabar oo cidaheyna aa gursaneyso nin qolohaas katirsan, ma nin kale mey weysey? Uff akkhhh..." blah blah blah he goes on and on and on. Now you are sitting there wondering at which point he forgot that you yourself are qabiil X...

This man is still cussing, then all of a sudden he stops as though he just remembered something, then he slowly turns to look at you.

You...(insert your responce)

Dhaga Bacayl wrote:

It just doesn’t add up.
You can’t diss your in lows and say they’re beneath you. That is simply unsomali in our culture.
If this guy does, which I highly DOUBT, where did he get the confidence to do it in front of you?

I don’t believe the story. If they were good enough for him why not for his niece? That is the question.!!!!

BlackVelvet wrote:

Dhaga Bacayl wrote:

It just doesn’t add up.
You can’t diss your in lows and say they’re beneath you. That is simply unsomali in our culture.
If this guy does, which I highly DOUBT, where did he get the confidence to do it in front of you?

I don’t believe the story. If they were good enough for him why not for his niece? That is the question.!!!!

It's hypothetical but something like this did happen to a friend of an aunt and she did divorce him. I guess she was asking herself the same question.